Many are the traps out there. Many people are not as they seem for they choose the world and it’s promise of pleasures (it only temporarily and even then only partially delivers). Yet it amazes me how many justify their bad choices and reason them out with lies and half lies to not feel guilty or ugly as they are being.
This brings me to a new analogy. A duck that honks is a goose and will bite you. Do not trust a honking duck. Watch what people do, say, the noises they make with their body language. Then determine if they are worthy of your time and attention or just need your quiet witness and gentle testimony. Trust God and not people.❤
I have many people in my friends and family, grew up with and presently that are addicts. I used to believe that they were addicted to the gluttony of food, drugs, pornography, overwork, alcohol, sometimes many of those. I have lived around it all my life. At first, I thought that was just how everyone is. I adopted a lifestyle of addiction also. But God got a hold of me, I firmly believe because of my older generation’s consistent prayers. God changed my heart and life and cleaned me up entirely. And I live for Him with no addiction whatsoever. God redeems. And He has shown me that any addiction is not actually to the drug of choice or even the gluttony. All addictions are idols, they are addictions to lies and running to things other than God to help them. Addictions are false gods. And these false gods, who are evil, demand your allegience, your obedience, your possessions, your full attention, sacrifice. Whereas God wants you to choose Him and blesses every effort along the way when we do. God wants relationship with us. The false god of addiction demands up to and sometimes includes your life, while keeping you hungry and only momentarily satisfying anything you truly want n in your soul. God is truth and the false demonic god of addiction is lies. And addicts lie like you would not believe. Denial lies are their power source, and who is the father of lies? So, I pray for my addicted loved ones and speak truth whenever I can. I cannot save these people but I know that God can and if I can help them in their illness, I will. And I thank God for salvation from addiction and for having the opportunity to trusting and rely on Him only. He is truth and I love Him dearly.❤
Proverbs 3:5. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6. in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”❤
When lied to by someone close, my question is always, “Why didn’t they trust me with the truth?” It is a betrayal, a non-trust, a sadness that they didn’t believe in ME and know my heart that I am trustworthy and love them.
At least that has always been my go to before. Noe, as it has happened so much, I do not question that anymore. I turn it to myself introspectively and remind myself that God’s Word says to trust Him, not any other soul, no matter how close. He says in the Bible to be trustworthy but to trust Him. So we can do the best we can to give people reasons to be truthful and trustworthy back, but ultimately their response is their responsibility and very well may reflect their spiritual condition or woundedness rather than anything reflective of you. Or they can just chose to be evil. Either way, we are to trust God and be humble in prayer over those close to us. We are to pray all the time and rely on Him, trust in Him. People will let us down but be encouraged that God never ever will. He is our perfect God who loves us and wants so much to have a relationship with us that He provided a way through Jesus Christ. Wow. We are so very loved, friend, and God is our constant trustworthy companion. In God I trust.❤❤❤
If you can’t trust someone, I have a foolproof method of maintaining a relationship with this person. Pull up a chair and lean in, this is really good, based on my extensive life experience…
You trust God instead of them. God is trustworthy and no other person I have met (with a very few exceptional cases) is trustworthy. Just trust God. Put your trust only in Him.
Let me expand a bit. Go in with eyes wide open with this person. Do not trust them. Continue not to, people do not change unless they allow God to change them. Let trust in them die, do not maintain unrealistic expectations of them, know they are untrustworthy and do not be hurt or surprised or take it personally. They cannot help it, they have a sin sickness. They are in a human body on a sinful planet, right? Well… what do you expect? Unless people choose to be humble and allow God to rule their decision making, they are going to lie, sin, screw up. Heck, the same is true for me and even you. Just how it is. People have to humbly align their will under God’s to start looking as trustworthy as God is. And even then, one wrong move and bam.
So the key to getting along with people is realizing that everyone is a sin – possible person and is inherently untrustworthy. You accept that and put your trust, faith and security in God who cannot help but be trustworthy and happens to love you and also, ya know, rules everything because He made everything. That God of the Universe, your Heavenly Father, our hope, peace, joy, love, etc. Trust God. He cannot and will not let you down. And there it is. You are welcome.😄❤
I stand by my saying to never trust people but always trust God. People are flawed, fragile, often selfish so trusting them with things they cannot control is irresponsible and then to be disappointed when they let us down is naive and kind of based on ignorance and emotion rather than truth. However God can always be trusted because He is good and truth and love and I am His little girl. I trust Him because there is nothing that He does not know or understand and He can act to control it. I trust Him. I do not trust in people. Now there are times I love people or accept help and appreciate friendship and that is bonus and wonderful. But trust is reserved for God who is trustworthy.❤❤❤
Psalm 23:1. “The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing. 2. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, 3. he refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name’s sake. 4. Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. 5. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. 6. Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.”
My confidence in in God’s ability and live for me, not in my own abilities, which ebb and tide. I trust my Rock, my Shepherd.