My Response to Being Bullied

When I am pushed, I used to proudfully push back harder but now I respod quite differently. I now question the source. “Why push me?” “What do you gain from pushing ME?” “Who is pulling your strings?” “What motivated you to choose a push?” “Are you in charge here or are you a pathetic lacky?” And here is the question I ask when I feel the best about it… “What is the lesson I need to learn here?” I have known since childhood that ALL BULLIES ARE COWARDS. Also, I truly fear no one or nothing because I know and believe the truth that “Greater is God in me than he who is in the world.” That has not ever changed and will never change. The thing is that you will make a bully back down by standing up to them but will only change their hearts with God’s love. Questions are a way to get the person to think, thus planting a seed of thought into an otherwise automatic destructive mode. And maybe I can learn from it as well as they can. There is always more to learn. So I stop any immediate harm first and foremost. Then I question. When Jesus was bullied, He fired back with questions. Is He not our ultimate example? Yes, He is. So there ya go. Works every time and maybe you become their first real friend and give them a tool they can use for good or conversion or repentence.❤

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A New Low on Pansy-ification of our Kids

So, the pansy-ification bosses, whoever they are, decided that our kids were hitting the bat too hard or were having too much fun. And so they got together to decide just how pansy-ish they could make our kids and how at the same time they could make a heck of a lot of money. And voila, they decided kids’ baseball bats now had to be made of a composite plastic that would hit really woosy-like and cost a fortune. And this is now required! So the ball isn’t hit as hard. And we are supposed to be ok with us, this dumbing down of childhood, this making our kids whimpy/pansies, especially for money, is apprehensive and should be so. And to enforce it, if their baby expensive bats are not used, they will withdraw insurance so they are reinforcing it. I just want everyone to know this is not ok. It is right up there with not allowing guns to be purchased because someone was shot by a derilect three states over. Like the gun is the perpetrator and fires itself and like bats kill kids because they are too hard. What? Have people lost their American minds listening to that garbage? What’s next, full body armor to catch the ball???

When Ministry Challenges

When you are blocked in ministry, pray. Talk to the higher ups intelligently and spiritually. Then put it in God’s hands for the outcome. Do what you can, though. The days of delicately sitting aside and letting the enemy win are over. Stand up for Jesus. He died for you. ❤

The Key to Not Taking Offense

Everyone knows me now knows I do not take offense at the criticism of others. I see every person’s comments as personal biased opinions for which there is a rigorous but unknown backstory. Someone may say something rude but they did not mean to be rude, they did not have another way to express their lack of energy at such a horrible day they had. Or the rude thing may reflect their upbringing and they think it is normal. Or their car broke down earlier and their frustration level is overflowing onto me. There is a reason and I love people enough to give them that benefit of the doubt. Now if I am victim of it habitually, I will pull them aside and talk to them and apologize for any offense I have given them. This does two things: breaks the ice in a humble way and makes their bad behavior realized. It may even help them get to the heaet of the matter. I mean, who doesn’t want to be apologized to? Who stays angry at someone being humble to you? So the key is to stay humble and not take things/words personally. For instance, I went out shopping, I noticed the weird phenomenon that I turned a lot of guys’ heads. I thought I must be having a good looking day and that’s nice. Then my husband tell me this dress makes me look fat. The old me would have either attacked him or cried, depending on the time of the month, but nope. Not today. Not anymore. I no longer take the offense. I consider the source, he was raised highly critical and thus criticism is normal conversation, in addition it is his strange, twisted way of trying to help me look my best. It is not nice but I no longer take offense. If I need a word of encouragement, I go to God or my best friend. So someone may pitch you something offensive with or without realizing it but it is up to me or you to take it, accept it from them or not. Don’t take it personally but just as if they were trying to give you a present of garbage, you can gracefully refuse to accept it and say “no thanks, not my size” or “no thanks, not true of me”. Stay humble, seek to understand and you may help them. Forgive them and you help you too. Love you. ❤

