I am not one for burning bridges on purpose. There have been bridges burned unintentionally by ignorance or lack of communication, however, and I am sorry for those and have forgiven myself and worked harder at not doing so again. There have been plenty of bridges burned by others and I have long since forgiven them, of course (forgiveness is an offering to God). And there have been plenty of bridges I have rebuilt. It seems in life that God has blessed me with restoring these bridges of connection to people I did not like much the first go round and He calls me to rebuild the bridge I would rather have walked away from and it became a beautiful thing. And here is the thing. We are all God’s children and every good Father (as God is the best) wants His children to love each other and get along and work well together. All have something beautiful or seemingly uneventful to bring to the household and together, God sees the possibility of immense greatness of His beautiful glory shining brightly through and from it. When people do right and maintain or rebuild connection, nothing on earth compares to it. Rebuild a bridge in your life today. It is worth the effort. ❤
Because of my deep respect for God and His Word, it is a very strong motivation to me to forgive everyone because of one thing God said. He said we will be forgiven AS WE FORGIVE OTHERS. So if I don’t forgive people, I will not be forgiven. It is my choice, you see. It is yours as well. I can choose to be forgiven for my sins/wrongs/mistakes by humbling myself enough to forgive people who have hurt me. I have to choose to forgive them even if they are not sorry, have not asked forgiveness, are still jerks, are still hurting me. (I don’t have to stay there and be abused but I have to forgive.) And I have to forgive myself too. And that is a tough teaching for a ton of people because it requires us to lay down our pride, our rights, fairness, hatred, grudges, lots of things. It has to be a conscientious decision. It is. Forgiveness brings healing, freedom, lifts burdens off, yields peace, promotes joy, on and on. God always makes it worth the obedience when He asks us to do something. Always. Praise God. ❤
There is no such thing as an acceptable sin. Lying is an obvious sin unless you have bought it for so long and is now difficult to determine apart from the Truth of the Bible and Holy Spirit. Pornography is not acceptable because it is lust and therefore adultery (see Matthew 6) and it destroys the bond of marriage by bringing someone else into your mind and therefore bed. (And as at side note, it is sleazy and nasty too, and very foolish as you are committing adultery with a fantasy person, one who does not really exist, and it demean and dumb down real women and keeps you from coming to orgasm with your spouse who is trying desperately to love you and stay with you, selfish one.) Gossip is not acceptable and it is slander and a sin. Judging others is sin directly (also Matthew 6). Homosexuality is a sin as it is against God’s original design. Abortion is as sin as it is murder and a sin. Coveting what others have is a sin. Fornication (sex with someone you are not married to) is a sin. So many things are sins that people have talked themselves into believing are the truth because they want to do them. God sets rules up for our health, happiness and well being, not to ruin our fun but to give us lasting happiness and joy and blessings in life. A life lived purely is the best life we can have. It is truth. And the great news is that any sin at all may be forgiven by Jesus when He is asked into our hearts and saves us, washing us white as reread snow. God is so wonderful that He promises to forgive us and even forget it happened. Fresh start to turn away from that lifestyle of sin and lies and live happy with God awaiting eternity with Him! Praise God we can have His assurance of heaven!!!!❤❤❤
Forgiveness is easy when you do these steps:
1. Admit and state the full insult/pain/hurt/trauma, etc. You have to have something valid and tangible to forgive. You can not forgive a feeling.
2. Realize why you were hurt by that and what false believes you had that made it an offense. For example, it hurt when he criticized my cooking because I believe the lie that I may not be a good cook or may not be loveable unless I cook well or whatever. Pain from an offense is a byproduct of something deeper. You have to address the deeper issue.
3. Pray and ask God to give you truth to expose and remove the lie and remove the specific pain from it.
4. Forgive yourself and the offender and whomever else you may have been holding a grudge against. If you need help, humbly ask God to help you.
5. Let it go and move on. Do something else. Your work is finished.
6. Repeat this process until no more offenses come to mind.
7. Rest and enjoy the peace God provides when we obey and when we allow Him to lighten our burdened heart. ❤ ❤ ❤
Some days can take you through many journeys within their span. Today I walked 2 miles, swept the porch, cleaned a room, nursed a daughter fighting a cold back to health, vacuumed, we killed a dead old bed (from too much jumping oy) and assembled a new trundle bed without instructions or hardware, a different we played tennis and swam, had two meals and preset the third to begin while we were swimming, prepared the songs for tomorrow, and now finally can work on the quilt. Busy day, feels like we lived two days in this day. Busy day. Many journeys. Many moods waded through also, my emotional family. So tomorrow will be a quiet day, church and rest and quilt. Balance is so important and I feel out of balance now so will rest tomorrow. I believe when you don’t get it right, we can get it right as soon as we decide we want to and tomorrow will be more balanced. God is so hood and allows redemption even in small things like overpopulation a day. 😄❤
As a big picture person, blame to me is rather a waste of time. However, being surrounded by detail oriented people, blame is a hot topic in this house. Whose fault is it? Who is to blame? To me, it happened, fix it. Try not to do it again. They love my forgiving nature (I just don’t major on the minors really lol) until I am to blame. Then I am the scum of the earth when I make a mess and must be reminded of it daily or hourly until something else happens more worth their attention. This is an Aquarian living with three Libras and a nearby Libra mom. Such is life, but I have learned a valuable lesson from this unfortunate circumstance. It is most often better to accept the blame immediately and clean it up the best I can than to instill my life philosophy of nonjudgment and full forgiveness upon those who struggle with that concept. In other words, it is better to be humble than to be correct. It is better to promote peace by any means necessary than to foster a stumbling block for someone else in my correctness. Lol Life is a pickle. No good if you suck on it but brilliant if you bite in. ❤
When there is a tryout for a team or job interview or broken relationship with someone you love or a broken friendship or whatever the case may be and you don’t get that affirmative call from the other person when the ball is in their court, sometimes they have a change of heart and realize their mistake but call too late. Either your number has changed or you have moved or your heart is decidedly alone or what have you. But restoration is God’s business and forgiveness is ours. We can and must forgive and move on. We must ask their forgiveness if we have access to them and ask God’s forgiveness also. God restores. He restores peace if unity is no longer possible but we must do our part and leave the rest in God’s capable, loving hands.