I am not on facebook. I was and wasted a heck of a lot of time on it pretending to be social but only writing, never saying or hearing an audible word from people, never making eye contact with them, never touching their skin. I still miss the thought of being “in touch” with them but once getting off of it realized it was just the thought I had to begin with. Knowing the events of a person’s life is in no shape the full picture of that person. Seeing pictures tells only part of the story. And I had shared my number before getting off of it and not one person from it except my best friend, one good friend and family has called since I’ve been off. No calls even when I was on, truth be told. It is this false notion of connectedness in an addictive need to know formula. And that is dangerous. One has a sense of urgent dependency to be on tech to feel connected but it is a false sense of connection. My husband got back on just to wish his daughter a happy birthday, as apparently she cannot communicate any other way. Now that he told her, he is getting off again. So, I was looking up a few friends from my past and they only jumped up in searches on facebook, maybe on Instagram too and nothing about real life. And it brought them right up so good people or bad people would know where they were, what they were doing, see their pictures, etc. That is pretty scary to me, maybe I am cautious. But being off facebook, evidently I am weird again and out of the loop and old fashioned and definitely out of people’s thoughts and minds and realm of communication. So, I draw closer still to God who loves me and my little family and take comfort that God is always with me, even on lonely night after lonely night and days of family and band family that are still around and maybe a friend now and then. And I am content, don’t get me wrong, but I miss days of calling someone up on a phone that doesn’t play a role in cancer and just talk or meet in person. Ooo, ah. What would it be like if neighbors still visited each other. What would happen if people actually still had and practiced real social skills? Who knew technology would kill real committed human connections. Amazing. So glad I have God or I would be extremely lonely in this world. I am so blessed. ❤
Deep people show their depth in their eyes. They are quieter, studiers, wonderers. Deep people ignite passion within their souls by their focus. They find beauty in the simplest thing, they find richness in the quietest scene, they find purpose in a simple arrangement. They search out the why and how and what else and do not rest their minds until they have dug deeper that previously. Investigators, really. Deep people think and study more than idly babble. Small talk is almost avoided altogether, uncomfortable in the very least because most so not go deep enough and in mind at least deep people always go deeper, need answers, need motivations and purposes. Deep people need to live at a spiritual depth and function spiritually, speaking with God. Deep people do not search out beauty but see it every and anywhere as it lies. How do I know these things? I am deep so from experience. Also from intensive scrutiny of others who share the urgency of depth as a second heartbeat. ❤
4 factors: 1. Level of Selfishness. 2. Level of Brokenness. 3. Level of Maturity. 4. Choice/Free Will.
Some people are just selfish and most are broken in some way. Our brokenness can be used as a stumbling block and/or excuse to do what you want for yourself to get your own way because it is all about you. Or. There is a better way. The brokenness can yield understanding and depth of character if one is humble enough and mature enough to learn the lesson and grow from it and grow close to God who can help.
The first group of people will never change until they decide to. And if we need to protect ourselves or children from them, then we must. The second group of people are the most beautiful and intriguing people in the world. ❤
People from 54 different countries have read my blogs this month. 54! That is mind boggling! So, I wanted to say… Hi, everyone! I have traveled extensively and have family all over the world and love learning about everyone everywhere, so please leave a comment and teach me something about your country. I am Tonya and live in Central Florida. It is hot here, in the 90’s now because summer is here. 🙂 I love God dearly and am married to a good man and have two beautiful but active children. I am a doctor but only do consultations now as we opted for me to stay home and homeschool the kids, which is wonderful as we can do extra art, music, playing and serving God together in our community. Anyway, just wanted to introduce myself and hope you do the same back. Thank you for reading my thoughts and words. Love you so much. God loves you even more! ❤
There are some people who we are really better off never knowing. They are destructive, “toxic” in today’s language. The problem is that most often we do not know this about them until we are in deep enough that the damage is already done. Of course, there are plenty of destructive people who make it obvious that they are just that, for instance those trying to divide America and not support her President’s attempts to unite and heal us or those who use their entertainment platforms to combat unity, but I digress. For those secretive about it, one way we can prevent being conned is by being close personal friends with the truth. When we are close to God in regular prayer and read His Word, we are so familiar with the truth that when we come in contact with smooth talk and little subtle lies, we see it for what it is. And expect it to look good, maybe too good, and play on emotions. If you feel your emotions being tugged or moving unusually, chances are something is amiss. Remember that as the very best of roach killers is 99% food and 1% poison, so the very best of lies are 99% truth and 1% poisonous lie. These are the ones we have to be the most closely on guard for. For example, in my previous life, I had met a guy who told me how beautiful I was, how wonderful my personality was, how fantastic everything I did was, how much he lived me, etc. and my emotions were tugged. Of course, as soon as someone came by who he thought had more to offer, he dropped me like a bad habit and left me high and dry, not even looking back. Talk about destructo-boy. Smooth, pretty words with a touch if real truth amidst a world of flattert. This is just an extreme example but happens a lot. This is why when I met my husband, who is a little rough around the edges but never pretends to be anything else, I respected that and took notice. It should never the goal of an honest person to get what they can from you. And when someone loves you for who you are, like my husband does, they may not talk so pretty but they prove they love you by their actions, helping you with life and not demanding your life from you. I can be myself with my husband. He loves me is why. Destructive people love only themselves, and I am not sure they even understand the word love truly. They are damaged so they damage others or chose to damage others because of evil choices. It really doesn’t matter why unless they are trying to heal and change. The action requires us to eliminate that bad behavior from our lives. That is not selfish or rude or mean to them, it is good stewardship of what God has given us. It is being responsible and loving to ourselves. So please cozy up to God and His Truth as often as you can and be on guard against thieves of joy and peace, these destructive/toxic people. God knows. He will provide always. His love for us is real and true.
Trust only God. God never told us to trust people. Some people (politicians, etc.) are known for being changeable, depending on the tide and popularity agenda or to rise up in power. Many many other people have adapted such chameleon behavior and are thus changing their behavior to people to suit their current emotion or whim or for personal gain or agenda. It seems a selfish world we live in now. And I am increasingly aware that we must be wary of people who are changeable. One mark of someone who is God’s is faithfulness and consistency of character and a match between words and actions. If people say they care and want to be with you one minute and then disappear for weeks with no word, their words are not matching their actions. Always believe their actions. Chameleon people change, good people should be consistent with matching words and actions. Beware the changeable. They are trustworthy and you must guard yourself against them.
The small, quaint Michigan town I grew up in was so small that everyone knew everyone, maybe once removed, but love and respect for each other thrived. People helped people, people knew people, people were there when you needed them and open to your help when they needed it. Of course exceptions exist, not everyone having the same commitment to morality as happens everywhere, but for the most part this was true. The town for the most part respected God and America and our people and military. It was a great place to live. I miss that. But even in that beautiful town, outside influences have damaged many of the town’s people’s commitment to church attendance. I noticed that many of the faithful still go to the best church I have known, but many choose not to. I would encourage everyone to be a part of a church. I understand many are turned off by imperfections of people. If you think people are perfect anywhere, I have some land to sell you. But hard times are coming and church family is a vital source of encouragement and focus on God. Imperitive under any circumstances, we need to band together in unity, even if it is a few couples in their homes. Just a thought.