Being Present Under False Pretenses

Just to be entirely honest, I recently became privy to a flaw within my being. I noticed that when I do not get adequate alone time to parse my thoughts and pray, I turn into a secret escape artist. I am present for my family but very much elsewhere simultaneously in thought and spirit. I have often been present under false pretenses. So I am aware of it now and confess and repent, determining (and off to a good start) to be better, be present. I used to be so good at that and I am getting it back. So, my strategy is to tell my family that I need some time so I walk the dog alone in the morning and pray and then I am available and actually fully present for them the rest of the day. And it is working. Cherish and be there for your family and you will notice a difference in their behavior. God is good!😄❤

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Just My Daughter & Me

Since the weather did not cooperate with her swimming idea, we went to the movies and saw Aladdin. It was such an enjoyable movie, better than the cartoon, in my opinion. So good. And on the way home we stopped for ice cream. We have needed this time together, just us. She has been making bad decisions lately and so I am determined to spend more dedicated time with her and guide her better. She is searching for how to act better in a more developed body and hormones are going crazy. So, as parents, our role is as guide and leader, present to do so. Punishment rarely works without proper loving guidance and leadership applied. So we cleaned the house and clothes together the last two days and today vacation to the movies. We had a great time and we will continue moving forward together. Praise God!😄❤

A Weekend to Forget

Tonight was thr visitation and rosary, tomorrow is the funeral mass, and in a few days after will be the graveside service. My brother in law was Catholic. That is how they do it. Tonight, at the open casket visitation, the shell was there but the soul and spirit were gone. I barely recognized him without his huge smile, making the somber shell of him appear many years older than the 77 year old he was. There was immense sadness for he was the eldest of 8 and by far the most accepting and happy. He welcomed everyone into the family and represented them well as far as hospitality goes. In fact, if you were a pretty woman, you were maybe too heartily welcomed? But I digress. Today, with 2 siblings unable to attend due to distance and health, the remaining 5 were here and all the families celebrated the life of and mourned the loss of Mike LaLonde. He and his wife were miraculously married for over 50 years and she will miss him greatly.

The rosary was said tonight and my upbringing was not Catholic, so I just listened. The repetition was mind numbing. Same words repeated over and over, same prayers. Did they think God did not hear the first time? Is my Savior hearing impaired? I wondered at this. Why pray to Mary? The Bible never says to do this. I do not understand, I guess, not having grown up in the Catholic faith.

I asked the wife how she was doing and she said, “I want to get through this and forget this weekend”. And I feel her. I understand. Just get through it. Forget. Try to live for the remaining family, for kids and grandkids. Just get through and forget and heal from the enormous rift in the physical and emotional self. Just breathe. Be. Forget. Forget every day for over 50 years coming home to that big smile. Vacations. Fishing trips. Illnesses and recoveries. Happy occasions. Family events. Forget all that? No, to celebrate all that by forgetting the goodbye. Forgetting the bad- for there always is bad. Letting that go and forgiving it. Releasing it. Forgetting on purpose.

Just a jumble of thoughts. Good to see family but good to forget why we saw them. Get to celebrating life. Many still to love here. Many to reach for Jesus. We need to get to that.❤

Loving Family

Today we shared our day with loving family, our Great Aunts Evelyne and Ellen down in Sebring, Fl. Yes, it is a bit of a drive, but always worth our monthly visits. We usually help them with odd jobs or big jobs they are no longer able to do themselves, but just visiting with someone who loves you and is family lifts and encourages and energizes me greatly. I love family. Family comes in various flavors too. I have dear friends I consider family. I have my band family. I have my church family. I have my blood family of course. But these people are valuable to me and time with them is my lifeblood. Having a family is having love. And if the family you are.born with is not as they should be, in life and in Christ, we adopt family!! Woo hoo!😄❤

On Confused Children

The evil one wants our homes broken up and people confused, hence the agenda to confuse and divide. This is because the family is the idea of God and strongest unit and building block for God’s kingdom and work and our country. So agendists throw out confusion generators to the masses through marketing and entertainment and media, throw out porn at everybody, throw out confusing topics to kids in school and ram all this down everyone’s throats every chance they can. They are pawns in denial of the enemy of God. They are agents of evil. And Godly parents must avoid all this crap. They must solidify their homes and pray together, study truth together, hold tightly to each other, cling to God together. And if our children show signs of confusion, teach them the clear truth yourself and withdraw them from that class or school entirely and teach them. Our jobs as parents is primarily to raise up our children in the Lord. We own that position. It is ours. We have to be more concerned about doing that job and holding our families together in the Lord than any discomfort we face in doing said job. God will provide but we need to do our part.❤

Band Family Practice

I am in two bands, the band at church to worship God with my talent and our band that makes money playing oldies variety music to help seniors relive their good days and bring them joy all over central Florida. Tonight, we had band practice for our 5 piece band. And it is so fun. We have good clean fun and only play the best songs, always uplifting and good classic or iconic songs. And our entire band has played together for over a year and a half (and four of us for two years and three of us for five years). We have so much fun and are very much a band family. And we all need a break in our week and love getting together to jam. Even with no gigs in the summer (there just aren’t any in Florida in the summer, thank God because when there are gigs they are outside- too hot), we all still want to keep playing. Just makes us a tighter band family. And we are hoping to work on a couple more originals. So fun and exciting. It is wonderful. I love being part of two band families, and all of us are Christians in both bands. Best bandsnin the world- all get along and play great music together. So precious!😄❤

Discipline

1. In my experience, it is far easier to discipline my children after I first discipline myself. This only means that example is the best teacher. Yes, often more than just a good example is required, but my son has told me that it was easier for him to tell the truth because I always told the truth and so on. So it makes our job and theirs easier when we use the self-control God instilled in us.

2. Love and respect for God needs to be the motivation for discipline. We have rules in our house and the main rule is that rules are set by God in the Bible and that our first priority is to honor and respect God. Direct disobedience is always punished as a natural consequence to disobeying God. God is what matters most.

3. Punishment should be equal to the crime. But once in a great while, I grant a pardon to show that sometimes God grants mercy when we screw up and grace to try again the right way. Love is always the motivation.

4. Pick your battles. Often kids get hangry. Feed them first and then deal with the issue that came up when hangry. Anger is acceptable, lashing out disrespectful is not, for example.

5. Be willing to laugh. Sometimes kids are just yanking your chain and if it is not serious, laugh it off once in a while. Keep joy in the home. It will keep everyone from getting discouraged or unduly stressed.

6. Promote supporting each other. Family is special and beautiful and really emphasize that. Help each other. Do things for each other.

7. Study the Bible and pray together. This gets everyone on the same page with what is most important. This is vital.❤