“Taking a Community to Raise a Child” Depends on the Community

How many people it takes to raise a child depends largely on the parents and if God is first in that home and their pride last. The farther down God is on the family’s collective priorities and the higher pride is, the more additional people it takes to teach the child to be humble and obey. Even one parent fully humble and obedient to God can raise an obedient, healthy child to adulthood. But humbleness is the key to it all. A humble parent produces a humble, teachable child that becomes a great adult more often than not. Pride is always an option for everyone but when trained to be humble from the get go, chances are much higher to stay humble. And that contrition is honored and blessed by God.❤

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Never A Drama-Void Moment

Teenagers drum up drama in their heads. Their hormones lead them one way and their imaginations expound on that in a narcissistic way to produce drama after drama for the real world from their perspective. My daughter said it best, “He’s either nice or mean or sad all the time now.” Anout sums it up.

Some people never outgrow that level of dealing with the world. They remain in teenager hormone imagination land creating drama forever. My ex is like that. If there is no drama, he will invent some to be happy or contentedly unhappy rather. It is exhausting. Now he is getting back together with his crazy wife I thought we had been blessed to be done with. And this is going on and this is and blah blah blah. Neverending drama. And my stepdaughter is teeming with that same narcissistic teenage hormone imagination drama too. Just goes on and on. My mom also has this . I think it is an epidemic, like the plague or something.

Momma’s tired of drama. You know who else wants us to get off the crazy drama train? God does. He wants us to live in perfect peace and keep our mind stayed on Him. He wants us to be joyful always and pray continuously. This is His will forum in Christ Jesus. So, simple is better and eternity-with-God minded is the ticket there. We need to let go of being included in the drama and as fast as they want to drag us there is just as quickly as we turn back to our view of the cross and rolled away stone. And I am looking forward to Easter and will work on celebrating that excellent day all year long. That was pretty dramatic.😄❤

Loving an Iffy Furry Friend

Adopting a dog from the SPCA with heartworm has affected my empathy and mothering skills. After 2 days, I love our furry friend and he is one of the family. We have to exercise him a little but without stress or strain, have to give him medicine twice a day before his first shot Thursday and keep him very calm after that for a month. It is deliberate care, intentional love. We knew going in he was sick. And we love him all the more for it. We know it is up to God through thr medicine to heal him or not. We love him and he is very loved until we know for certain if it is forever or not.

And I think that is how it is with God. I understand that better. He really loves us and adopts everyone who humbly asks Him to. He knows we are iffy. He knows we may screw up, knows we may reject treatment or choose to run away. He loves us all the more when we really try to please Him, as when Blue tries to please us. It is endearing. We accept him as He is, hoping to nurse him to health, and God must feel that way with us, accepting us as we are and hoping to nurse us and love us to greater health and joy wanting the best life for us. I get it now. And I praise God and love Him all the more for it.❤❤❤

My Daughter and I

She and I rarely have quality craft time together. We draw and color but we both love getting crafty and serious imagination – stretching takes serious time. Today we got it. It was just us two all day. We hit the park, hit the craft store, grabbed lunch and got home to craft. We set up, started, rewatched the great ideas we found on youtube, continued, and waited for paint to dry. Fabulous day!!!

A full day with your child doing what they love is an investment in them. Think about it. Why does God tell us to pray continually? Because He wants to show us love, spend time with us, heal us, strengthen us, develop us, etc. He is our example of a perfect Father, a perfect parent. So thankful for today!😄❤

Mother’s Day Finery

So, we took my Mom out to Golden Corral for lunch last Sunday. It was her idea, because it was less crowd (no line) and she likes very few people around (lol) but likes their variety of foods, and one day is as good as the next to celebrate. And she has never been practical with money (learned that from Daddy lol), but she is practical with things like this. And she is right. What is an arbitrary day to celebrate something that is a part of who I am? Yeah, I know, not a romantic notion, but I am proud of my kids, I know I carried them for 9 hard sickly months each and gave birth without meds (rah!), and they are amazing people so I must have done all right so far despite it all. They both love God, love me and are doing great in school and life. Both are artists like me and both musicians now (piano first with theory then whatever they want). One is great at baseball and basketball now and one loves dance. I feel grateful for the opportunity to be these kids’ mommy. I always wanted to be a mommy and I am so thankful God blessed me with my own children. So one day out of the year to say, “Hey, you’re a mom” is kinda weird really. I am really not all that. I do the best I can but I have screwed up a lot and try not to but probably will again some other way. I fight the same balancing blended families act so many also work on. I try to keep everyone healthy but just got over being sick as a dog for not wearing a mask while scraping popcorn off a ceiling and sanding. In trying to make my kids more n independent, I always wonder if I and ignoring them too much. I teach them laid back and calm by exemplifying that mostly at home but teach them anger by erupting when driving surrounded by “idiot drivers”. So many things I do wrong. My kids see the best and the worst of me. But there is some good there, I hope. And in the end, I pray a lot and trust God will fill in for my deficiencies. And if they want to do something nice for me, that is nice but I would rather they obey. Lol Either way, I’ll take it and keep loving them the best way I can, as my mom did for us and her mom did for them and my Daddy’s mom did for them and my amazing Aunt did for them. I really had incredible role models of motherhood. I just hope the good parts carry forward. 🙂 Happy Mommy’s Day!!!!!!!! 🙂

Motherhood and Sisterhood

This was a gift sent to me from a good friend and sister and fellow mother. What a great reminder that we are never alone on our journey. We have the Lord and each other. Always remember and cherish and nurture that.❤

Homeschooling Excitement

This is going to be an amazing homeschooling year! My son is in junior high now and is reading more and doing book reports so more good classic and historic information is getting in and he is working more independently and studiously. My boy is growing up and about to turn 13! And my daughter is reading now. And she is reading for fun and really soaking everything in. I am super excited because now we are thinking and learning and thinking for ourselves, always my goal.

I don’t want them to just regurgitate facts but really grasp concepts and think and wonder the feasibility if it all and extract their own thoughts and test them. This is true learning- understanding and incorporating truth rather than just knowing a list of useless information. And I am proud of the people they are becoming and are now.

My goal as a parent is to grow reaponsible, Godly, loving, useful adults who will be great Christians and spouses and parents that will spend eternity with Jesus. That is my focus and goal always and it is starting to work beautifully toward that end. What great encouragement God gave me today! Praise God!!!❤❤❤