Yes, people can change. If and only if God is allowed to help and they really want to change and do all the work required of that. Apart from that, in my experience, people do not change. They may clean up their act for a bit if motivated but unless they work hard to break bad habits and keep in prayer and relationship with God, they will fall right back to their old habits and ways. Sometimes they are great until a problem or trigger arises or are tired or sick or get lazy or get what they were acting for then give u p again because they really didn’t want to change. So that is my answer, after decades of study of myself and many other people. God bless you!❤
Hear me out. Christianity is Jesus – centered if it is as God intended it and written about it in the Bible. And that means conversations about Jesus, teachings of Jesus and the Bible, worship of Jesus, prayer in Jesus’ name, communion remembering the death and resurrection of Jesus and so on. But my deepest annoyance in so many churches I have attended or seen on TV or heard on radio stations or conversations have focused on this illegitimate hybrid of humanism (worshipping ones’ self or another human as god) and Christianity (worshipping Jesus as God – which He is). So you get concepts like “What has He done for me lately?” Or “I am angry at God” or even “God needs to answer my every whim and prayer in this way or I will not go out of my way for Him”. I have also witnessed many worship services where the songs are more about themselves (usually talking about the first person’s feelings) than Jesus or Jesus’ name not even mentioned.
This is dangerous territory. Here is why. It is based on a lie, a false premise, some stupidity that people want to buy to feel important. As much as we would like it to be, we humans are not God and can in no way every be as important as He is. In fact, our importance in its greatest form is entirely based upon God saying He made us and loves us and we matter. That is it. God is God and He is Father, Jesus and Holy Spirit and we are not Him. We cannot make a person except by the means He built into us when He made us. We cannot control the weather. We cannot even keep from catching a virus. See the problem? That we are on the same level as God is the stupid prideful lie that Satan himself believed to fall from heaven and God’s grace. And now this enemy is wanting us to land his same fate, eternity in turmoil being separated from God. But we can fight this lie by worshipping Jesus again, focusing on Him again, obeying Him again, just plain saying close to and focusing on Him again. He really is a big.deal, He is everything, in fact. All He does is perfect and true and loving, how He is built. Jesus needs to be the focus. ❤
Been there, done that and it is not pretty. Rock bottom is not really rock but deep sludge that threatens to slowly drown you, in my case. Some people have an accident or incident that would probably feel like landing on rock after a 3 story freefall. But I digress, not wanting the glorify the bottom, whether rock or sludge. I merely want to say that I am not there anymore and will not be again. I can say that definitively because I am now standing firm on God’s promises. His promises are all throughout the Bible and all are mine through salvation in Jesus Christ, Yeshua. You see, there are three choices when you hit rock/sludge bottom. 1. Very selfishly and eternally die. 2. Proudly stay there and/or scramble up and drop back down repeatedly, indefinitel eternally. 3. Humbly pray to Jesus Christ for salvation and forgiveness and get up eternally. So, really two choices are quite foolish, if you think about it. Pride versus eternal life. Hmmm. I prefer humble myself, that was my choice. Every person can make this same choice anytime they want, foolish pride and eternal death and pain or humble acceptance of the free gift of salvation and obedience and eternal life. Hmmm. Doesn’t seem like a hard choice to me now. At the time it was, which is why I had to hit rock/sludge bottom to begin with. Jesus is hope, you see. Truth, peace, joy, faithfulness, gentleness, love and hope, the whole bit. Just something to think about. ❤
It never ceases to amaze me how much life changes. In love, out of love, in love and married, disaster hits, divorce, in love and married, changing times. And that is just one topic.
Maturing physically then maturing spiritually then blowing both and restarting and in and out of churches and roles in them and that is just one more topic.
No kids then one kid then another comes along and they grow then I am homeschooling them and have them 24/7 as they keep growing and changing and that is just one topic.
It goes on and on and these things and growing and maturing and changing goes on all at the same time. And in the middle somewhere is trying hard not to just survive but to also do music and write and heal and share faith as gifted to allow God to work through me as He made me to do. And the new reality of life looks so very different than it did even three years ago. Just so different. People come and go from life- key people you thought were staples of existence- just leave. New people arrive and old relationships are restored. Forgiveness happens. Amazingly, God keeps up with all the changes and keeps loving and helping and protecting us all. Incredible. And I am realizing the greatness applied from God is so very real in this skin, in this home, in this church, in this city. And God is not a powerful entity far from us in space somewhere, moody and irrational and distant unless we do exactly what He demands. He is right here, right now, loving and pulling us to Him for rest and comfort and peace and safety and never surprised by anything but ever eager for our choice to be to love Him back. How I love Him! ❤
Being an adventurous traveller most of my life since high school (and dabbling before that), travelling was the destination. Looking, searching for what different areas hold, what I was missing. I travelled through relationships that way too for a while but I digress. And I realized yesterday that I have arrived at my destination and all travel from now onward is done for vacations. I have found what I have searched for. It was not a physical location. It was not a person. It was a closeness to and healing from God. And I am complete and have arrived. I am content and incredibly happy. I am secure. In God first and then myself and my husband. There is now a fulfillment in the present, a new dawning of peace and calm and a bliss. I know this little girl is complete, no matter what happens to me. And I know my destination is heaven, far better than any place here, which must be incredible. God loves me with a sweet enduring unchanging love and fills and healed my brokenness. All the travel was searching for what He gave me as fast as He could without further damage. What an incredible God we have, so worthy of our everything. Now, I am absolutely brimming with Love and love is my home now.❤❤❤
So perhaps I am a little old, but I realize each year that there is nothing significant in a day unless you believe it is so and make it significant. Nothing happens unless you make it happen… one of Newton’s Laws. New Year’s day is just another day unless you want a change to happen in some way and need some excuse for that to happen. That is why resolutions generally don’t work for longer than your attention span. I believe that is not cynical so much as realistic. I believe you can’t make a wish things will change but refuse to commit to backing it up. I need to lose a few pounds, but vowing to stop eating or worse, taking a pill to make it magically evaporate, is pathetic and ineffective if in place of committing myself to improved health because I want to be a better, healthier, more energetic child of God. So, the resolution should be a deeper change, something which promotes lasting change and betterment. Something like praying every day, reading one chapter of the Bible every day, forgiving someone, wanting to please God, helping people every day, using gifts or talents to do good, etc. And we can make that change any single day of our lives and we must every day of our lives. I like how the singer Carolyn Arends sang it, “This will be my resolution, every day is New Year’s Day”. Every day, every hour, every minute is an opportunity to start again and be intentional. In fact, to be effective, it must be so.❤
Upon firing from our world three people from our old band and their related toxic drama and constant negativity, we have detoxed our social circle and cleaned up the band. Those that remain and the new ones are uplifting and drama-free, just looking to make beautiful music together without the negativity. It is so relieving! First, we tried to communicate with them, reached out, prayed for them, prayed about the decision. And some people just do not want to let pride and selfishness go at any cost, so we released them. It was detrimental to remain in such a negative state all the time with constant harmful negativity and drama all the time. So we detoxed our social circle in this way and God blessed our decision with new, positive musicians and more instant energy and excitement about the band and gigging together! The house is lighter, the studio welcoming, creativity flowing. Change is rough but rewards are fantastic. What a relief!❤