So, we took my Mom out to Golden Corral for lunch last Sunday. It was her idea, because it was less crowd (no line) and she likes very few people around (lol) but likes their variety of foods, and one day is as good as the next to celebrate. And she has never been practical with money (learned that from Daddy lol), but she is practical with things like this. And she is right. What is an arbitrary day to celebrate something that is a part of who I am? Yeah, I know, not a romantic notion, but I am proud of my kids, I know I carried them for 9 hard sickly months each and gave birth without meds (rah!), and they are amazing people so I must have done all right so far despite it all. They both love God, love me and are doing great in school and life. Both are artists like me and both musicians now (piano first with theory then whatever they want). One is great at baseball and basketball now and one loves dance. I feel grateful for the opportunity to be these kids’ mommy. I always wanted to be a mommy and I am so thankful God blessed me with my own children. So one day out of the year to say, “Hey, you’re a mom” is kinda weird really. I am really not all that. I do the best I can but I have screwed up a lot and try not to but probably will again some other way. I fight the same balancing blended families act so many also work on. I try to keep everyone healthy but just got over being sick as a dog for not wearing a mask while scraping popcorn off a ceiling and sanding. In trying to make my kids more n independent, I always wonder if I and ignoring them too much. I teach them laid back and calm by exemplifying that mostly at home but teach them anger by erupting when driving surrounded by “idiot drivers”. So many things I do wrong. My kids see the best and the worst of me. But there is some good there, I hope. And in the end, I pray a lot and trust God will fill in for my deficiencies. And if they want to do something nice for me, that is nice but I would rather they obey. Lol Either way, I’ll take it and keep loving them the best way I can, as my mom did for us and her mom did for them and my Daddy’s mom did for them and my amazing Aunt did for them. I really had incredible role models of motherhood. I just hope the good parts carry forward. 🙂 Happy Mommy’s Day!!!!!!!! 🙂
This was a gift sent to me from a good friend and sister and fellow mother. What a great reminder that we are never alone on our journey. We have the Lord and each other. Always remember and cherish and nurture that.❤
This is going to be an amazing homeschooling year! My son is in junior high now and is reading more and doing book reports so more good classic and historic information is getting in and he is working more independently and studiously. My boy is growing up and about to turn 13! And my daughter is reading now. And she is reading for fun and really soaking everything in. I am super excited because now we are thinking and learning and thinking for ourselves, always my goal.
I don’t want them to just regurgitate facts but really grasp concepts and think and wonder the feasibility if it all and extract their own thoughts and test them. This is true learning- understanding and incorporating truth rather than just knowing a list of useless information. And I am proud of the people they are becoming and are now.
My goal as a parent is to grow reaponsible, Godly, loving, useful adults who will be great Christians and spouses and parents that will spend eternity with Jesus. That is my focus and goal always and it is starting to work beautifully toward that end. What great encouragement God gave me today! Praise God!!!❤❤❤
Raising Accountable Kids: How to Be an Outstanding Parent Using the Power of Personal Accountability by John G. and Karen G. Miller. This book has transformed my parenting and understanding for the better. If you want to be a better parent, this book is a great start. It is amazing. ❤
Growing up in Michigan, our school went to skating trips weekly for exercise outings and PE. Sometimes it was bowling, but we preferred skating. I recently realized people still skate in our town after years of not living where people did so. So the kids and I have been skating, and it feels very nostalgic and I am a kid all over again out on that rink. Great exercise. And one other thing…
My kids soon realized one of the things skating Rinks are good for… training for driving in the real world. I think everyone should master dodging the beginners and kids going the wrong direction randomly and slow pokes and mind changers that randomly swerve a different way than they were headed or the speeders flying in and out of everyone or sudden stoppers. Oy! So my suggestion is not spiritual this time but practical… before your precious child drives on the crazy road, be sure he/she has learned defensive driving maneuvers you can achieve on a skating rink. I really think that and my dad’s lesson on neurotically checking all my mirrors and blind spots is why I have been a successful defensive driver. And I firmly believe I have the best and most fit guardian angel God ever made, for I was quite the speedster in my younger years and have driven a lot, 23 hours in a row at one point. So seriously, don’t neglect the skating rinks. Pretty great fun and exercise also. God bless! 😄❤
Today, I taught my Kids’ church why we celebrate Independence Day. They had no idea. These kids were kindergarten through 5th grade and not one of them knew except my kids. And are they smarter than the other kids? Probably not, but they were taught by their parents. And here is my plea. Teach your children. You as a parent or future parent are 100% responsible for your children’s education. If they are idiots, it is because of your neglect or laziness. A good parent is a responsible parent. Period. A good parent is a responsible parent. Teach your kids. Teach them about God, history, math, life, right and wrong. Teach them. And if you are lazy enough to blame their teachers/schools, be responsible enough to demand they are taught the right things and not just any social garbage the morons in charge come up with that has nothing to do with a real education. I am calling out parents. You are responsible. Stop blaming and put the tech down and man and woman up. You have kids to raise and you are responsible for their education and knowledge of Jesus for salvation. You are. No one else. There are books to read if you never learned how, that is no excuse. Do it. Be proactive. Deactivate your worthless anti-social media accounts and be the parents and thus people God made you to be. It is on you. God will help also when you ask. Always. ❤
So, today was family chores day. I mowed, Zach vacuumed, Kathleen dusted and cleaned the glass and we all cleaned our rooms. We do chores so my kids do not grow up to be entitled spoiled brats. In fact, they do not get any privileges until they do their chores. Not one. No allowance, no tv, no video games. I do feed them but if they neglect their chores after breakfast, they have to wait for lunch until they are finished. This strategy works for us and my kids help me as soon as I ask them to. I believe it is our duty to lead our kids to be responsible adults and good stewards of what God gave us. Now for showers… lol. ❤