Looking for People

I am not on facebook. I was and wasted a heck of a lot of time on it pretending to be social but only writing, never saying or hearing an audible word from people, never making eye contact with them, never touching their skin. I still miss the thought of being “in touch” with them but once getting off of it realized it was just the thought I had to begin with. Knowing the events of a person’s life is in no shape the full picture of that person. Seeing pictures tells only part of the story. And I had shared my number before getting off of it and not one person from it except my best friend, one good friend and family has called since I’ve been off. No calls even when I was on, truth be told. It is this false notion of connectedness in an addictive need to know formula. And that is dangerous. One has a sense of urgent dependency to be on tech to feel connected but it is a false sense of connection. My husband got back on just to wish his daughter a happy birthday, as apparently she cannot communicate any other way. Now that he told her, he is getting off again. So, I was looking up a few friends from my past and they only jumped up in searches on facebook, maybe on Instagram too and nothing about real life. And it brought them right up so good people or bad people would know where they were, what they were doing, see their pictures, etc. That is pretty scary to me, maybe I am cautious. But being off facebook, evidently I am weird again and out of the loop and old fashioned and definitely out of people’s thoughts and minds and realm of communication. So, I draw closer still to God who loves me and my little family and take comfort that God is always with me, even on lonely night after lonely night and days of family and band family that are still around and maybe a friend now and then. And I am content, don’t get me wrong, but I miss days of calling someone up on a phone that doesn’t play a role in cancer and just talk or meet in person. Ooo, ah. What would it be like if neighbors still visited each other. What would happen if people actually still had and practiced real social skills? Who knew technology would kill real committed human connections. Amazing. So glad I have God or I would be extremely lonely in this world. I am so blessed. ❤

Socialization and America aka For Kids’ Sake

I have good kids. They are human and still kids, so of course they are not anywhere near perfect but we are working on getting them as close as we can by the time they are doing life as adults. Being homeschooled, people ask me the question of whether the kids can handle social situations. And one clear difference is certainly there. My kids make friends easily, but when they are asked to do something wrong or questionable, they will say no most of the time now and get picked on or bullied for it. I don’t see this as antisocial behavior they are being harassed for but rather anti-socialized behavior, aka having a mind of their own and obeying what they were taught. If this is termed as “antisocial behavior”, than I am quite pleased at it and am proud that I am “antisocial” as well. Nothing worse than millions of Americans being puppets on a string with no voice of their own. Are we communists? No, we are Americans, the people who bucked the “social nor s” of society in favor of freedom of thought and expression and vote. I am not digging being slammed down for teaching g my kids the right way to live and respond to terrorism (bullies). And we as Americans must continue to voice what is right, even if it against the “social norms”. Right is right and as long as we aren’t making up our own right that serves ourselves (as many of those we have elected are electing to do) and our right is based on truth (the Bible), we must stand for that right. The effective way to deal with bullies of all shapes and sizes and scopes of power is by standing up to them. This country that I love has not stood against these injustices, the I justice of being bullied, the injustice of abortion, the injustice of abuse of any kind, the injustice of being harassed for being followers of the Creator God through Jesus Christ. We should not cower and put up with and cow tow before these villains. We have done so misguidedly thinking it is the Christian way. It is not. Yes, we love, Yes, we exhibit joy and peace and freedom. But we do not let someone remove our rights to inflict their demands upon us in stark co trash to our beliefs. We go then from being a light set on a hill to all the world to being willingly snuffed out because we don’t want to offend or stand or be inconvenienced or do something. Antisocial is okay if social is against the truths we live by. Those who imply it is not okay have their own agenda or guilt they are dealing with and are terrorists/bullies on some level. That is just my thought. Radical, I know.