Any addiction you choose to put first in your life you chose. It is an illness that help is needed for, but it becomes an addiction to begin with by choice. The addict wants to escape the responsibility of reality by purposefully escaping into pornography, alcohol, drugs, overeating, overworking, not eating, whatever the drug of choice is. They choose this as their savior, their idol to enslave them. In doing so, they unwittingly choose a slavery lifestyle, to be dominated and controlled by the addiction, to life in perpetual guilt/conviction and shame, to be in hiding and lie continuously to cover it up.
This does not have to be the reality. God is way stronger than the ties that bind you to a false idol slavemaster. God is freedom. He only needs a humble, sincere prayer for help and He can and will provide a way out. There is a lot of help out there and with God as your helper, no slavemaster can rob you of His joy and peace and truth, which is the strength to rebuild and love you back to life.❤
Pornography is not innocent fun. It hurts relationships and here is how, from a Christian wife’s perspective.
1. Trust is blown. The adulterer (person engaging in porn) has committed an adultery against his/her spouse. This has been done against the spouse’s back most of the time and been lied about. This tears down a trust wall pretty quickly.
2. It makes the spouse look bad/be easily disrespected because the spouse engaging in porn is viewed by the spouse as a self-control-less dog, some animal that can’t even control the sexual urges enough to keep sex between them only.
3. The spouse engaging in porn is dishonoring his/her spouse but the implied message that he/she is not enough to satisfy them, not airbrushed and misproportioned like those viewed, not unnatural enough, not good enough, not worth honoring with faithfulness.
4. The spouse engaging in porn develops a perverted and incorrect view of sex and becomes more and more difficult to make love (big difference) to their spouse. The plastic bimbos for hire are sex slaves and intimacy suffers enormously with the spouse who is not a sex slave but was designed to be so much more.
5. God is dishonored. This is the most important problem with porn. God is dishonored because you are saying by engaging in porn that what He says is irrelevant and unimportant and that disobedience and disrespect cannot help but separate you from a joyful prayer life and close relationship with God and if not repented from can cost you much more in eternity.
There are other reasons porn is sin and horrible for relationships, but these are the main ones I have found to be true and why couples should seek help if engaging in porn has become a habit (addiction illness) or if it has created a rift in the relationship. And God is only ever a humble prayer away to help also. ❤
Matthew 5:27. ‘”You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.”‘ – Bible Offline
Christians, please turn away completely from pornography, which is adultery according to Jesus. ❤
Matthew 5:27. ‘”You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.”‘
This was Jesus Christ talking. It is a direct truth from Him. I am tempted to throw out all media because it focuses on sex so much to sell things, in movies, on tv, in the news, everywhere and pornography pops up everywhere, computers, androids, phones, you name it etc. People believe it is ok because it is everywhere. Lust is not ok. Porn is not ok. It is adultery and thus is sin. Jesus said it and He is the judge. If you disagree, take it up with Him. That is just one sin that captures people in its snates, there are so many, but it is quite prevalent and unfortunately so accepted, so I pick on it. Just because 1,000,000 believe a sin is not a sin does not make it less of a sin, just makes 1,000,000 people wrong. ❤
A man who prefers intangible objects such as photo-shopped and plastic-filled naked women (and men- creepy) on a tech screen to satisfy his desires rather than his real tangible wife, willing and available in their bedroom, is extremely selfish and sinful. His mate is left unsatisfied while he self-gratifies to fantasies. This man does not understand and appreciate the amazing and real woman he already has and how much she loves him. He steals his spouse’s sole right to his sexuality and constantly stares at doctored and touched up fantasy women his wife can’t possibly live up to. It sets everyone up for failure. The wife who should be loved feels robbed and betrayed and like a failure and ugly and depressed. A godly man is willing to dispose of fantasy images that demoralize his wife and really all women and just be satisfied with his real tangible loving wife. Why is this so difficult? What is wrong with these perverted men and perverted society? Have they swallowed the lie that temporary gratification is more important than long term relationship? Are their temporary fixes more valid than their life long commitment to fidelity with their spouse? Why is this difficult? Why on earth are so many people okay with this, even in the church? Why is there silence when so many women suffer? I have a lot of wounded, ungratified, despondent women friends dealing with this atrocity. People say it is fine. I assure you it is not. They say it is no big deal. I assure you it is. (If it were not a big deal, it would not be a big deal to stop either.) It is heinous and narcissistic to the nth degree. Morons throw away the sacred and precious diamond they possess for the tease of tarnished silver. Narcissists care more for their selfish whims than the spouse they should love. Man up. A real man wants only his real wife. We all make mistakes and we all sin, but you choose whether to live there or not. Imagine Christ returning suddenly and you are knee deep in porn. Do you think you would like the outcome of that? Do you think He would say, “Well done, you gratified yourself at your wife’s expense again quite nicely”? You do realize He sees everything you do, right? Of course there are many sins to take your pick of, but this one has struck a nerve lately. Satan uses this one particular sin to destroy families and devastate trust and break covenants and so it is very dangerous, though supported by our evil society. So, I guess the question is if fire is all around you except for the one narrow path you are on, will you jump into the fire with all the other idiots and be burned or try your best to stay on that safe path? This is the choice that must be made. That is truth. Truth is what God says, not what society promotes.