I Noticed

As I turned off all the distractions,

The cellphone, the tv, the music, distractions,

I noticed the flowers in bloom in the yard,

The sound of the birds and the insect’s alarm.

I noticed my breathing the fresh air around,

The sounds of my children speaking around.

I noticed they loved the look in my eye

When distractions gone, and they saw my delight.

I noticed the quiet, the calm and the peace

And talking to God was immediate ease.

And I noticed that life was much better by ten

And decided the distractions were at a permanent end.❤

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Addiction=Willful Bondage/Slavery=Idolatry

Any addiction you choose to put first in your life you chose. It is an illness that help is needed for, but it becomes an addiction to begin with by choice. The addict wants to escape the responsibility of reality by purposefully escaping into pornography, alcohol, drugs, overeating, overworking, not eating, whatever the drug of choice is. They choose this as their savior, their idol to enslave them. In doing so, they unwittingly choose a slavery lifestyle, to be dominated and controlled by the addiction, to life in perpetual guilt/conviction and shame, to be in hiding and lie continuously to cover it up.

This does not have to be the reality. God is way stronger than the ties that bind you to a false idol slavemaster. God is freedom. He only needs a humble, sincere prayer for help and He can and will provide a way out. There is a lot of help out there and with God as your helper, no slavemaster can rob you of His joy and peace and truth, which is the strength to rebuild and love you back to life.❤

God’s Prominence

God is the most important Person/Anything in the universe. I base that on the fact that He made everything. Think of it… everything you know about that exists in the universe was designed and made by God. That puts Him on the throne, friend. That puts everything else bowing to Him willingly (so much better) or unwillingly (a really bad plan). So, it would be so much better to put the cell phones/computers/social media/video games/entertainment/drugs/alcohol/pornography/heroes/addictions/obsessions down and give honor and praise and worship to God who designed and made you. Those things are worthless trash to distract and stupify you. They are traps of no worth. God needs to be returned to His rightful throne and prominence in our lives, our church, our city, our state, our country, our world. So much better to do so willingly while in this age of grace and mercy than to be forced to in the coming age of judgment. And because He is our loving God and we love Him back and are sincerely grateful for life at all, much less the many many blessings He pours out on our lives.❤❤❤

Beautiful Recovery

We are all in one of three conditions:

1. In need of recovery,

2. In recovery, or

3. Through recovery.

This recovery may be something such as lying, porn involvement/adultery, alcoholism, anorexia, bulemia, drug addiction, gossip, murder, judgmentalism, hypocricy, gluttony, gambling, selfishness, fear, worry, timidity, couch potatoism, tech addiction, idolatry, laziness, workaholism, abusiveness, omission, whatever you fill in.

We all, because we are living on a sinful Earth right now, have this sin problem to recover from. Those who have been through the horrors of recovery are amazing and obedient and God is pleased. I am amazed by the strength God provides these valiant and pure souls who humbly admit they screwed up and take action to correct it and repent.

Recovery is repentence.

You can call it whatever you want, but when you recover, and while going through that process, you are working on and succeeding in repenting from your whatever. And that is gorgeous.

How rich and luxurious is the heart and soul of the person who has repented/recovered! How wise is the person who was headed toward eternal separation from God and is now close to Him!

To those who have recovered/repented (and I am right in there too), praise God and I am so very proud of and pleased with you.

Those who are still lying that it is no big deal, it is not too late and feels really great to be on the other side. It is worth every discomfort and the pain will teach more than a thousand lies.

Praise God for recovery and never forget how much Jesus loves you to help you through it.❤

Why Pornography Hurts Marriages

Pornography is not innocent fun. It hurts relationships and here is how, from a Christian wife’s perspective.

1. Trust is blown. The adulterer (person engaging in porn) has committed an adultery against his/her spouse. This has been done against the spouse’s back most of the time and been lied about. This tears down a trust wall pretty quickly.

2. It makes the spouse look bad/be easily disrespected because the spouse engaging in porn is viewed by the spouse as a self-control-less dog, some animal that can’t even control the sexual urges enough to keep sex between them only.

