Beautiful Recovery

We are all in one of three conditions:

1. In need of recovery,

2. In recovery, or

3. Through recovery.

This recovery may be something such as lying, porn involvement/adultery, alcoholism, anorexia, bulemia, drug addiction, gossip, murder, judgmentalism, hypocricy, gluttony, gambling, selfishness, fear, worry, timidity, couch potatoism, tech addiction, idolatry, laziness, workaholism, abusiveness, omission, whatever you fill in.

We all, because we are living on a sinful Earth right now, have this sin problem to recover from. Those who have been through the horrors of recovery are amazing and obedient and God is pleased. I am amazed by the strength God provides these valiant and pure souls who humbly admit they screwed up and take action to correct it and repent.

Recovery is repentence.

You can call it whatever you want, but when you recover, and while going through that process, you are working on and succeeding in repenting from your whatever. And that is gorgeous.

How rich and luxurious is the heart and soul of the person who has repented/recovered! How wise is the person who was headed toward eternal separation from God and is now close to Him!

To those who have recovered/repented (and I am right in there too), praise God and I am so very proud of and pleased with you.

Those who are still lying that it is no big deal, it is not too late and feels really great to be on the other side. It is worth every discomfort and the pain will teach more than a thousand lies.

Praise God for recovery and never forget how much Jesus loves you to help you through it.❤

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Why Pornography Hurts Marriages

Pornography is not innocent fun. It hurts relationships and here is how, from a Christian wife’s perspective.

1. Trust is blown. The adulterer (person engaging in porn) has committed an adultery against his/her spouse. This has been done against the spouse’s back most of the time and been lied about. This tears down a trust wall pretty quickly.

2. It makes the spouse look bad/be easily disrespected because the spouse engaging in porn is viewed by the spouse as a self-control-less dog, some animal that can’t even control the sexual urges enough to keep sex between them only.

3. The spouse engaging in porn is dishonoring his/her spouse but the implied message that he/she is not enough to satisfy them, not airbrushed and misproportioned like those viewed, not unnatural enough, not good enough, not worth honoring with faithfulness.

4. The spouse engaging in porn develops a perverted and incorrect view of sex and becomes more and more difficult to make love (big difference) to their spouse. The plastic bimbos for hire are sex slaves and intimacy suffers enormously with the spouse who is not a sex slave but was designed to be so much more.

5. God is dishonored. This is the most important problem with porn. God is dishonored because you are saying by engaging in porn that what He says is irrelevant and unimportant and that disobedience and disrespect cannot help but separate you from a joyful prayer life and close relationship with God and if not repented from can cost you much more in eternity.

There are other reasons porn is sin and horrible for relationships, but these are the main ones I have found to be true and why couples should seek help if engaging in porn has become a habit (addiction illness) or if it has created a rift in the relationship. And God is only ever a humble prayer away to help also. ❤

Falling vs Fighting to Win Any Battle

Being humble is the key to winning every single battle. And allow me to clarify. Being humble is in no way, shape or form the same thing as being weak. It is being so very powerful, using every ounce of strength enough to fall before the Ultra-Powerful God of the universe and admit you need help and ask Him for it. Then He fights for you and He wins for you any possible battle ever. And the shame is that most people will not allow God to prove this truth in their lives. They prideful want to cling to each battle and keep it going for years and keep trying or running (addiction fantasies) for years, getting depressed or beat down or bitter or ruined. The winning is so simple if you choose it but it requires taking off the pride and clothing with humility and falling before God. So simple. So true. So beautiful. Worth a go, truly. It works. My life attests to this truth.❤

