“Weak leaders lead through power. Good leaders lead through empowerment,”~ Pastor Mark Bedwell
We went to a gig tonight. It was at Old Town in Kissimmee. My husband (on guitar) and our lead singer filled in for a band we used to play with. In fact, we met in his band and married a few years later. But we network because any time a musician can express themselves with their craft, especially with other craftsmen to express themselves, we do that.
So, I was in charge of the GoPro and snapped a few pics. Strange going to a gig and not playing keys or singing. So, I ran a little sound and got some video feed and then had some time to kill.
So, my kids and I danced. I got to dance a lot. The band was really good, great songs and played really well and balanced. It was a rocking night.
So, this guy asked me to dance, maybe felt bad that I was dancing alone. And he taught me to Cha-Cha. I had never danced with a guy who led and I followed. And I had never danced the Cha-Cha with a guy leading me. Except that one time in college with the Spanish couple across the hall from my apartment in college and they had that party and insisted I come. But that was like 20 years ago.
Anyway, I learned something new tonight and it was so fun. I appreciated my hubby’s skill on thr guitar. I appreciated the leads. I loved hearing. When you play, you don’t hear the results the way the audience does. You feel it more than hearnit really, it is a combo thing. It is really cool to hear the finished product.
So we got home exhausted and very late and I drank about a gallon of water. But I am so very thankful to have learned a new dance or just even to follow a guy’s lead in a dance. And it is so easy to follow a good leader.
This reminds me that a good, confident, strong leader is easy to follow. When not good, confident or strong, a leader is difficult to follow. You don’t know what the expectations are, especially when it is something new. So if you are leading, be clear, be concise, be confident, be easy to follow. Because when that happens, it is fun and beautiful and you remove the stress and tension of it.❤
Today, I taught my Kids’ church why we celebrate Independence Day. They had no idea. These kids were kindergarten through 5th grade and not one of them knew except my kids. And are they smarter than the other kids? Probably not, but they were taught by their parents. And here is my plea. Teach your children. You as a parent or future parent are 100% responsible for your children’s education. If they are idiots, it is because of your neglect or laziness. A good parent is a responsible parent. Period. A good parent is a responsible parent. Teach your kids. Teach them about God, history, math, life, right and wrong. Teach them. And if you are lazy enough to blame their teachers/schools, be responsible enough to demand they are taught the right things and not just any social garbage the morons in charge come up with that has nothing to do with a real education. I am calling out parents. You are responsible. Stop blaming and put the tech down and man and woman up. You have kids to raise and you are responsible for their education and knowledge of Jesus for salvation. You are. No one else. There are books to read if you never learned how, that is no excuse. Do it. Be proactive. Deactivate your worthless anti-social media accounts and be the parents and thus people God made you to be. It is on you. God will help also when you ask. Always. ❤
I have always been seen as a leader, a “natural born leader” and just accepted that as fact. Now, some 40 years later and yes I am a little slow because I was a lot stuck in pride and busyness, I am exploring why. My hope is that some of you youngers that may have “natural leadership ability” from God, recognize it and develop it for Him.
That is actually my first point. Good leaders are led by God. The closer I am to God, the more He uses me as a leader in a myriad of circumstances. Leadership in its pure form from God is first of all humble and teachable by God and His Truth, the Bible. You cannot lead people if you do not know where to lead them. The blind cannot lead the searching. Proud leaders are weak and a distortion of their gift. They may accomplish great things through force but it is for themselves and their gain and peace does not live there. God planned leaders to have just as much peace and joy as everyone else so humbleness and closeness to God is essential for that.
Second thing. Leaders can not give way to laziness and delegate only. They must be the first to do the work, know how and why, be able to teach others, get down and dirty with those being led, work hard. This is natural and my energy always rises to the need. The will drives the leader to this. A lazy leader is ineffectual and sets the self up for high turnaround, discouragement and a critical spirit. Bad.
Third thing. Respect. Respect is enormous. Respect for God, for His Truth, for the sanctity of life, for the rules, for the fact that every person has a unique skill set, for the fact that every role is important. Nothing is done without every person’s skill, like our band. The lead singer may believe he/she is the most important person in the band because they are up front, but if the band suddenly stops or just the drummer drops out or the instruments are off key, the lead singer becomes insignificant to the mess. See? Respect and treatment of others according to the Golden Rule is vital. Everyone is vital. And everyone is interesting, they have and unique story. And believing the fantastical one in your head may be much more interesting than theirs but let them tell it anyway. Hear them. Ask questions. But draw a boundary enough to remain leader and not buddy for like a family, many are the friends and siblings but there is only one or two parents. Parents give and receive respect but are not buddies.