3. The spouse engaging in porn is dishonoring his/her spouse but the implied message that he/she is not enough to satisfy them, not airbrushed and misproportioned like those viewed, not unnatural enough, not good enough, not worth honoring with faithfulness.

4. The spouse engaging in porn develops a perverted and incorrect view of sex and becomes more and more difficult to make love (big difference) to their spouse. The plastic bimbos for hire are sex slaves and intimacy suffers enormously with the spouse who is not a sex slave but was designed to be so much more.

5. God is dishonored. This is the most important problem with porn. God is dishonored because you are saying by engaging in porn that what He says is irrelevant and unimportant and that disobedience and disrespect cannot help but separate you from a joyful prayer life and close relationship with God and if not repented from can cost you much more in eternity.

There are other reasons porn is sin and horrible for relationships, but these are the main ones I have found to be true and why couples should seek help if engaging in porn has become a habit (addiction illness) or if it has created a rift in the relationship. And God is only ever a humble prayer away to help also. ❤

Falling vs Fighting to Win Any Battle

Being humble is the key to winning every single battle. And allow me to clarify. Being humble is in no way, shape or form the same thing as being weak. It is being so very powerful, using every ounce of strength enough to fall before the Ultra-Powerful God of the universe and admit you need help and ask Him for it. Then He fights for you and He wins for you any possible battle ever. And the shame is that most people will not allow God to prove this truth in their lives. They prideful want to cling to each battle and keep it going for years and keep trying or running (addiction fantasies) for years, getting depressed or beat down or bitter or ruined. The winning is so simple if you choose it but it requires taking off the pride and clothing with humility and falling before God. So simple. So true. So beautiful. Worth a go, truly. It works. My life attests to this truth.❤

When People Prefer their Addictions to Loved Ones

Addictions are being labeled as a disease now. Of course, that is the people who do not have addictions label it a disease. People with the addictions say people without addictions are “holier than thou” (and I swear if I hear that one more time I will lose it), overreacting, judgmental (and other favorite), and making a big deal out of nothing. They justify and validate their repetitive horrible choice every time they pick up the porn pad or phone or Internet or YouTube with that adulterous filth on it or pick up that drug or lift that glass of alcohol or start another game medium or work that extra shift or lift that spoon up with way too much food, sign in to facebook, whatever the addiction of choice is. And you see, they really are not innocent vices. They damage relationships. Addicts prefer to believe the lie that all is well and escape into their addictions rather than ever confront the pain they initially needed an escape from. It is pathetic. But what is worse, it is a disease they do not admit to having so often never get help for. If they wanted to quit, they would at least admit they had something they needed to quit. They are deluded and steeped in denial and lies that they are not hurting anyone else. Another lie. They break trust with those closest to them. They betray everyone. They lie to everyone and not just themselves. They hide and lie when caught. They attack you because of the immense guilt and shame they carry at their weakness and sin, not realizing that those who love them and of course God are easy and ready to forgive and help. It is a lonely life to love an addict and you wonder sometimes how vast the lie web is and that no one but God and His truth can ever set them free. And here is the frustration. Every moment left alon, they are breaking your trust all over again. Then they wonder why you are ever suspicious of them. Only a bad hypocritical person would ever question my honesty is their angry argument. Only a nosy “self-righteous” snoop would care that all my passwords are never shared or their are locks on everything or whatever it is. Only a moron would question my honesty when I repeatedly lie to them. And moment by moment the lies upon lies are mocking God who sees everything and flipping off those who love unconditionally the shackled one they want to see free in Christ. No one wants to see someone they love miss out on the rapture or heaven because they choose some sin over God’s loving healing. It is so easy to be set free, the lies that seem so strong are really so very brittle against God’s love and truth. It is only one step to God, which is the opposite of the lie Satan provides so excessively. God is stronger than any stronghold. He is one step away from any of us at any given time… one humble prayer is that step. They whoosh, watch Him work.❤