The Free Will Conundrum 

I pray often for the unsaved to be saved, that God would move their hearts, soften them, change their minds. I do not want anyone lost. I want them saved and going to heaven, especially everyone. I love these beautiful people God made! I love you! ❤ But the thing is this free will God gives everyone. It is a conundrum, it really is. On the one hand, what an amazing gift to allow us to decide for ourselves whether or not to choose the right side, God’s side versus the wrong side, evil and rejection of God. You see, He requires choice because He is love and love is nothing if not generous and true. Love is not self-serving and longs for sincere love back but does not demand it.

 If we were puppets, God would be imperfect, a tyrant demanding us to follow and obey Him or die. God is loving and will not demand our worship but gives us a sound mind and opportunities and thr Bible to know Him, salvation through Jesus to be saved, blessings in our lives to see His goodness, longings for Him deep in our souls, and His beauty of His glory in His creation and in us and all He has made to make His presence obvious. 

So with ample chances and opportunities to accept salvation ample nd choose God, His desire and mine is that people use these many many chances to decide to be free, be God’s, be loved and loving, worshio, serve God. People can decide. But at some point, the lack of making a dedicated choice will be the undecided’s or procrastinator’s or lukewarm’s or rebel’s choice because time will be up. He will come for those of us deciding to be His firmly and faithfully. It will be too late. And I pray people will get their act together before too late is here and they realize too late lasts forever.

So yes, we have free will and can choose to serve God or ourselves/evil/anyone other than God. And yes, we are big stuff for being able to decide our eternal fate for ourselves. We are free to be wise or fools. So, let’s all be wise and choose God to serve and obey now so too late doesn’t show up before we expect it. God loves us so much!❤❤❤


Proverbs 3

Proverbs: 3. “1. My son, do not forget my teaching, but keep my commands in your heart, 2. for they will prolong your life many years and bring you peace and prosperity. 3. Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. 4. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man. 5. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6. in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. 7. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil. 8. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones. 9. Honor the Lord with your wealth, with the firstfruits of all your crops; 10. then your barns will be filled to overflowing, and your vats will brim over with new wine. 11. My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, 12. because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in. 13. Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding, 14. for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold. 15. She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her. 16. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. 17. Her ways are pleasant ways, and all her paths are peace. 18. She is a tree of life to those who take hold of her; those who hold her fast will be blessed. 19. By wisdom the Lord laid the earth’s foundations, by understanding he set the heavens in place; 20. by his knowledge the watery depths were divided, and the clouds let drop the dew. 21. My son, do not let wisdom and understanding out of your sight, preserve sound judgment and discretion; 22. they will be life for you, an ornament to grace your neck. 23. Then you will go on your way in safety, and your foot will not stumble. 24. When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet. 25. Have no fear of sudden disaster or of the ruin that overtakes the wicked, 26. for the Lord will be at your side and will keep your foot from being snared. 27. Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to act. 28. Do not say to your neighbor, “Come back tomorrow and I’ll give it to you”— when you already have it with you. 29. Do not plot harm against your neighbor, who lives trustfully near you. 30. Do not accuse anyone for no reason— when they have done you no harm. 31. Do not envy the violent or choose any of their ways. 32. For the Lord detests the perverse but takes the upright into his confidence. 33. The Lord’s curse is on the house of the wicked, but he blesses the home of the righteous. 34. He mocks proud mockers but shows favor to the humble and oppressed. 35. The wise inherit honor, but fools get only shame.”

Look, I’m a Doctor

I have a doctorate. I worked hard and long to get it. I do not use my title to promote myself or pump my ego up. I never insist to be called Dr. LaLonde, though I have a right to be called so. The thing is, when I feel the need to speak out on a topic I understand inside and out, I will say it with the full breadth of my authority and education to make that point that may help other people. “Look, I’m a doctor”, I say. I know health, I understand it. I have studied math and sciences to the nth degree, having degrees on degrees and yet am the humblest person I know. Why? Because God gives knowledge, wisdom and understanding, and He can choose to n give all that to someone else if I get too high and mighty on my cloud thinking I am smart. I am blessed and know the difference. I guess in that way, by the grace of God, I know to be humble which makes me smart. No, all that being said, I excelled in debate in school, always won the argument and here is why. You have to know both sides. You cannot determine what is right and healthy without exploring what is wrong based on symptoms and history. You cannot. There is an ignorance in believing what someone told you without requiring the evidence or exausting the other possibilities based upon reputable sources. So when you hear something, even if told you by someone you know or like or are related to, understand that before it becomes a belief, it needs to be checked against the facts and proven. This is against ways true. Do not be a lazy believer. Question, ask, seek, read, pray and truth will present itself to you. Look around, we have plenty of willful ignorance and laziness around us and lots of devisive propogandists attacking America and our American-elected President, lots of people accepting other people’s misinformation as fact and buying what they are selling with smoke and mirrors. Do not be one of those people. Dig, read, pray, think for yourself, decide for yourself. God gave you an invaluable and very intelligent mind. Use it. Research both sides and make an informed decision and stand for it. America needs her people to support her and her freedoms to think. You got this.