Fourthly. Consistency of high moral character is invaluable to retain those led. Invest in them. My dad always said to leave it better than it was when you got there. Do that for people. Be smart enough and wise enough to dig out and encourage strengths and enhance those in people you are leading. Grow them, alienate no one, never criticize, just guide with wisdom, again with never be lazy. If you lack wisdom, ask God who is generous with His. Remain humble and teachable as always. Promote people, pay them their worth, be generous with people when they work hard and earn it. Reward good work and moral integrity. Discourage moral flaws and disengenuity. Encourage your people to encourage each other. Keep them busy to minimize tech and gossip time but not too busy that they never have breaks. Promote a moral family atmosphere of growth and commitment and worth. Names, not numbers. Love people. Always eye contact and strong handshakes. Care.
Lastly. Leadership is lonely. Leaders have many acquaintances but very few true friends. It just is that way. You have to be strong when others are not and when you are not. Few understand the challenges of that or get you. Few care outside of themselves and their little circles. But God does and He will recharge you. Take some time. Exercise for energy, keep close to God for strength and wisdom. This puts you in a position of power for God and your people, humble service to Him, peace and joy and contentment for you. Then you can make the hard decisions and guide and God guides you in and way that benefits everyone. This can only happen close to the Lord, so we have returned to the first thing.
I hope this has blessed you. Feel free to ask questions or give me and topic to write about in the comments. If you are not a leader, maybe you get them a bit more and the responsibilities they hold. If you are a leader, maybe you will be refreshed and inspired to try something new, some new approach and get close to God to recharge your batteries. God bless you!❤
So, we have been practicing our two Christmas songs for about a month and a half a capella because of not having a piano or keyboard in the room with us. I was going to play keys later. But I made an executive decision tonight. We have practiced all this time without music, just our voices, and the kids are doing great. So we are going to present the song the same way. I want them to be successfull and adding something now will only confuse them and potentially set them up for failure. So there you go. And I tell you all this for two reasons. 1. If something is working, support it by keeping it as is. If it needs changing, change it, but do not add a variable last minute that may throw a wrench in the system. Provide what your people need for their best result. 2. You be the flexible one. The leader must be flexible in order to lead most effectively sometimes. Asking the led to be flexible is silly. You be flexible. Remember, the success of the team/project/choir is the goal, not fulfilling what the little narcissist in you expected or demanded to happen. Lol. I find it easier to ask myself whether my decision is for the good of the goal or the good of my ego and adjust accordingly. This strategy has never failed me when applied. Hope this helps someone. God bless you as you lead! ❤
I believe the greatest lie that Satan started and has used for generations now successfully is the lie of evolution, and in so doing taking the Majesty, Glory, Beauty, Love and Power away from God as Creator for those who buy into that crap. The religion being forced down the students’ and public’s throat is the biggest pile of hooey in existence. It is ridiculous and impossible that we slowly made ourselves and became more complex. Leave things alone in nature and what happens? More complexity? No, of course not. Things degrade, break down. I am a doctor and many times in college was reprimanded, put down, penalized with a lower grade for not supporting that moronic agenda. It is so ridiculous. They think people are too stupid to think for themselves and too lazy to want to. And they try to make it seem plausible by adding billions of years to it! Ha!! Put the parts of a watch on the ground and wait billions of years. Will the completed, fully functioning and powered watch be ready to go when you get back in a couple billion years? Really? We need to think, people. God made us good minds that can think. God made the mountains. God made the sun. Think of that for a minute. He made it. He made the power source for our galaxy. God made birds that sing and fly, reptiles, insects for pollenation, chinchillas because they are cute, mammals, marsupials for something different, sea creatures, trees, flowers, everything. God did all that, in full color and sound and reproducing perfect offspring to perpetuate itself. And God made us. That is no mistake. We are not by any stretch of the imagination powerful enough to make any of it, especially our own selves. It is plain foolish to believe that noise. And dangerous, because God IS powerful enough to make all this. So He is powerful enough to withdraw from supporting it if we are so bad and against Him as to piss Him off. Of course He is loving and gives grace for now. But we need to get our acts together and start doing what He wants. God can restore. He can heal. He wants to. Draw close to Him and keep doing so. Pray, read your Bible, return to our country’s spiritual roots, to creation’s spiritual roots. ❤
This morning, my son started walking with me. At 7am. For 1.4 miles minimum. Awake. And this is a huge deal because he, like me, is a night owl and not a morning person. It took having children to change me and here he is changing now. I attribute a lot to the Naval Sea Cadets he is a part of and most of it to God’s answer to my prayers to help him grow into a godly man. I believe this is a strong step toward responsibility and health and being ready to serve and I am very proud of him. And he kept up with me, who has been walking all this time! And he is bigger than me now, so I want him to be humble in spirit and teachable. Praise God for providing the overcoming of this milestone into manhood, even a tad bit early. I am so thankful!! ❤