The Changing of Roles

Somewhere in the mix of time and rearranging of life, I went from everyone’s favorite playful friend to everyone’s momma. I went from playful to responsible for everyone. I am now “mom” and not just for my kids and their friends that come over. No, I am mom to everyone and I am not sure how it happened. I was always a natural born leader but usually led the fun. Now I am caregiver and momma so lead as a mom. I am not even sure when this happened. Maybe it was a long transition and I just noticed it all of a sudden. The important thing is that I am ready to be what anyone needs me to be for the glory of God. If people need care and love more than they need to laugh and have a good time, bring it on. I will do all I possibly can. And who knows, maybe we will laugh a bit along the way too. 🙂

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Feminism & Roles

This topic is hot and important as so many women are impacted daily with the effects of feminism and anti-faminism nowadays. We see it all the time and it sickens me. I am just a little girl but I have a big voice and a bigger God. Here is my humble opinion: 

Being 43, and born into a farming Christian family in a small town of Buchanan, MI, and currently a homeschooling housewife, I guess you would think I would be “old fashioned” when it comes to views on women and their roles in the world. And I am. However, as a doctor who started her own practice from scratch and ran it successfully for four years, having been through a divorce after 10 years of marriage and being a single working mom before I remarried, I guess you would call me a “modern woman”/”feminist”. So which is right? 

The long and the short of it is that God looks at our hearts and motivations. That is true for men and women. But speaking of women now, I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that I can and should do any and everything God has asked me to do and given me the ability to do. And I am willing to be trained to do His will for me without prior training. That is a healthy viewpoint as a woman and mother. Now, I also believe strongly that each person is made in the image of God, all people are equal in importance because of this and women should be able to vote, work, take care of their kids and families and serve where they feel called by God to do so. They are equal. Men have this same right. But with privilege comes reaponsibility. This degretory and highly abominable opinion that bad men request and bad women oblige that women need to shed their clothes at request and much more while men watch fully clothed and gawk, and with each time thus happens two things occur: men get stupider and women get stupider. Men who jack off to airbrushed women on a computer or phone screen or in a movie or whatever have less enjoyment and ability to bond with or sexual enjoy their spouse and see women as stupid or sex toys and have unnatural standards of beauty because their wife is not airbrushed. And women who subject themselves to this degredation lose their self-respect and become morose and lonely and wonder why that is all men really wand from them and no connection they long for. And it is so prevalent that there is all growing rift between men and women. If men would be men and man up and shun this unnatural attraction and be satisfied with their wives and love them, and if women would stop disrespecting themselves and all other women by foolishly doing what greedy and lustfull fools want them to do, there would be a more natural understanding of equality. And men would naturally take their place as head of the household and women would naturally be so deeply in love with and respect their husbands, life would be infinitely better for everyone. Men need to be respectable men and not perverted selfish jerks. And women need to be women and concern themselves with their household. And the porn industry should be damned and thrown out on their greedy assessment straight to hell for all the damage they have done to families and people’s opinions of men and women and their roles. And no man should ever ever EVER hit his wife or humiliate her and berate her and a real man woukd never do that. That is fact. A man rapes a woman, he should suffer the same fate in prison. A real man concerns himself with Godly responsibilities and using His gifts to provide and care for his family and keep his focus on only his wife and his work and play only with her and leave the cyber sluts and all other women alone. 

And in return, it is my distinct high honor and privilege to serve my family. I am more of a woman for it. I am strong for what I miss out on so they prosper and thrive. And that is my humble and old fashioned and 100% correct and healthy and Godly viewpoint on feminism and the roles of women and men. God be praised for His design! He is so good!

Changing Roles in Familia

I figure I have lived about half my life, barring some unforseen event, and it is long enough to experience a change in my parents so drastic that I am writing about it. When I was young, they took care of me. Now, my Daddy is 77 and needs a lot of care. So my parents just moved close by so I could help. It is a strange thing to see the strongest man I’ve ever known in so many ways be so very weak and needy. I am glad to have him close by to help. My Mom and I are now also in close proximity and the dynamic there has also changed. She is in a place, at 60 years of age, that she needs some help but only on her terms. I think of it as dependent independence. I am just exploring how this will all work, with this pair new to my little tight knit world of our little family of four and am trying to figure out how to caretaker but not lose us. It is a strange quandary and time will tell what it ends up looking like. One thing I know is that I am praying for things I’ve never needed before and going new places on this life journey and God will continue to be God and He will never change in His faithfulness and love and care of me and if I keep Him first in my day and hour and minute, He will keep me and ho!d me and balance me. How do I know this? Because He always has and He doesn’t ever change!