A Half Hour of Playing Legos Has Exponential Value

If you wanna make your kid’s day, bring home some Legos and put them together with them. Turn off the phone, ignore it’s existence and just play with b your child. Talk. Pretend. Imagine. Be. Bask n in appreciation for this memorable moment with your child. You’re welcome.😄❤

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Just My Daughter & Me

Since the weather did not cooperate with her swimming idea, we went to the movies and saw Aladdin. It was such an enjoyable movie, better than the cartoon, in my opinion. So good. And on the way home we stopped for ice cream. We have needed this time together, just us. She has been making bad decisions lately and so I am determined to spend more dedicated time with her and guide her better. She is searching for how to act better in a more developed body and hormones are going crazy. So, as parents, our role is as guide and leader, present to do so. Punishment rarely works without proper loving guidance and leadership applied. So we cleaned the house and clothes together the last two days and today vacation to the movies. We had a great time and we will continue moving forward together. Praise God!😄❤

My Son’s Journey

My son is now a few months from 14 years of age. He is voice is changing. His mood is changing. His confidence is growing, sometimes too quickly. But God be praised, his spiritual maturity is growing. I just dropped him off at 4:15 am this morning to go on a week long Honduras missions trip. They are building a church by day and holding Bible study at night. He is growing closer to God every day. We read the Bible and pray together several times a day and I lead by faith and works. He is a good boy and is unmoved by the several girls who have already noticed and are pursuing him. He wants to be true to who God made him.

I say all these things not to brag, but I want you to know that every step we take closer to God or sadly farther from Him is our own choice. He went through my painful divorce and many turbulence with new step parents on both sides and he has chosen to be God’s son and focus on God. And God rewards and blesses him, as He does so often with all of us who chose to obey. And despite some sins/ mistakes made on the journey, God is only ever a humble prayer away again. There is hope for our kids. Sure, he is homeschooled, but that us a possibility for everyone and we always have that personal choice to make regarding our spiritual maturity/walk and relationship with God.

I am fasting this week while he is gone that God’s will for all involved will be done and I know he is in God’s capable hands, right where he belongs and chooses to be. We all make that choice all the time, some knowingly and some unknowingly. Pleased be encouraged and God bless your choice and journey. Praise God!❤

On Confused Children

The evil one wants our homes broken up and people confused, hence the agenda to confuse and divide. This is because the family is the idea of God and strongest unit and building block for God’s kingdom and work and our country. So agendists throw out confusion generators to the masses through marketing and entertainment and media, throw out porn at everybody, throw out confusing topics to kids in school and ram all this down everyone’s throats every chance they can. They are pawns in denial of the enemy of God. They are agents of evil. And Godly parents must avoid all this crap. They must solidify their homes and pray together, study truth together, hold tightly to each other, cling to God together. And if our children show signs of confusion, teach them the clear truth yourself and withdraw them from that class or school entirely and teach them. Our jobs as parents is primarily to raise up our children in the Lord. We own that position. It is ours. We have to be more concerned about doing that job and holding our families together in the Lord than any discomfort we face in doing said job. God will provide but we need to do our part.❤

Be Faithful, Dads

I was just thinking about my daddy. He passed two years ago now and I often remember him fondly. His greatest legacy was one of faith. He was faithful. Not just was he a faithful husband to my mom but he was all in, faithful to the core to his faith, his family, his country, his beliefs, his land. He did not stop being what he believed in my whole life. And that is why I am the way I am and believe so strongly in being faithful, being all in to God, my family, my country, my beliefs. It carries down.

Be faithful, dads. You are doing great. Even if you screw up a bit, just swallow that pride and ask forgiveness.. wives and kids are in general very forgiving… and keep being faithful. Or start today to make that legacy to pass down, it is never too late. Just please do keep working at it. You are the head of your house/family and families are why America is so great. You are vitally important to make or break everything, which is proved by how heavily society is attacking you. Be courageous, be all in and be faithful. Like my daddy, the best man who ever walked the earth (other than the God-man Jesus, of course).❤

Don’t Buy “Busy”

Busy used to live here. Our schedule was full to the max. That was my fault, I bought the “busy” for myself and my family. And I discovered that although we were constantly doing things alongside each other, we were lacking quality time to really just learn each other and correct false beliefs before they become stumbling blocks. For that invaluable experience, we need to stop buying “busy” and decide to necessitate white spaces on our calendar. I started this recently. Instead of that outing option, we vied for staying in for a board game of Life with popcorn. So much fun and much more discovery involved and some social corrections made. This was fantastic. Enjoying each other is fantastic but we parents can never forget we are also responsible to God for instruction. So we need to seize opportunities to do both. And this is the new balance and consequently my/our new laid back groove. When “busy” comes knocking, I no longer jump to buy. I recommend this mindset with your kids. It is great!😄❤

Discipline

1. In my experience, it is far easier to discipline my children after I first discipline myself. This only means that example is the best teacher. Yes, often more than just a good example is required, but my son has told me that it was easier for him to tell the truth because I always told the truth and so on. So it makes our job and theirs easier when we use the self-control God instilled in us.

2. Love and respect for God needs to be the motivation for discipline. We have rules in our house and the main rule is that rules are set by God in the Bible and that our first priority is to honor and respect God. Direct disobedience is always punished as a natural consequence to disobeying God. God is what matters most.

3. Punishment should be equal to the crime. But once in a great while, I grant a pardon to show that sometimes God grants mercy when we screw up and grace to try again the right way. Love is always the motivation.

4. Pick your battles. Often kids get hangry. Feed them first and then deal with the issue that came up when hangry. Anger is acceptable, lashing out disrespectful is not, for example.

5. Be willing to laugh. Sometimes kids are just yanking your chain and if it is not serious, laugh it off once in a while. Keep joy in the home. It will keep everyone from getting discouraged or unduly stressed.

6. Promote supporting each other. Family is special and beautiful and really emphasize that. Help each other. Do things for each other.

7. Study the Bible and pray together. This gets everyone on the same page with what is most important. This is vital.❤