Joy versus Happiness

Happiness is a feeling based on a decision. Joy is much deeper. Joy is a character trait, a result of the Holy Spirit living inside. It is proof that you are God’s, part of His internal spiritual gift to you and is not conditional upon a decision (excepting that initial decision of salvation). Happiness is a decision and is generally tied to feelings and emotions which are readily tied to circumstances. You can temporarily force happiness in bad circumstances by strong will and decisions, but can never sustain such will when tired or hurt or damaged for very long or consistently. Joy, however, is forever. Joy is internal, unshakable, incombustable. Joy cannot be moved. However the enemy tries to dumb it down or distract you from its amazing power. The joy of the Lord Jesus Christ is our strength inside us available any minute or second of the day. The joy of the Lord is my strength. Happiness is external, joy is internal. Our goal should never be so shallow and fleeting as to be happy. Happy is so easy to manipulate. Joy is deeper, stronger, internal, POWERFUL. You can not increase its presence or power in your life, you can only recognize it more as you declutter your spirit and soul of distractions and wordy pullings. Joy is our treasure, so closely bonded to peace that the two must exist together. These attributes of God live in us who are saved! We own these valuable resources! We do not have to ask for them. We have to obey and uncover them with faith and release of this world. This world is not our home, we are just passing through. Heaven is our home. And while on earth, we have valuable joy and peace and the other fruits of the Spirit tied together with love and hope and faith. Wow!! What incredible power we possess over the schemes of the enemy. How beautiful is the blessed God who is the originatornof these gifts and pours them out to us generously and lovingly. Is am so thankful that He saw fit to save such a little girl as I am. Accepted by God, it does not matter who else rejects me. I am a beloved child of the Most High God!!! So are you!!! ❤❤❤

Destructive People

There are some people who we are really better off never knowing. They are destructive, “toxic” in today’s language. The problem is that most often we do not know this about them until we are in deep enough that the damage is already done. Of course, there are plenty of destructive people who make it obvious that they are just that, for instance those trying to divide America and not support her President’s attempts to unite and heal us or those who use their entertainment platforms to combat unity, but I digress. For those secretive about it, one way we can prevent being conned is by being close personal friends with the truth. When we are close to God in regular prayer and read His Word, we are so familiar with the truth that when we come in contact with smooth talk and little subtle lies, we see it for what it is. And expect it to look good, maybe too good, and play on emotions. If you feel your emotions being tugged or moving unusually, chances are something is amiss. Remember that as the very best of roach killers is 99% food and 1% poison, so the very best of lies are 99% truth and 1% poisonous lie. These are the ones we have to be the most closely on guard for. For example, in my previous life, I had met a guy who told me how beautiful I was, how wonderful my personality was, how fantastic everything I did was, how much he lived me, etc. and my emotions were tugged. Of course, as soon as someone came by who he thought had more to offer, he dropped me like a bad habit and left me high and dry, not even looking back. Talk about destructo-boy. Smooth, pretty words with a touch if real truth amidst a world of flattert. This is just an extreme example but happens a lot. This is why when I met my husband, who is a little rough around the edges but never pretends to be anything else, I respected that and took notice. It should never the goal of an honest person to get what they can from you. And when someone loves you for who you are, like my husband does, they may not talk so pretty but they prove they love you by their actions, helping you with life and not demanding your life from you. I can be myself with my husband. He loves me is why. Destructive people love only themselves, and I am not sure they even understand the word love truly. They are damaged so they damage others or chose to damage others because of evil choices. It really doesn’t matter why unless they are trying to heal and change. The action requires us to eliminate that bad behavior from our lives. That is not selfish or rude or mean to them, it is good stewardship of what God has given us. It is being responsible and loving to ourselves. So please cozy up to God and His Truth as often as you can and be on guard against thieves of joy and peace, these destructive/toxic people. God knows. He will provide always. His love for us is real and true.