Yes, God wants to bless you.
Yes, God loves you so dearly.
The truth is that sometimes we have to go through some stuff.
Why? Has God abandoned you? Are you sinning? Are you being punished?
Maybe, maybe not. Consider Job. His suffering (far worse than a good portion of us have been through) was to test him. That is it. Turns out he needed it because God had to straighten out some flaws in his thinking.
And the truth is “Thr Lord disciplines those He loves” and when you turn humbly to Him for help through it, your faith will grow, you will mature, learns some stuff and be better for it.
Now, what if, instead of humbly asking God to help and be with you, you harden up, pride up and try to solve it yourself or pout or whine or blame everyone, etc. You would have blown a teaching moment for spiritual riches and remained lacking.
So God cuts you a break and gives you another opportunity to humble up and ask Him for help and company. You can either humble up or pride up each and every time. And you then choose to be spiritually rich or poor. No one is to blame but you.
And that is a whole lotta truth I felt led to share. God sometimes allow us to fail because we are lacking and He is trying to train us because He loves us so much. And people learn far more by failing than success. ❤
As a family project, we put up a shed and a fence and started a sidewalk (still working on that one). As many of my regular readers know, we homeschool our kids. And we took off a week of “regular” schooling to do these family projects of shed and fence. And we planned and measured and mixed and leveled and built and so on all together as a team/ a family. It was an amazing experience and I thought how wonderful it was for all of us to learn together and create and build. My kids learned so much more than a book can teach and they need to feel useful and nd learn these skills. So for your next family project, even if you keep it simple like changing a light bulb or fixing a leaky sink (we also had to do), involve your kids and show them how. You want them calling you to their home in the future at 3pm to bail them out? No way, you want them to be able to plan and think and do it themselves. This is how they learn. Plus it unites the family and brings a greater value to each member and the family team as a whole. 🙂
Be thankful for every single thing. Say thank you to everyone for everything and mean it. Not sarcastically when so some is truly annoying and ignorant but with meaning and a smile. Why? Because everything is a gift from God. Goodthings and bad things are all gifts from God to reward or give you gifts because He loves us or to mold and shape and retrain us because He loves us. So as we say thank you with a smile, we acknowledge this about God for us and we increase our joy and peace and contentment. How very beautiful!
Being reared in rural Michigan about 30-40 years ago, there was great emphasis placed on being nice. In fact, there was such a push for it that there were actually negative consequences when you were not nice, some making it difficult to sit down for a while. And it was explained in one way or another by a seeming multitude of people (parents, teachers, neighbors, random town folk, church folk, etc.) what being nice consisted of. And since I have noticed a myriad of people around about me and my children lately seeming as if they have not had similar lessons, I wish to share my “nice” knowledge with the masses. Perhaps some of my recent register workers or stock folk at some stores I have been in of late (and even managers, yikes) may read this and start applying its suggestions. Now, warning ahead of time, you may not ever get a reward for being nice. In fact, you may have severe repercussions such as surprise or funny looks or suspicion placed upon you. However, there may perhaps be some vague rewards like, oh I don’t know, a promotion or maybe a smile or gratefulness. The possibilities are endless. Here are some good starting points. 1. It is nice to look a person in the eyes who is speaking with you. This shows the person you actually care what words are coming out of their mouth and maybe even that you give at least some inkling of a care about your job. It also conveys something rare and mysterious as well as quite fragile… respect for another human being. Since we are all made in the image of God on purpose, we are all due this respect but be one of the first to actually convey that and you will come across as “nice”. This is a good thing, believe it or not. 2. It is nice to help someone who needs help. I know this is a little shocking, especially if in a hurry to do something for yourself, but no one is asking you to give up your heart while you are still in need of it, just a helping hand now and again picking something up, holding a door, bringing to attention when someone drops their keys, etc. These things are nice. You would want to be helped if you needed it, right? This particular step on the ladder to niceness may actually be met with thankfulness. Maybe not, I mean not everyone is nice, remember? Which brings us to 3. If someone nice helps you in any way, do say ” thank you” with a smile. Why? Because it is nice to do so. It is so much nicer than sticking up your nose as if the entire world should bow before you and your greatness. So smile and say “thank you” to anyone nice enough to help you with anything. Respect the rarity of that. Respect the nice help. Be nice back. We will leave it at these three practices as a good start. Follow these simple guidelines and you will find, oh shopper at Walmart, that being nice is very… well, nice.
The hardest thing about teaching your children to give and serve and not take and be waited upon is us parents. The lesson requires a humble spirit and giving and serving on our part as the parents and teachers in order for the kids to learn and act upon the lesson. They will take if we take, they will give if we give, they will serve if we serve. To understand why, they must either experience want or need personally or view it in someone else up close and personal. When they never have to wait for blessing and all their needs are continuously met as soon as they are requested or demanded, the child is spoiled and lifted up and thus can not understand why they should not have everything they want faster. To yield a child who grows up to care more about other people than their own self, they must be broken, have a humble spirit and see through the eyes of God. This must happen or the kid soon to be adult will grow up proud and demanding and pompous. To properly teach this lesson, we must serve the broken, give to the needy, work with those unable to do so, feed mouths needing food, love on the unlovable. Also, kids who do not have to contribute to their family will either fee they do not have to contribute to society or will see themselves as merely decorative. Giving kids chores at home when they are young produces better spouses and members of society when they are older.