When people are wilfully ugly to us, we have a choice on how to respond. 1. We can pout and have a pity party, using that as an excuse to do something we should not that is entirely selfish/narcissistic. 2. We can get angry with righteous indignation and “vent” to everyone we know, using that maybe also as an excuse to do something we should not that is entirely selfish/narcissistic. 3. We can get even with revenge and unforgiveness (that unfortunately never hurts them) and inventing creative ways to be seen on the higher ground or be able to retake our wounded pride, often using that as an excuse to do something we should not that is entirely selfish/narcissistic. 4. We can pray and be thankful for what we have and the opportunity to set our pride down and turn to the Lord for help and comfort. And the last one there is of course the only option we should go to as Christians. Matthew 5:11. “Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. 12. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you. (-Bible Offline).” Look at Paul and Silas’ response to wilfully ugly people. Acts: 13:50. “But the Jewish leaders incited the God-fearing women of high standing and the leading men of the city. They stirred up persecution against Paul and Barnabas, and expelled them from their region. 51. So they shook the dust off their feet as a warning to them and went to Iconium. 52. And the disciples were filled with joy and with the Holy Spirit. (- Bible Offline).” And again, Acts 16:22. “The crowd joined in the attack against Paul and Silas, and the magistrates ordered them to be stripped and beaten with rods. 23. After they had been severely flogged, they were thrown into prison, and the jailer was commanded to guard them carefully. 24. When he received these orders, he put them in the inner cell and fastened their feet in the stocks. 25. About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening to them. (- Bible Offline).” Let’s be the Christians God intended us to be and really be that light I’m a dark world.❤
I just saw lots of youtube videos on millenials. One was a rant about how they are basically pampered moochers and then several responders who did innovate and make are difference. And I wanted to respond to arrest those. Here is my insight: people will rise to the level of their morals, regardless of age. People raised with Christian/high moral standards or who have incorporated and internalized high moral standards by upbringing or choice will be responsible, good, upright citizens who dependably care and help and serve and treat everyone with respect. Those with low moral standards will be idiots, selfish, narcisistic, entitled, wavering, disloyal, etc. Again, this is true of all ages. So there is hope for every generation through incorporating the high moral standards of God into our lives. And there are also more than ever opportunities for degradation. It is every person’s personal choice and I love that God provides hope for everyone. 🙂
1. Willful ignorance.
2. Selfishness and narcissism.
3. Mean spiritedness.
7. Inhuman behavior to other humans or animals.
8. Denying God His props.
9. Lack of freedom and appreciation for freedom and what it costs/costed.
10. Unforgiveness and ungenerosity.
So there is the list. I wrote the list becausee I met someone recently who actually exhibited all these. And not only have I gone through a roller coaster of emotions to get here but because I want to guard my own heart against these things. I believe maturity is not giving in to the temptation to treat people the way we have been treated. I also believe that when God forgives, He forgives completely and utterly and nothing of what He has forgiven remains in us. The other person may want to hang on to that and not forgive, but that only further injures themselves because who God has freed, they are free completely. So to my recent crazy, I tip my hat to the lesson that God is in charge still here on this third rock from the sun and I am forgiven and resting in His hands to handle the rest of it. He heals. Pet peeves that harrass and anger melt every single time into peace when on my knees. These horrors that can make a grown and mature person cry and resist and what not are absolutely nothing compared to the joy and peace of my God. An enemy cannot fight alone. If you do not fight back, they leave. All bullies are cowards. If they persist because they believe they are right or more right or a different more holy right than you, humbly let God fight for you and we will see who wins against Him. My guess is no one. There you have it. God bless and thank you, God, for your abundant love and peace and power. I am again amazed at Your efficiency and generosity and love and care of me. It is beautiful! Thank you for your peace!
