We had to let our lead singer go in our band for a myriad of reasons which everyone left agreed upon. And he did not accept our decision that was best for him/his deteriorating health as well as the band, so he decided to be divisive by calling other band members and causing problems and whining like a child. So, here we have a problem, a potentially big one. But his tactics were ineffectual. Why? How do you nip problems in the bud? Here is the easiest way… good communication. We talk. My husband says “Adults talk”. Children whine, adults talk. That is it. We talked. I talked and explained for the decision we had wrestled over for a freakishly long time and our line of reasoning beforehand. Then the band was prepared for his childish antics and knew we were on the right page. Some people’s pride will not release them of wanting to do what they feel good doing even if their health is compromised and a good friend steps in to intervene and save them from their self. And my conscience is clear and everyone is good and excited about our new members and energy and new songs again and we are moving forward together, more united for it and clear of conscience knowing we did the right thing for him and us. Good communication accomplishes that. And of course before any communication occurs, we pray first and God provides the right words at the right time for the right reasons. So really it is two fold… good communication with God and with everyone else. And then the details, good or bad, will work themselves out. ❤
Matthew 5:27. ‘”You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.”‘
Christians know that porn is wrong. It robs the spouse of the sanctity of the marriage, honor, love, reapect, fulfillment with the spouse, feelings of inadequacy leap in as does doubt, distrust, shame, lies. It is no good in a marriage, had no place there or outside a marriage either. It is sin. Just because it is a sin you want to do does not mean it is boot sin. It is just sin you want to do. It robs your spouse. It dishonor them. It does. You can think it doesn’t all day but it does. It leaves you selfishly getting what you want and your spouse lonely and sad and without security in the marriage. No one speaks of it because so common as a secret sin. There is no secret sin, though. God sees. He is in the room with you. He detests it, I assure you. No judgment, just truth of it. Some battles are worth fighting and your marriage is sacred ground which should be protected, where everyone feels safe and loved and honored.
There are treasonous evils and principalities fighting all around us on all fronts, in most all countries right now. These forces seem united and he’ll bent on destruction. Those standing for God, righteousness, good, truth, America need to humbly bow/bend our heads to gain the strength of God. Then these evil people should be prosecuted for their treacherous activities and pray the principalities out. I am tired of idly standing by and just praying alone for this country and souls I love so much. We need to unite in prayer and fasting and do something. For heaven’s sakes, why are we so timid against these evil forces? They are defeated foe trying to kill as many as possible let on their way to hell and we just let them?! Why aren’t Christians in an uproar? Are we afraid? No, who would be afraid with the God of the universe on our side??? Rise up, man up, start humbly praying and fast for these lost souls and justice for the traitors to humanity and our freedom.