Why Pornography Hurts Marriages

Pornography is not innocent fun. It hurts relationships and here is how, from a Christian wife’s perspective.

1. Trust is blown. The adulterer (person engaging in porn) has committed an adultery against his/her spouse. This has been done against the spouse’s back most of the time and been lied about. This tears down a trust wall pretty quickly.

2. It makes the spouse look bad/be easily disrespected because the spouse engaging in porn is viewed by the spouse as a self-control-less dog, some animal that can’t even control the sexual urges enough to keep sex between them only.

3. The spouse engaging in porn is dishonoring his/her spouse but the implied message that he/she is not enough to satisfy them, not airbrushed and misproportioned like those viewed, not unnatural enough, not good enough, not worth honoring with faithfulness.

4. The spouse engaging in porn develops a perverted and incorrect view of sex and becomes more and more difficult to make love (big difference) to their spouse. The plastic bimbos for hire are sex slaves and intimacy suffers enormously with the spouse who is not a sex slave but was designed to be so much more.

5. God is dishonored. This is the most important problem with porn. God is dishonored because you are saying by engaging in porn that what He says is irrelevant and unimportant and that disobedience and disrespect cannot help but separate you from a joyful prayer life and close relationship with God and if not repented from can cost you much more in eternity.

There are other reasons porn is sin and horrible for relationships, but these are the main ones I have found to be true and why couples should seek help if engaging in porn has become a habit (addiction illness) or if it has created a rift in the relationship. And God is only ever a humble prayer away to help also. ❤

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Memorial Day

Many people have sacrifices for our country in service fields because of their love for our country, sometimes for a paycheck, sometimes because n of their sheer love for their fellow man and a God-given desire to help. In any case, the sacrifice they have made or are making now or even have made and they are retired now, this day we value, respect and really appreciate them and their families. Sometimes their families give up more than they do. So we thank them. Thank you, every service person, in past, present or future, for we could not be free without this sacrifice and be protected without your important work. You matter. What you did matters. What you are doing now matters. What better way to serve God than to serve men and women and u our country. Thank you all! God bless you all!!!❤❤❤

Being too Busy

I never ever want to be too busy for someone who needs me. It is easy to be. We get so wrapped up, even in very very good things (but more often its stupid little entertainment or tech things). But may I never be guilty of the sin of over-busyness where I disobey God’s direction for me because I am too busy with anything else. So I am working on that. I want Him to return (soon) and catch me obeying and not being busy with nonsense. ❤

On Feeling Alone

It is a lie that we are ever alone. Sometimes I forget that and feel how I am feeling right now… alone. My loving God is one humble prayer away. Yet sometimes I forget and have to remind myself. Why? What is so great that it blocks my vision? And the answer I determined is that it is a cumulation of little things, a myriad of distraction bricks that add up to one large brick wall to shade me from the brilliant truth. The anniversary of my Daddy’s death, the death of a great friend, the rejection and abandonment of another, kids needs, spousal needs, being constantly criticized, demands of time, coaching, leading choir, the band, teaching, cleaning houses, etc. It seems like I should be savagely content with so many people around me pressing in at every turn. But these things, at the end of the day, drain me and as I sit in the dark alone in my room, waiting for my brain to stop so my sleep can come, I wish strong arms would hold me and I feel so so very alone. The distractions, you see, again forged a chasm between the many things requiring my time and attention and my precious Savior who should have it all. My priorities flipped and I confess that I need alone time with God desperately. So tomorrow I will arise early and walk with Him. And He will help me as He always has done and I will get my mind right with His help. I will remember that He is always with me, always loves me and comforts those who mourn and admit they need Him. And I will repent of my falling for the distraction scheme and busyness and remember that no is a good word when you need time with God, nothing wrong with that. Yes can never be the only word or the distraction liars will walk all over me again. Tired of that. I will fight. God will help as He always does. ❤❤❤

Busy Days & Bad News

When we are busiest, it seems we are made busier with bad news. My friend’s son was in a car accident, nothing broken and not critical but sore and hospitalized for observation. And of course I want to be there for her and would were my commitments not so pressing today and tomorrow. But this is how the devil worka, y’all. When working hard, he attacks. So please pray for special comfort for her and healing for him and I place them soundly in God’s hands and must keep moving. God bless us all. ❤ 

Rebuilding Bridges

I am not one for burning bridges on purpose. There have been bridges burned unintentionally by ignorance or lack of communication, however, and I am sorry for those and have forgiven myself and worked harder at not doing so again. There have been plenty of bridges burned by others and I have long since forgiven them, of course (forgiveness is an offering to God). And there have been plenty of bridges I have rebuilt. It seems in life that God has blessed me with restoring these bridges of connection  to people I did not like much the first go round and He calls me to rebuild the bridge I would rather have walked away from and it became a beautiful thing. And here is the thing. We are all God’s children and every good Father (as God is the best) wants His children to love each other and get along and work well together. All have something beautiful or seemingly uneventful to bring to the household and together, God sees the possibility of immense greatness of His beautiful glory shining brightly through and from it. When people do right and maintain or rebuild connection, nothing on earth compares to it. Rebuild a bridge in your life today. It is worth the effort. ❤

Band Seeking Drummer

Let me explain, this is not a request for hire, this is a chain of thought on being in a band and level of commitment. Our current drummer has mentioned that he will be leaving us after the week of 3 Valentine’s Day gigs we have. So we will need to hurry and find a drummer for the Match and April gigs and so on. And this is not a dig on the drummer, as every person is entitled to come and go, we have no contracts. But I wonder why we have had four drummer’s in two years. We are a good, drama free band except for two drummer’s evil wives, one wounded drummer and one drummer who only wanted to play Christian music. The rest of the band gets along beautifully and the two drummer with evil wives got along beautifully with us too except, of course, for their evil wives. So is it drummers? Is it us? Is it a lack of commitment? All these questions. And here we sit with a deadline for having to go through it all again. Everyone wants Wil back (we miss you, Wil), but they say they will only have him back if he divorces his evil wife so that is no good. We loved Steve, but he only wants to drum at church. We loved John but again the other evil wife. We love Troy but he has visions of grandeur in a better paid band (good luck). So, we will do what we have always done… stick together as a band family and pray for a new drummer if and when the time comes and God bless us every one.❤