Knowing is Very Little of the Battle

Knowing things is easy. It is at our fingertips. Knowledge is everywhere we look, all over the place. It is easy to come by. It is literally everywhere. If I turn a corner to sharp, there is knowledge. If I look next to my bed there is the Bible there, ready for use, ready for giving knowledge. Knowing things, little trivial knowledge or vast and deep book knowledge or knowledge of unknown or imagined things in alternate dimensions, it is a few keystrokes away in hot spots all over our good land. Knowledge is not the problem. The problem seems to come with intention. People say “Knowledge is everything” or “Knowledge is power”. Now what actually sets you apart is if you choose to apply that knowledge to the task at hand. Mixing knowledge and wisdom is the real goal. If you have knowledge and apply it and use it correctly at the right time for the right reasons to solve problems and help, you are like the most amazing of people on our planet. There is an actual shortage of people who can do this. A deficit. I used to be pretty good at it but have fallen into the rat race a little bit, go here, go there, do this, do that, be busy busy busy. So even I cannot use my knowledge correctly of late. And suddenly a problem hits so big that my wisdom would come in handy and here I am out of practice. I believe the enemy really wants us distracted for this reason. There are enormous problems that arise in life that require wisdom and if distracted and out of practice, knowledge is wasted and problems blossom and remain. So here is the big question. What do we do about that? And he answer is be less busy and read the wisdom Book and practice practice practice.

Not the Most Important Person

I have never felt like I was the most important person in the room, provided there was at least one other person in the room. My upbringing at home and in the church and Christian school had everything to do with this. I was taught humility, which has become some strange invasive, old-fashioned, rude, archaic, self-loathing word now. When I was growing up it meant simply that you were humble. You thought more highly of others than yourself, even though you still loved and took care of yourself. Pride and subsequent narcissism is at some kind of all time high. People seem to rather bask in center-of-the-worlditis. They love thinking of themselves, adoring themselves, taking pictures of themselves constantly to prove to the world how gorgeous they are at every moment, demanding me time, do for me, I deserve this, all about me. Quite frankly, it is enough to make me want to throw up. I am so tired of this pervasive disease of me-ness. I exist so take care of me. I am pretty so pamper me. I am incredibly amazing so worship me even more than I do. Wow! Am I the only one who is tired of it? I see it everywhere, workplaces, churches, public places, with spouses in homes. And why does it bother me? Why care how much self worship and self love someone conveys? Here it is. I love people and I love the God who made us all. More and more, I love people who are introverted. As a natural extrovert, I honestly used to wonder why all people were not outgoing and foolishly thought that slowness to make a decision or answer was a form of weakness. Yes, really really stupid, I admit I was. As I have matured and shut my own mouth long enough to attend to people more and really see them, I observed that these patient introverted souls were some of the most strong and incredibly amazing people on the planet and most of them had this quality of being humble (at least outwardly). And I saw how the proud who “deserved” their own way pushed these gentle angels around, making them feel low and misunderstood and frustrated. And that infuriates me. It shows the foolishness and utter stupidity and ignorant crassness of the narcissist and their utter disregard for their Maker. Very little lights my fire faster than seeing a worthy soul pushed low by an ignorant jerk. I have no problem having some serious words with people for this high crime that often or most of the time to unpunished. I have seen spouses do this, seeming to marry someone to take care of them, my way or the highway, not caring about their spouses’ needs and desires. Love is a two way street, mutual respect, that sort of thing. I have seen this pride carried away in work places, where people care more about their own personal lives than the work they were hired to perform and little gets done. Frustrating for the employer, from experience. I have seen it in churches, where people want their way over God’s way and make decisions they prefer rather than what is right. It is rampant all over. Here is what we can do about it. 1. We can be good examples and stay humble ourselves. 2. We can call narcissists out on their behavior when we see them hurting someone. 3. We can pray because only God can initiate change in a person’s heart. 4. We can trip them as they catwalk by. No, that wouldn’t be right, scratch that. 4. We can try to love on them by not encouraging them to walk all over us. Sometimes a simple no is all that is needed. Meaning, we don’t encourage their detrimental prideful behavior. And 5. We can use their bad behavior as an example of what not to do, as in keep us from pitfalls of pride, because we are all susceptible to it at one or more points in our lives. We can stay humble and let God work but we don’t need to keep being beat down. It is hard on the soul and spirit. God can work. So can we. These are my thoughts on the matter. A d yes, I was kinder and more tame than I might have been on the topic because of the influence of my beautifully gentle introverted friends and family. Thank God for you!!

How to Win the Fight Within

I love boxing. I love to watch, love to fight. I fight inside myself too. I seem born to fight. Unsure if from heredity (my Daddy was a boxing instructor in the Marines) or nostalgia (watching matches with him as a kid) or just the overwhelming drive and energy built into me, I really enjoy the fight. I don’t like losing though. Really really don’t like losing. So I have a way to win every fight inside me. This works. To win every fight within your soul, on do two simple things. The first is lay down and give up. The second is to give the fight away to God. He can win against everything. I didn’t say it was exciting. Refusing to fight IS actually an action, though, in this case. We bow out of the fight against the roaring flood of our pride. Our pride says we can beat this. We can win. And I always did before. But. Eventually we will come against a fight we cannot win, too big an opponent. And God will not fight for us if our enormous egos are blocking His way. So when faced with a small battle inside, start practicing your new line of defense: your double play: surrender the fight and give it to God to fight. He can not lose to anyone or anything.

1 Peter 5:8-9

“Control yourselves and be careful! The devil, your enemy, goes around like a roaring lion looking for someone to eat. Refuse to give in to him, by standing strong in your faith. You know that your Christian family all over the world is having the same kinds of suffering.” – 1 Peter 5:8 – 9