So, yesterday when we woke up, we had plans. Instead of those, we get a water stain on the ceiling and have to climb up in the hot, Florida attic to investigate and bring down all the Christmas decorations to see better, discovering the AC guys who were here doctoring our dying air handler screwed up and now we have to replace drywall and the air handler now. Yippee. I also had to shop vac the drains and air handler catch basin, full of sludge and rusty goo. Then we had to retape the roof gutter filters that had the tape had fallen off of. Then I had to water the garden and flowers because we are in a dry spell and it is hot as molasses and the plants were starting to suffer. Then we met the kids’ friends at the skating rink and my skates were not delivered before we left as the tracking indicated so I could not skate. And it was one thing after another. I did dishes, was yelled at, and worked though my husband’s frustration and anger issues, so I am in charge of much of running the entire household sometimes.
The day left me tired but unmoved. I found time to pray and read my Bible, I did my job. Whatever came up, I was thankful And handled it. I did it. How? God helped me. When we do what He asks, He answers prayer and helps. I do not live by my strength, expecting an easy ride, demanding my rights, even if they are wrongfully kept from me. I freely operate my right to be above it all, seated already in the heavenlies as the Bible says we are when we are saved by Jesus Christ. I am always free to pray, always free to love and use the fruits of God’s Spirit, always free to obey humbly and do the right thing. He is faithful and worthy! Praise God!❤
I would say humbly that I am like a Grizzly bear in many ways. I am smart, strong, resilient, will destroy anyone who messes with my kids, cuddly looking but maintains a distance, so on. This is humble knowing who I am, not bragging.
I watched a documentary on wolves taking down a grizzly. They were no match individually but together ganged up and kept at it little bit by little bit.
This is what I think is going on here in my life and many other Christians I know and know of. Those of us in close loving relationship with Jesus Christ know full well that nothing on this planet is too hard for us with God’s help. So the enemy does not boldly come against us. Oh no, he is a coward as all bullies are, and worse a coward that is already defeated. So instead of straight on, we get ganged up on and nipped at by this distraction or this little attack on a close friend, this attack on a family member, this task to do, this mission to take on, this person to care for, this spousal attack, this extra work at your job, etc. Until you are worn out to the point of ineffectiveness.
And now that I realized the game, with the power of the Holy Spirit, I can start getting out of it. I can say no to this, give that burden to God to carry, pray about then leave this situation, read more of the Word, sing and play worship songs until I am effective for Christ. Yes, we are called to act, but we also must encourage others to pick up their slack too so one person isn’t doing all the work. That was never God’s plan or will for us. God bless us everyone.❤
So, sometimes we need help. I asked a sister in Christ for help today. I generally just ask God for help. Today I was led to ask a sister in Christ for advice and received an encouraging true answer back in response. And it turns out my prayer has been ineffectual because I have been praying the wrong prayer. I thought it was one thing and it was something else. (I hate to be vague, but it is very personal but still want to share the praise.) In addition, she gave me great advice and actions to take aling with my prayer and fasting prayers. So I am over the top encouraged and am up for the long haul of a new prayer and action plan. And this is why we have a kingdom/church of heaven and not just individuals. Sometimes we need each other. Everyone has different gifts. And praise God for obedience in us and contrite hearts in us so we may do what He designed us to do and help each other out. Praise God Almighty!!! His design is perfect!!!😄❤❤❤
When someone says “I’m fine”, I know only one thing for certain… they are not fine. When someone is doing ok or well or great, they say so with those words. “Fine” is never fine. It is one of those polite words that has come to mean “I am very insecure/worries/stressed/ill/lonely/abandoned/neglected/angry right now and don’t really have a handle on it but I will say ‘fine’ to be left alone because I don’t want to talk about it and it is just being nice to say that”. If you ever want to test that, ask “Are you sure you are fine?” and look at the reaponse. If the response is emotional in any way, ya got your proof.
What do we do with “fine”? I have a teenage son now who is often “fine” and that is usually some freakish hormonal response of hanger or disappointment or injustice at some perceived fairness violation. And I probe as a good nosy mom and get an emotional response. So, obviously they want to not be “fine” but are too emotional in thr moment to deal with it objectively at that moment. So what do you do? How can we help?
I say now, “I love you and am here to talk whenever you want to.” And when the “fine” is adamant, I pray with him. This changes the perspective rather quickly and allows him to release enough stress to put it in proper perspective or talk about it or maybe even be fine after all. But a humble caring on their terms is invaluable. Generally, “I’m fine” responses are from a position of pride- false pride or selfishness- and humbleness is the cure, which is always true. And when faced with humble love, the pride cracks and the person has a chance at sharing. Then we can stay humble and help or pray with them or just listen. At least they will know we love them.❤
Laying down your burdens to the Lord requires the first step of laying down your pride and tight grip on these burdens. We fixate on the problems and thus they grow while our faith hangs put on the sidelines and shadows waiting its use. We need to humble our heart and visualize placing our problems/burdens at the foot of Jesus who can actually help and grab our faith up and then let go of those burdens. Then focus on God who just helped you yet again and thank Him for it. Ponder His amazing ability to handle every problem in the world simultaneously. Really try to n wrap your head around that and then be thankful that such a powerful God delicately made you and sustains you because of His enormous, unfathomable love for you.❤❤❤
My best friend Shawny (I miss her!) and I used to encourage each other in truth and talent and help and praise. It was awesome. We both needed it, having somewhat particular (in her case) and critical (in my case) parents. So we met that need for encouragement for each other growing up. Perfect, right? Well, we ended up in other parts of the country and we don’t get that all the time. So when I hear encouraging morsels from the Bible, good books, blogs, audience members, church family members, band family members, etc., it is invaluably emcouraging. Validation is encouraging, not to hear how great I am doing or be puffed up like a peacock, but to know I am on the right track and helped someone or encouraged them. So never be afraid to encourage in truth someone. It is not about their ego but may just give them a burst of light in their day and help them know if they are doing ok. Feedback is important and precious. Intelligent people actually want to get/do better. Love them that way, it’s good.❤
Today, my family worked as a team and helped my Great Aunts Evelyne and Ellen with washing windows and changing out switches and fixing a lamp they could not do on their own. And we had a great time and felt so fulfilled to do so. Serving is its own reward and it is just beautiful and feels so good to help someone else who needs it. Something easy for us helped someone else and made their day brighter and they felt loved on. How precious is that. See for yourself and help someone else who needs it for their sake or God’s and expecting nothing in return. So precious and meaningful!!! Great day!😄❤