People take for granted I am as hooked on Facebook etc as they are. I have been anti-social media sober for 1.5 years now. I do not ever regret it. I have peace and joy in my life and benefit extensively with human interaction with my family. I have time to do everything I need to do. I look people in the eye and have time for a face to face conversation. It is beautiful.
People seem horrified when they learn I am not on anti-social media, wondering how I survive. This makes me smile but I do not judge, I was there at one point. I just know that not one ounce of me misses it or longs for it again. My life personally is richer without it. The biggest bonus is that God has His proper place in my life and my Bible reading is an actual Bible and not FB posts. Lol ❤
Today, I was socially cautious and ambiguous in a crowd! We had our first 4-H meeting today and lots of people were there and I sat back and watched and listened quietly. This excites me very much because usually in my haste to make friends, I frighten people and talk too much, I radiate the room, without meaning to. It is generally not good and generally gets me into trouble. Silence has been my goal, ambiguity. I want to be the fearless leader God made me to be but I am learning to temper that with wisdom and know when to speak and when to remain silent. That is the key. But Yay for little accomplishments. One must celebrate tiny victories along the way. 😄❤
I am not on facebook. I was and wasted a heck of a lot of time on it pretending to be social but only writing, never saying or hearing an audible word from people, never making eye contact with them, never touching their skin. I still miss the thought of being “in touch” with them but once getting off of it realized it was just the thought I had to begin with. Knowing the events of a person’s life is in no shape the full picture of that person. Seeing pictures tells only part of the story. And I had shared my number before getting off of it and not one person from it except my best friend, one good friend and family has called since I’ve been off. No calls even when I was on, truth be told. It is this false notion of connectedness in an addictive need to know formula. And that is dangerous. One has a sense of urgent dependency to be on tech to feel connected but it is a false sense of connection. My husband got back on just to wish his daughter a happy birthday, as apparently she cannot communicate any other way. Now that he told her, he is getting off again. So, I was looking up a few friends from my past and they only jumped up in searches on facebook, maybe on Instagram too and nothing about real life. And it brought them right up so good people or bad people would know where they were, what they were doing, see their pictures, etc. That is pretty scary to me, maybe I am cautious. But being off facebook, evidently I am weird again and out of the loop and old fashioned and definitely out of people’s thoughts and minds and realm of communication. So, I draw closer still to God who loves me and my little family and take comfort that God is always with me, even on lonely night after lonely night and days of family and band family that are still around and maybe a friend now and then. And I am content, don’t get me wrong, but I miss days of calling someone up on a phone that doesn’t play a role in cancer and just talk or meet in person. Ooo, ah. What would it be like if neighbors still visited each other. What would happen if people actually still had and practiced real social skills? Who knew technology would kill real committed human connections. Amazing. So glad I have God or I would be extremely lonely in this world. I am so blessed. ❤
In a technology world, we get lovely sickos who use that technology to attack people in the privacy and cover of their own homes in complete safety and security. They live for preying on people. Of course if you do not use technology, you are protected but probably less able to function as time goes on. And many people have had identity isses and scammers or hackers or credit card thieves attack them or try something somehow. And that is horrible. Thieves have a curse on them. It is very terrible to take away what someone has worked hard for. But there are other types of wrongs done online on social media networks all the time. It is the glorification of ourselves and degrading other people. This is also stealing, stealing someone’s right to be as much of a child of God as you are. Not o E person, regardless of status, is any more important than any other person in existence. Every one of us makes mistakes, but every one of us is just as able to bow humbly before God and approach His throne directly in prayer. Every single person. When we use our words carelessly, we are in grave danger of Speaking against God and His creation. He pours a little of His likeness into each of us. We are all valuable. And when one of us is wrong, better to pray for God to help them ease back to the fold rather than attack them and create the potential of adding weight to their sin and matching that with your own. Just something to think about.
Simple is better. I feel so free after cleaning out the closets. Anything that has not been touched in a year for us goes to people who may be able to use it or donated to charity or given to friends who would have need of it. The year thing works for us. It leaves more room in our tiny closeted rooms (builders really should consult moms for closet space). And there is a definite feeling of freedom and positive energy flow when you de-clutter. Why have things you don’t need or use? Yes, we never get rid of pictures and rarely dispose of books, but everything else needs to be functional or needs to go. I have moved twenty or so times (and hopefully never again) and you learn very quickly that less is better. Simple is also better when we look at social clutter. There is a lot of social clutter about and entertainment clutter, for that matter. All of it suffocates the soul just like physical stuff suffocates the body and mind. It is all to be decreased as the valuable things are set free to thrive. I would rather play games with my kids and cook dinner with my husband than sit and watch something that doesn’t matter at all. Simplify and be free! 🙂