Jesus’ words in Matthew 6 were very clear. As we forgive others, we will be forgiven. So if we harbor unforgiveness, we put ourselves in harm’s way and put ourselves in bondage to our own sins. Pride is the culprit, yet again. Ego says they don’t deserve forgiveness. Even if that is true, when you make that judgment, you doom yourself to not bring forgiven by God, so they win twice- one by the offense and once by your pride keeping you from forgiving them. So forgive and they only hurt you once, you are forgiven your sins, and God will deal with them later. “Vengeance is mine, says the Lord, I will repay.” Trust that and forgive. Let it go and you will have obeyed God, which brings blessings. It is freeing and feels great when you dump that baggage. And then you can be forgiven and closer to the Lord. Beautiful!😄❤
If you wait ’til they deserve it or ask forgiveness, that robs you of precious time you could be full of peace and joy and it robs God of your full service and worship. It is also selfish and prideful to withhold forgiveness for it shows God you are not thankful for His gift of forgiveness grace. Forgive now. Right now. If you don’t feel you can, do it anyway and ask God for help as you do. This shows humbleness to God and obedience which He always honors. And He forgives us lavishly ONLY as we forgive others. Stop living in the painful past of wrongs done against us. Be grateful to God for all the blessings you may not have attended to by your unforgiveness and forgive now and live a beautiful life right now. Let it go. Stop trying to control something evil and keep sinning by not forgiving. Forgive now. It will make your life soooooo much sweeter and free. God will help as soon as you decide to do it and ask Him for help. Join the peace and joy life God intended. His grace is sufficient for all your needs.😄❤❤❤
One big thing about living with an addict, whether you are married to one or there is one or more in your family, you become a forgiveness expert. Now, this isn’t automatic. It took me a while to
1. be humble enough to admit that I was not perfect (when you see someone every day in addiction(s), you tend to compare and feel pretty holy and it takes maturity of humility to admit to not being perfect and thus forgiving. (It helped me a lot with this when a pastor said “Our comparison should never be against other people who are also flawed but against Jesus who is perfect, then we see the need for His grace”) and
2. Be mature enough to know that God will forgive my sins as I forgive those who sin against me and
3. Trust God enough to have control of the situation and yield my control of it,
4. Find comfort and strength in a strong relationship with God, and lastly
5. Realize that forgiveness does not mean enabling as long as they know where we stand and we maintain healthy boundaries (forgiveness is the earthly manifestation of grace which frees rather than enables – they carry obscene amounts of guilt continually and this frees them of more).
All these things needed to be in place for forgiveness to come easy to me. When you decide to stay with the addict, you decide to purposely stay with someone who has chosen to feed their own selfishness and narcissism based on lies and escapism over any real love for you. They decide to be Willoughby from Sense and Sensibility. They do love you in their way “but not enough” because of this sin sickness, this self-inflicted denial and escapism (escaping from pain or discomfort or trauma and God). It is humbling and to survive relying on God is paramount to success.
Know that it is always God’s desire to draw everyone close to Himself and so He rewards those who stay with those running from Him and who keep showing His love. He wants them back and appreciated you standing in the gap through prayer, Bible study and loving example of grace and forgiveness.
So we have the extra blessing of opportunities to forgive. As such, we are in a very good position to be rewarded richly by God and also to be able to help other people in the same position or less experienced at it. Anyway, God bless us, everyone. Much love to you on your journey. 😄❤
Our sins are thrown by our Heavenly Father into the sea of wilful forgetfulness as soon as we humbly ask Him to. This is the depth of the love of our loving God and thr power of Jesus’ sacrifice and His power to forget as well as forgive. And oh what a relief that is to be truly forgiven completely. Pure. Clean. It is gone. If you bring it up, that is the enemy or your own unforgiveness of yourself. How dare you feign higher standards than God. How dare you call a sin unforgiven that God has forgiven and forgotten! Do not play the enemy’s game that way. ❤
Hard to do, forget. Not sure we always should as it warns not to do things that way again. So probably for the best, but sometimes we can forget a while and choose to decide not to remember. We can actively push it away until it becomes automatic. Of course there are triggers but we can choose to keep obsessing over it or send it packing. We choose this. Emotional people have more trouble getting to their choice through their emotion but the choice is there somewhere… dig til ya find it.
But today, I realized that I have finally forgiven a person and all persons involved in a past incident in my life. I am 100% at peace with it all, with them all. And the funny thing is that I really thought I was there already a couple of times before. I was not. I had said the words, thought the right thoughts but too much thinking about it remained, a desire to see what happened next, a will to know, a want to understand, a wish to see. Ever so faint but present nonetheless. And today, watching the grandbaby, seeing my kids in our home, hearing my husband practice guitar, thanking God for the blessings of my life, I thought nothing of this past experience. It would have been a passing caveat, a slight distraction of thought now and again, moreso after contemplation. My mind was finally quiet on the matter. Later, still quiet.
God works in different paces for different depths of pain. But if you keep humble and remain praying, especially if you can fast also, read your Bible, do what you know you should, don’t do what you shouldn’t, draw close to God, He will get you where you want to go in His timing and for your good.
All that being said, I am more ready today than ever for whatever God wants me to do. I am beyond the distraction. I am fully His. And my outlook is more His than it has ever been. And I praise God for doing what I could not do alone, as He has so many times. I owe Him everything and it is all His. I am so thankful. Praise God!!😄❤❤❤