And why should we not be selfish creatures is the argument, right? We are, after all, the crowning achievement of creation and represent God’s glory and genius. We who think and reason and choose freely. Should we not honor ourselves? Are we not co-creators, precious to God? Yes. Yes, we are. However, we are still, in all our immeasurable importance and glory, still the created. I can be waited on, praised, idolized, deemed valuable to society at large and never be more than the created. No one ever will be but God. I repeat, we have one Creator God and we are not nor will ever be Him. Worship Him. He is the important One. Be who you were made to be. That is glorious enough.❤
So, Steve replaced the battery contacts and charged the battery and I am running it to keep it up. Praise God!!! And thank you, Steve also. And I decided while I had to run around a bit to stop and put air in my tires, as they need it. And waiting in line, some jerk pulls in front of me to beat me to the air. In a monster truck. With a smolder on his jerk face. And his lights are on in my face. And the old me would have whipped his tail. Literally. But the closeness to Jesus has calmed me. So now I realize it is just that in the end times people are lovers of themselves. Only. And I feel sorry for the selfish guy and so many others missing out on the joy and happiness of chivalry and service. It may be nearly gone, but when Jesus returns, wow, I will not care then. ❤
4 factors: 1. Level of Selfishness. 2. Level of Brokenness. 3. Level of Maturity. 4. Choice/Free Will.
Some people are just selfish and most are broken in some way. Our brokenness can be used as a stumbling block and/or excuse to do what you want for yourself to get your own way because it is all about you. Or. There is a better way. The brokenness can yield understanding and depth of character if one is humble enough and mature enough to learn the lesson and grow from it and grow close to God who can help.
The first group of people will never change until they decide to. And if we need to protect ourselves or children from them, then we must. The second group of people are the most beautiful and intriguing people in the world. ❤
When someone comes up to you that has been a close friend for years and tells you to take a flying leap because they feel their life is better without you (of course they word it nicer), do yourself a favor and reply “Good call”. Turn around. Walk away. Thank God He saved you from getting even closer before they decided to throw you away like rubbish. I am tired of people thinking their feelings are the only important ones, to heck with anyone who fell for it and loved them and genuinely wanted to help. As if life isn’t hard enough. Yes, they will leave a hole. Yes, it will hurt. Yes, it teaches a lesson on trust. But thank God He is our loving Father and causes them to leave you alone to rebuild and restore. Restoration is the only option. Love of who remains is the only driving force to get you through the heartache. But time lessens this pain and we that remain grow closer. It is for the best to know sooner than later. I am leaning more on family and Jesus and a few close friends who are family and I am going to go on so slowly anywhere else ever. Real life has enough pain in it to add to it by caring for those who admit they are happier without you, could care less if you exist, do not even want to keep in touch. I am happy to honor their wishes but it would maybe hurt a little less if they at least felt guilty or missed us or something. Narcissists suck. They use you and throw you away. And if that is not the case, there would be no reason to throw you away. They suck. They hurt everyone and wonder why they have trouble sleeping at night. Wake up, people. If you are friends with someone who discloses little and is not open with you, withdraw before you get too close. Their heart is weighing whether your friendship is worth their while or if they get more by moving on and being rid of you. Save yourself heartache and move on, draw close to the Lord and He will heal you. Draw near to God and He always draws near to you. Love on your family, always a good investment. Never ignore those pouring love into you. That shows where their heart is.
For those happy and content to foster an addiction willingly that harms your mate, selfishness knows no bounds but there is hope. Choosing to continue a harmful behavior not only hurts the self but also hurts any who love that self, including God. For example, someone might choose to gamble, which seems harmless in small amounts but when taken to a selfish greedy level, there isn’t money for needed things for the family of that person. People stop trusting and start hurting. This robust selfishness is incredibly hateful to those surrounding that person. Another example, there is nothing wrong with drinking wine or beer but when drinking and getting drunk takes that selfish priority over parental duties or work, everyone starts to suffer. Another example, when someone gratifies themselves by watching touched up and plastic people and their spouse never is gratified, trust is broken and the relationship suffers. All these selfish behaviors are choices the selfish person makes again and again. At any point in time, these people can make a different choice. Just one good choice can begin a healthy habit. One can choose to believe that God provides and loves and helps. One can choose to make a different choice and trust their spouse with loving them better than someone they can’t touch. One can choose to trust God with providing finances rather than trying to win it in a bet. One can decide to not get drunk one day and trust that God will reward that behavior with a good day with the family. One can. Selfishness is not an incurable disease. The incredible power of free will and God’s help can change behaviors. God is bigger than feeling of insecurity or neglect. God is bigger than powers of evil that wish you lifeless inside and alone. God is bigger than ugly and mean. These things are no match for God, as long as you let Him work in your life. It is each person’s choice.