Now, I believe friends should talk to each other. I mean true friends. God puts people together for such purposes… to share and help and encourage each other and worship God together. Now, how can that happen if communication is down or one sided? Truly, it cannot.
I was very surprised to learn some disturbing stuff a friend is going through. It seemed all was well. I am not sure if it was their being good at hiding or my complete inattention to details which would have signaled me (I seem doomed to some level of blindness) and my optimistic nature, but I am certain both of us were at fault and I am sorry for my part.
My first reaction was “Why on earth didn’t you tell me so I could have been praying for you?” Secondly, I could have helped or encouraged or something. Thirdly, didn’t you trust me? Now, that last one I readily admit is selfish. But I want you to see how we extroverts think. And I get that introverts hate being helped so loudly. I get that. I understand… most of my few friends are introverts. My mom is an introvert. I get it.
But the praying thing is spot on. If you are going through something, feel free to say, “Now don’t make a big, loud deal out of this, but I need to talk and I need prayers only.” And that is totally doable. That is conditional, sharing your feelings communication right there. See what beautiful things can happen when we are true friends and share the load and pray together. Amazing things!❤
Good things and bad things happen to everyone. This is one fair thing that occurs in life. Of course, these good and bad things don’t happen at the same time, it is random. But I no longer believe any of these are consequences or chance. Nor are they fate or destiny. They are hidden messages from God. He cannot talk to us directly because of the sin so He does whisper to us when we confess and repent in humble prayer, especially with fasting. Otherwise, He speaks through situation, action, opportunities, etc. But while He is speaking to us, thr enemy sends us distractions to try to keep us from getting the message, so it gables with his lies and looks like misfortune or wrongs against us or chaos or injustice if we buy that garbage. And God still speaks. And if you free yourself from the distractions and lies and humbly pray for answers, God will clarify. He always will. Trust Him. Ask Him. Go to the source of the conversation.❤
Rather than pathetic and inconsequential shallow or even worldly questions, we Christians should be asking each other questions like this:
1. How is your prayer walk going?
2. Is there anything I can pray with you about right now?
3. Can I watch your kids for a few hours so you can pray?
4. What verses did you read today that encouraged you?
5. Please share with me some blessings from God today.
6. May I share with you today how God has shown Himself greater than my challenges?
7. Can we fast together in Spirit and prayer one day this week?
8. Is there anything I can help you with today?
9. Please tell me about a blessing God has provided for you today.
10. Are you ready to go to heaven when God comes for us?
Questions such as these matter for the kingdom of God, in conjuction with the Word of God. We are to operate on a deeper spiritual level than those who have not accepted Jesus as their Savior. We often dwell on the shallow which is not helpful in the long run or big picture. We need to start greeting ech other with holy hugs and kisses and meaningful questions which encourage our eternal life.❤
There is an art to communication. I find it is easier for me to be silent and listen when one much wiser is speaking. When those without such wisdom speak, silence is difficult for me. I long to learn, want to be wiser, ask God for such things. And when He speaks to my mind or heart, I listen and learn. But God is not a one-sided relationship. He does not want us entirely silent. He wants us to praise and worship and serve and sing and speak. His Words. He longs for relationship with us. Yes, we are to listen. But then respond. And how you respond is where the proof or absence of wisdom will be. Strive for wisdom. ❤
A huge problem of selfishness invades our churches and blog sites and pretty much everywhere in that people want to be heard but not listen. People want to be heard and want people to care but could care less to listen back and really hear others. They demand attention and audience like little children but have no time to listen back. This is selfishness and insecurity. If people understood that they are dearly loved by God and are secure in His salvation through Jesus, they would feel His secure love fully and not need validation of others. When God takes root in your heart, selfishness subsides and you long to give attention to God and to others rather than keep talking. This needs to be checked in all our hearts because selfishness stems from pride but being humble is what we need to be right with God.❤
There must be an enormous generosity in place within two conversationalists in order for hearing and understanding to occur. Both have to be humble enough to receive information and process it in the context it was meant. If one or both are too full of self/pride, either the hearing will be faulty or the understanding/wisdom within the context will be flawed. This flawed understanding happens in sublings, friends, marriages, nations, leaders, business, and it is never a good thing. This is one of many reasons God emphasizes the maintenance of humility as a characteristic we strive to live. God knows the importance of humbleness in communication and understanding, and really, what good comes from misunderstandings? So God knows what He is doing and please attempt to remain humble for His sake and that of all those around you. Everyone wins.❤
Today, I dare you to have three conversations, none of which involve any technology whatsoever. Think about who and what to say and look them in the eye and say it and wait for a response. It doesn’t have to be long but you have to be engaged and smiling. I dare you. ❤