Forgiving someone is only really easy if your emotions were not shredded or if you barely if at all trusted that person. If they were trusted or loved or were supposed to be trustworthy or love you, it can get complicated. Feelings were hurt, trust broken, lies were always involved, etc. This forgiving we must do (because God requires it of us) becomes more of an art.
I have learned this art of forgiving, forged after many disappointments in people I trusted, betrayals, losses, etc. Here it is… God has to help us. Seems simple? Too simple, like I am an idiot for saying so? On the contrary, pride is the real obstacle to forgiveness. Remembering humbly how many sins God forgave me for helps me forgive others, even the closest people to me. I can forgive someone who did anything to me because I have been forgiven of so many wrongs myself. And also, God assures us that we will be forgiven as we forgive others. That is pretty strong motivation. Realizing we are not perfect allows people to sin/make mistakes/hurt us. God says it is really God they are sinning against and He will repay them. But we are supposed to forgive and God will help when we call on Him. Then forgiveness frees you of the burden of carrying it around and reliving the pain over and over, giving you life and vitality as a reward. Forgiveness is an art and we need the Master Artist’s help to make it.❤