When People Prefer their Addictions to Loved Ones

Addictions are being labeled as a disease now. Of course, that is the people who do not have addictions label it a disease. People with the addictions say people without addictions are “holier than thou” (and I swear if I hear that one more time I will lose it), overreacting, judgmental (and other favorite), and making a big deal out of nothing. They justify and validate their repetitive horrible choice every time they pick up the porn pad or phone or Internet or YouTube with that adulterous filth on it or pick up that drug or lift that glass of alcohol or start another game medium or work that extra shift or lift that spoon up with way too much food, sign in to facebook, whatever the addiction of choice is. And you see, they really are not innocent vices. They damage relationships. Addicts prefer to believe the lie that all is well and escape into their addictions rather than ever confront the pain they initially needed an escape from. It is pathetic. But what is worse, it is a disease they do not admit to having so often never get help for. If they wanted to quit, they would at least admit they had something they needed to quit. They are deluded and steeped in denial and lies that they are not hurting anyone else. Another lie. They break trust with those closest to them. They betray everyone. They lie to everyone and not just themselves. They hide and lie when caught. They attack you because of the immense guilt and shame they carry at their weakness and sin, not realizing that those who love them and of course God are easy and ready to forgive and help. It is a lonely life to love an addict and you wonder sometimes how vast the lie web is and that no one but God and His truth can ever set them free. And here is the frustration. Every moment left alon, they are breaking your trust all over again. Then they wonder why you are ever suspicious of them. Only a bad hypocritical person would ever question my honesty is their angry argument. Only a nosy “self-righteous” snoop would care that all my passwords are never shared or their are locks on everything or whatever it is. Only a moron would question my honesty when I repeatedly lie to them. And moment by moment the lies upon lies are mocking God who sees everything and flipping off those who love unconditionally the shackled one they want to see free in Christ. No one wants to see someone they love miss out on the rapture or heaven because they choose some sin over God’s loving healing. It is so easy to be set free, the lies that seem so strong are really so very brittle against God’s love and truth. It is only one step to God, which is the opposite of the lie Satan provides so excessively. God is stronger than any stronghold. He is one step away from any of us at any given time… one humble prayer is that step. They whoosh, watch Him work.❤

Peaceful Anyway

You know, everyone is responsible for their own behavior, but when the person is close to you and chooses to dishonor God and themselves and even you rather than put down their addiction of choice, it is easy to take that personally and be upset. And it is upsetting, frustrating, difficult. But their choice is their choice and ours is ours. We must stick to our commitment and our decision to do the right thing ourselves. In this way, we remain at peace in our hearts with God’s help and continue living and doing the right thing. Addiction is a sin sickness and hurts everyone, even the person doing it. It is pathetic and sad and they feel grief and guilt all the time. Sometimes our peace and gentleness and fruits of the Holy Spirit and many prayers will allow them a place to seek help and heal. And sometimes not, but better to try it and remain obedient than to get our disobedient pride up and throw them out in the process. ❤

“Feeding Demons”

I just read a book called Feeding Demons by Perry Stone. (It is available on his website.) It expounds on the lies and limitations of demons in people. It is a very good book. There are some principles worth sharing about it (but I encourage those seeking more detail to get the book and read it- I am not affiliated with him other than being a sister in Christ.)

Principle 1: God and Satan are in no way, shape or form equal forces. God is infinitely more powerful and Jesus already won the final victory over all satanic forces and demons. Satan is a defeated enemy and he knows it but lies, lies, lies.

2. Jesus has complete authority over demons. As such, those who are humbly close to Jesus also have authority over demons because of Jesus and only in His name.

3. Every person has free will to allow or not allow demons in. We cannot cast a demon out against someone’s will. They must want freedom.

4. Prayer and fasting to and for God builds up spiritual power. You get stronger against the enemy by prayer and fasting. Closeness to God is everything.

5. Jesus’ protection is available to anyone who humbly asks Him to cover and save them and has faith. Faith is crucial and allows Jesus to work through you and salvation is our hope and peace. ❤

Facebook God

If you spend more time on Facebook and other social media and tech and games than you spend on God and loving and/or serving people, Facebook has become your god. And that is serious. I am proof you live happier and better and in obedience free of social media. I was addicted and it had become my idol and now I am free of it. I only blog for ministry and check my email and that is it for tech in my life. I want no more of it. I want God to be God in my life. I do not want Him to return and not be ready or worse, to have an idol of social media in place of Him. God deserves so much better; in fact, He deserves everything.❤