All of us struggle with something. How do I know? Because we are all human and all still alive. There is a unity in our struggle, that which unites us. Would be beautiful if love is what united us and someday it will be but for now, we share the commonality of struggle. Sure some will take offense and say they have no struggle. I laugh and say either that is your struggle (denial) or you’re about to. No one is any better than anyone else. Just some of us are forgiven by God because we humbly asked Him to so are more equipped to handle the struggle ands learn the lesson faster. So let’s encourage and support and pray for each other for we are the same. And God will help us. Together. United we stand.
As a family project, we put up a shed and a fence and started a sidewalk (still working on that one). As many of my regular readers know, we homeschool our kids. And we took off a week of “regular” schooling to do these family projects of shed and fence. And we planned and measured and mixed and leveled and built and so on all together as a team/ a family. It was an amazing experience and I thought how wonderful it was for all of us to learn together and create and build. My kids learned so much more than a book can teach and they need to feel useful and nd learn these skills. So for your next family project, even if you keep it simple like changing a light bulb or fixing a leaky sink (we also had to do), involve your kids and show them how. You want them calling you to their home in the future at 3pm to bail them out? No way, you want them to be able to plan and think and do it themselves. This is how they learn. Plus it unites the family and brings a greater value to each member and the family team as a whole. 🙂
Love is a whole, a unity, a common purpose for the benefit of everyone and for God. That sounds utopian or cheesy but it is true. How do I know? Because God is love and He is whole, united, purposeful and beneficial. Love is also good. So it is good to be whole, united, purposeful and beneficial for everyone and God. And this is always true, so it is true for countries, marriages, relationships, communities, churches. So what divides? Well, anything, even things that look good, that diminishes the importance of destroys the unity, whole, purpose, benefit for everyone and God. Pretty basic and simple, I think. Who would want to divide? Someone who pridefully wants their benefit to outshine everyone’s benefit is one. Distractions of entertainment or tech or social media or gossip or other distractions that draw you from the purpose and unity. The enemy of love or God is another. People who glorify their ideas above truth, whether because of mental problems or their own philosophies’ importance to them. The thing is truth is truth. And because love is good and whole and united and purposeful and beneficial to everyone for God, these thing provide what love provides, which is peace and joy and hope and self control and gentleness and faithfulness. It is beautiful when it works well. Thing that can divide marriages are lies, prideful self gratifications separate from your spouse, disrespect by treating yourself as more important than the feelings of your spouse, or arguments about money or raising children, etc. Things that can divide church are lies, marital division, denominations, gossip, traditions, dogma, false accusations, disagreements and personality clashes, or distractions, etc. Things that can divide countries are lies, separate government parties, misrepresentation, damaging media (more lies), false accusations, injustice, glorification of hate and evil, church division, marital division, etc. So there is a lot of work the enemy is putting in to dividing our marriages/families, church and country. But as damaging and successful as it seems that is, the cure is actually much much much stronger. Love is the answer. Being good and loving to each other is the start. Being united and whole and purposeful and beneficial to each other for God is the outcome. Overcome evil with the much stronger force of good. God, the most powerful and smart and loving force in the entire universe is on the side of good, love, unity, purpose. Choose to be good and kind and respectful in every relationship of your life, starting with your spouse then children then church then country. It is a choice. It is worth every effort you put into it. We cannot change anyone but we can change ourselves. We can love! Everything starts there.
Our world is changing so very much. I looked at my blog readers and realize that it consists of thousands of people all over the world and not just my American homeland. And I thought about how beautiful it is that though distance divides a little bit, words through technology bind and shrink those distances to I comprehension and for a moment of reading, we are in the same room sharing ideas. That is so very beautiful. I am amazed that we who love God or are searching sometimes for Him in the midst of current abuses of power and ugliness of the selfishness, we feel communion and solidarity with those who share that purity and pursuit of living better than we are seeing. And there is tremendous beauty and intense importance in the coming together and encouraging each other that this world is not the end game, that heaven is. And we share struggles and pray for each other and fine hole and joy and peace together in our common God. I have never considered myself anything but God’s little girl and I so love sharing words and ideas and encouragement and hope and joy and peace with others of God’s amazing design. So let us continue to encourage each other and stay strong together, knowing our God loves us, His children and gives us what we need when we humbly ask Him. That is the most beautiful thing ever. I love you!