You can tell a lot about a person by seeing how they handle sickness. You can tell a lot by how they care for the sick too. But those are distinctive. People can be graceful and loving when others are sick but bears when sick themselves. So their response to their own sickness shows their true colors. And not just a common cold but a full fledged viral flu attack. If they want to be alone and sleep and suffer in silence, they are maybe not convinced that other people are helpful or necessary or trustworthy to help. If they want you to wait on them hand and foot, they probably milk it just a little and want to be comforted and coddled back into health. If they bark at everyone, they tend to be more selfish and controlling because not being in control of their health is irritating them. And if they go to the doctor first they are more proactive and protective of themselves. Of course I may be wrong, as I have more experience with my patients of the last 12 years being confronted with diminished hearing not health. But the premise is there and personal observation. And it makes me think of what my being sick makes me like and what I can see of myself in my illness, which I happen to have right now. It is not severe, obviously or I would be sleeping right now if severe enough and certainly would not be writing, but it is an illness nonetheless. But when I am sick (unless very severe), I work anyway and make sure my husband and kids have what they need. I work through it, as taught me by my father. So, what does that say? Weird to think about your response to illness as showings great deal about your character or personality. But it does give glimpses you can see no other way.
I think mosquitoes are really around to teach us very important lessons about life. Many would say they wish Moses would have just swatted those two mosquitoes but I think they are still plaguing us for several reasons. First, they are a great equalizer. Of course, they have their favorites (me) but they can pretty much get everyone to run for the inside at dusk and spray things and hurl curses at them from our mouths pretty equally. Along those lines, we are kept humble as well for similar reasons. No one proudly struts around when they decide to attack. They duck and run for cover. They also teach us something about distraction. No matter how deep and important the conversation and thought being shared is, the conversation is over when these little evil distractions invade our space. And no matter how strong we are in our faith, if we are attacked by many distractions we can get off course and not finish the sentence, so to speak. I have had many attempts at distraction in the past, have some now and most assuredly will later, but it is my choice how I handle them. It is always our choice to allow the distraction to change us or cause us to side step when we are to go straight. Our job is to read God’s Word to know God’s will and pray for His strength and renewed protection from distraction every day or moment. If we make it a priority to prioritize, we run the very real chance of being unmoved by distractions and creation a barrier of protection around ourselves. Just a thought.
When confronted with inevitable trials, the stronger the better, we see people’s reactions and can see exactly where that person’s heart is. You see very little about a person’s internal workings when they are winning or all is going well for them. I believe, as this life determines the outcome of the next and is really just test after test, that we have the amazing blessing of an opportunity to prove our worth in God’s kingdom by our response to troubles. If a person has no troubles, we should pray for that person because they are about to have some. Good people and bad people have troubles just the same. If we keep in mind that the response we have to these difficulties determines where we will spend eternity, we will then have the healthy perspective we need to prosper through troubles of any kind. We have great examples of this in the Bible. We have David with Saul, where David’s lack of retaliation was in stark contrast to his being pursued unjustly. We have Paul and Silas who met with false imprisonment with singing and beatings with songs of praise. We have Deborah, who rose up to lead an army when their leader wasn’t man enough. We have us, when we meet with any injustice or turmoil. How will we be defined in our troubles? As a quitter? As a coward? As a bully? As a resentful person? As bitter or envious or cruel? As triumphant? We certainly have a lot of options. So, how do we decide our response? What can help us? The simple and profound answer is and will remain a close personal walk with God and firm grasp on His big picture, outlined in His Word, faith in Jesus as our Savior, and constant conversation with the only One bigger than any trial or even anything we know of the universe. Our knee jerk response is to handle it ourselves with our human tools. This is foolishness unless we are bigger and more powerful than our troubles. Chances are, we need help. If we can humble ourselves long enough to see that, God is released to work the trouble out. In fact, He goes a step farther and promises to help us when we ask Him for it. Wonderful stuff. So troubles not only show the world and ourselves what kind of relationship we have with the Divine but also grow us closer to Him by seeing Him work. Trials get us closer to heaven when we allow God to help us with them and they get us closer to God when we see His faithfulness and power and love for us.