I am reminded that my husband has very good moments, mostly generous ones, and replacing my mom’s computer is one of them. We are delivering it today. Hers was on its last of its prehistoric legs and her printer had jumped ship, anticipating its demise. He may struggle sometimes to treat me without contempt, and yet sometimes he borders on generosity and almost kindness, but today he gets to shine for helping my mom. It means so much to her because she is a writer. She is actually on chapter 8 of a new book as we speak. So, he will be blessing her this morning and we will go watch her be blessed. How beautiful it is to be generous with someone who needs it. It is a really beautiful thing. And what a blessing it is to give instead of getting. It feels so good, even if I am only watching this time!❤
I understand that God can do anything and does not need our help. But He allows us to help in being His hands and serving and hugging people and it blesses everyone when we do that.
I used to crave Jesus’ arms around me, wanted to feel His hug because I have an enormous lack of hugs, historically. And God sent me my daughter, the hugging queen. She could just hug people all day and feel like the world is a perfect place and all is well. So instead of coming down from heaven and breaking His prophecy early and hugging me, he gave me a daughter to hug me any and every time I ever want. So she was being His hands.
And today, I am going to my mom’s to clean her bathrooms. Yes, not high on my wish list of enjoyable moments, but she cannot do it anymore and I can “help” Jesus do this for her. And that is very satisfying. Gross, but worth every bit to help everyone.
And this is how we can practically bless and help everyone. God honors such obedience.❤
Pornography is not innocent fun. It hurts relationships and here is how, from a Christian wife’s perspective.
1. Trust is blown. The adulterer (person engaging in porn) has committed an adultery against his/her spouse. This has been done against the spouse’s back most of the time and been lied about. This tears down a trust wall pretty quickly.
2. It makes the spouse look bad/be easily disrespected because the spouse engaging in porn is viewed by the spouse as a self-control-less dog, some animal that can’t even control the sexual urges enough to keep sex between them only.
3. The spouse engaging in porn is dishonoring his/her spouse but the implied message that he/she is not enough to satisfy them, not airbrushed and misproportioned like those viewed, not unnatural enough, not good enough, not worth honoring with faithfulness.
4. The spouse engaging in porn develops a perverted and incorrect view of sex and becomes more and more difficult to make love (big difference) to their spouse. The plastic bimbos for hire are sex slaves and intimacy suffers enormously with the spouse who is not a sex slave but was designed to be so much more.
5. God is dishonored. This is the most important problem with porn. God is dishonored because you are saying by engaging in porn that what He says is irrelevant and unimportant and that disobedience and disrespect cannot help but separate you from a joyful prayer life and close relationship with God and if not repented from can cost you much more in eternity.
There are other reasons porn is sin and horrible for relationships, but these are the main ones I have found to be true and why couples should seek help if engaging in porn has become a habit (addiction illness) or if it has created a rift in the relationship. And God is only ever a humble prayer away to help also. ❤
So, a few good things happened today. I bleached then washed and scrubbed the windows and will re-caulk them once they have dried. Cracks have developed and one coat is not enough in Florida, folks. Also, we are insulating our electrical outlets that are on outside walls. We are insulating thr sliding patio doors and adding a new threshold to our front door and complete the replacement of our lights to LEDs. And whenever they get around to it, the installers will be here of a new solar turbo attic fan to reduce the power use and strain of the air conditioner to work. All these things are paying for themselves in no time at all and will complete our home to an energy efficient one. And that to me is the grace of God at work. He provides blessings to lift n our burdens- spiritual first and then that trickles down to financial and physical. And I want you to know that God provides what we need when we need it if we stay close to Him and stay humble. He truly rewards the pure in heart with the greatest rewards. I would be ok with heaven sometimes, an eternity with Him. But His grace and provision do not ever stop, know no bounds. He keeps loving, keeps giving, keeps blessing, keeps forgiving, keeps improving us. Wish everyone could see it, wish everyone could be filled with humility and draw close to Jesus and see it all. It is beautiful! Oh how I love Him.❤
There was a time I was seriously considering separation. It was because I was raw with depression from the death of my daddy and two close friends. And my husband was being terribly unkind to my son. I did not have the cognitive wherewithal to deal with this predicament and I almost separated for the sake of what was left of my sanity and my son’s mental and emotional health. And that was years ago but I had enough grace from God to stay and wisdom and energy as a gift from God enough to have some pretty heavy but gentle conversations. And I can tell you today, years later, that I am so very glad God intervened and we stuck it out. Now, my husband is good and even supportive of my son and my depression has subsided and we are a healthy family and team again. And I wanted to share this story with you so you know that prayer works and God heals and works in our lives out of love. And also wanted to remind you that God designed the family and supports His design and hates disunity and loves healing. So do not give up. Never give up. Pray and talk it out and work on it. There is always hope and healing. God is active in healing marriages, and all it takes is prayer and some humility. ❤
Why do we revisit the past in our minds we thought we long let go of?
Why do we want to do one thing and then fight ourselves about it?
I believe the answer is not simple and is simple. The simple part is a lack of focus on God. The less than simple part is it is easier for us to be in the physical than the spiritual. We wrestle the physical world while wrestling the spiritual one. We are constantly doing this and it is not always easy if we are tired or run down or not spiritually fit or praying. Our selfish peaks through. We see grass as greener elsewhere and find out it is a swamp in reality and damage is done. We give in to the enemy constantly bombarding us with attacks. We battle, battle, battle all the past and the present while trying to focus on the future with God. It is complex and ambitious. In fact, for me it is overwhelming sometimes, but I am learning to keep in the Word and pray and humble myself before the Lord and tell Him about it and ask for help. And when I do that, He gives me what I need for that moment. He loves me, you see, and is big enough to help. So, I guess all the complexity is me trying to do it all on my own and the simplicity is that God really can do it all and will help when I humbly ask Him to. Praise God!❤