Some bad things, many bad things, that happen in life, like a Loved one walking out of your life or an accident or a loss of a pet or the harm of a child or cancer, or being persecuted or teased, whatever it may be happen in life that can either unite or divide. These experiences are opportunities or excuses to separate from people OR bind to them. Which way that goes depends on the character of those involved, depth of pain, deep desires, emotional involvement, goals, ambitions and energy level. And there is an enormous additional influence for those of us guided by God. You see, God is a binder. He likes us connected to other people because He knows we are better together, we need arms. So He can use (if allowed) turn bad things into good glue. Those left together after said bad thing can (if cooperative) help each other and grow closer together. I have in my clinic and life seen bad thing also sponsor ruin and division and divorce and even death. But this does not have to be the case. What is the difference? God. He is the difference. He heals and binds and loves and provides when asked humbly. The key is God.
I am a doctor of audiology. I wanted to be a physician. I studied medicine, have a degree in premed, learned a lot in four years at a notable hospital, studied much about herbs, medicines and homeopathic remedies. It is safe to say that healing people and helping them has been a focus of most of my life. I became a doctor of audiology because my first husband didn’t want to have the enormous student loans that medical school requires so I have semi ridiculous student loans to be a doctor of audiology, the doctorate taking 5 years post bachelor of science degree. Nonetheless, I helped people hear and balance better for 14 years. And I incorporated my knowledge to make my patients’ lives better or at least pointed in the right direction. A fountain for healing, a flowing river of health from me to my patients has always been a vision of beauty in my mind. And I have faith, the faith that truly believes God heals, believes God provides us the means to heal ourselves sometimes, believes the Bible- every word of it- is true, believes I can do anything God leads me to do. I have faith. Faith promotes healing. Faith believes though no evidence in the physical is present. Faith believes without seeing the results but trusting that they are there nonetheless. Healing happens most often to those whose faith is high and pride is low. My main job as a healer is to remind people of that and guide them along that journey to freedom from illness. Sounds spiritual, doesn’t it? Hard to conceptualize for most. This is how my mind works. This is normal to me. The physical is a result of the spiritual to me, a big picture person. It is much harder for me to grasp the tedious details and sort them out. Such a challenge there. But the road to healing is absolutely stamped with love. Love (because God is Love) is the greatest force on the planet or universe. Love lifts and encourages. Love demonstrates passion for life, joy, beauty and peace. Love is the core of healing, the fastest way to health. Love is a reason as much as a determination as much as a fact in truth. Love generates healing faith and hope and runs right over skepticism and lies. Love wraps warm hands and arms around, kisses the worthy spots, massages the tired areas, runs a warm bubble bath for relaxation and keeps company all the while. Love heals and promotes healing at a much higher success rate and much much faster than those without access to such love. Love overshadows doubt with belief and casts out darkness by providing light. The sunshine always glows beautifully under its rays and love is always the glue that binds the union and rectifies doubt and disintigrates mistrust so healing can take place. Love is the answer to every problem. It is everywhere you are willing to put an effort in and direct its course for vitality and strength. Love holds and heals the ill or hurting or stressed or weary or grieving souls respectfully but honestly compromising nothing and apologizing for nothing as it works.There is nothing Love cannot do. Not. One. Thing. Love has already won every battle and needs only the embrace to be your champion or champion of anyone feeling the least bit poorly. Love is perfectly capable of taking care of the lover and the loved.
Our experiences in life dictate the assumptions we hold about when something similar occurs to us. Some of these assumptions can protect us from something bad happening again. Some of these same assumptions can hinder us from taking new chances which may benefit us. Either way, assumptions are difficult to evade, even to the open minded. It is a part of reality you have to deal with and respect and understand when joining families or lives or in relationships with anyone. We all make assumptions intrinsically. Not pretty sometimes but there it is. The very best way to avoid the repercussions of an irrelevant-to-now assumption your mind built from your past negative experiences and keep it from harming a new relationship is to talk openly and honestly about it. This is also a bit scary because you open yourself up to be validated in the assumption which can change a lot of things. However, if the chance is not taken to open up that line of communication and correct the assumption into a workable reality, growth does not happen. Relationships do not strengthen sometimes because the communication is not there and then damage is done and the repercussion may be a lack of unity or just lack of growth in intimacy or at worst a decrease in the trust or relationship. It is a difficult thing either way, which is why sometimes second or third marriages are increasingly shorter in length. It is difficult to have a history of hardship and keeping that from forming close bonds is easy when patterns of miscommunication are repeated. It is my wish in life to remain open. This is a challenge but one that is easily overcome by knowing these things and both choosing to communicate openly and honestly with each other. Truth counters all lies and misconceptions based on assumptions are lies accepted as truths. So truth exposes the, well, the truth of the matter and allows relationships to grow and deepen in merit and last. If a pattern of truthful communication and openness continues, the relationship will continue and deepen and gain meaning and strength and new good assumptions will replace harmful ones. Assuming someone will love you no matter what and assuming the truth will be told to you is a pretty great habit for those in relationships to utilize. Communication brings hope. Hope brings renewed life and redeems your mind.