My Son’s Journey

My son is now a few months from 14 years of age. He is voice is changing. His mood is changing. His confidence is growing, sometimes too quickly. But God be praised, his spiritual maturity is growing. I just dropped him off at 4:15 am this morning to go on a week long Honduras missions trip. They are building a church by day and holding Bible study at night. He is growing closer to God every day. We read the Bible and pray together several times a day and I lead by faith and works. He is a good boy and is unmoved by the several girls who have already noticed and are pursuing him. He wants to be true to who God made him.

I say all these things not to brag, but I want you to know that every step we take closer to God or sadly farther from Him is our own choice. He went through my painful divorce and many turbulence with new step parents on both sides and he has chosen to be God’s son and focus on God. And God rewards and blesses him, as He does so often with all of us who chose to obey. And despite some sins/ mistakes made on the journey, God is only ever a humble prayer away again. There is hope for our kids. Sure, he is homeschooled, but that us a possibility for everyone and we always have that personal choice to make regarding our spiritual maturity/walk and relationship with God.

I am fasting this week while he is gone that God’s will for all involved will be done and I know he is in God’s capable hands, right where he belongs and chooses to be. We all make that choice all the time, some knowingly and some unknowingly. Pleased be encouraged and God bless your choice and journey. Praise God!❤

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On Confused Children

The evil one wants our homes broken up and people confused, hence the agenda to confuse and divide. This is because the family is the idea of God and strongest unit and building block for God’s kingdom and work and our country. So agendists throw out confusion generators to the masses through marketing and entertainment and media, throw out porn at everybody, throw out confusing topics to kids in school and ram all this down everyone’s throats every chance they can. They are pawns in denial of the enemy of God. They are agents of evil. And Godly parents must avoid all this crap. They must solidify their homes and pray together, study truth together, hold tightly to each other, cling to God together. And if our children show signs of confusion, teach them the clear truth yourself and withdraw them from that class or school entirely and teach them. Our jobs as parents is primarily to raise up our children in the Lord. We own that position. It is ours. We have to be more concerned about doing that job and holding our families together in the Lord than any discomfort we face in doing said job. God will provide but we need to do our part.❤

Don’t Buy “Busy”

Busy used to live here. Our schedule was full to the max. That was my fault, I bought the “busy” for myself and my family. And I discovered that although we were constantly doing things alongside each other, we were lacking quality time to really just learn each other and correct false beliefs before they become stumbling blocks. For that invaluable experience, we need to stop buying “busy” and decide to necessitate white spaces on our calendar. I started this recently. Instead of that outing option, we vied for staying in for a board game of Life with popcorn. So much fun and much more discovery involved and some social corrections made. This was fantastic. Enjoying each other is fantastic but we parents can never forget we are also responsible to God for instruction. So we need to seize opportunities to do both. And this is the new balance and consequently my/our new laid back groove. When “busy” comes knocking, I no longer jump to buy. I recommend this mindset with your kids. It is great!😄❤

Discipline

1. In my experience, it is far easier to discipline my children after I first discipline myself. This only means that example is the best teacher. Yes, often more than just a good example is required, but my son has told me that it was easier for him to tell the truth because I always told the truth and so on. So it makes our job and theirs easier when we use the self-control God instilled in us.

2. Love and respect for God needs to be the motivation for discipline. We have rules in our house and the main rule is that rules are set by God in the Bible and that our first priority is to honor and respect God. Direct disobedience is always punished as a natural consequence to disobeying God. God is what matters most.

3. Punishment should be equal to the crime. But once in a great while, I grant a pardon to show that sometimes God grants mercy when we screw up and grace to try again the right way. Love is always the motivation.

4. Pick your battles. Often kids get hangry. Feed them first and then deal with the issue that came up when hangry. Anger is acceptable, lashing out disrespectful is not, for example.

5. Be willing to laugh. Sometimes kids are just yanking your chain and if it is not serious, laugh it off once in a while. Keep joy in the home. It will keep everyone from getting discouraged or unduly stressed.

6. Promote supporting each other. Family is special and beautiful and really emphasize that. Help each other. Do things for each other.

7. Study the Bible and pray together. This gets everyone on the same page with what is most important. This is vital.❤

Gramma Braggin’

This little guy is a joy and a treasure. I get the whole grandma thing now. I watched our granddaughter at his age about 5 years ago for short while but at the same time I was nursing our own daughter and raising an active older son so could not enjoy just loving on a baby one on one. And yes, thr kids are still here and time is not entirely one on one, it is much more so, my kids are more independent, there is more ease of time to really enjoy each other. Now I wish I had our granddaughter back but she is going to kindergarten in the fall. Maybe we can keep them one day a week in the summer. I am really digging being a grandma now. It is a gift from God.❤

Encouragement at the Library

I am sitting here at the library in the kids section as my kids enjoy the books and computers and had set out to read a book, a luxury I hope someday to engage regularly, now being time-confined to thr Bible and a devotion here and there. However, I had to n put my book aside for a moment and let you know that I was just encouraged here at the library.

A man and a little boy passed me by, the daddy probably in mid thirties and the son around 2 1/2. The boy went to sit in a computer chair but the dad wanted to read to the son. Rather than reprimand, the good, wise dad made a game of it and walked around the corner and peeked around and whispered to the boy to find him. The boy got up immediately and went after him. That encouraged me. He kept it a positive experience and then read to him. This encouraged me that a man can be a good dad, be wise, lead his son, etc. I have to say I have seen a fair share of girly men of late, not caring or wanting to lead, feminite, lazy, selfish. I believe society’s evil has a goal along those ends. But when I see a manly man lead his son with wisdom and love, I am encouraged and impressed and have a hope that not everyone is playing along with the evil schemes of the devil and bad people. For men are designed to lead. Sure women can lead also, but the crux of the matter is that men are designed for work and leadership in their homes and with their kids. And when I see it, I am encouraged. Great job, good daddy!

Now back to my book… Unbroken by Lauren Hillenbrand.❤

Deep Thoughts

Here I am, ready for bed and my mind digs deep for thoughts it has been rolling around for days. I think clearest and deepest at night. No amount of effort on mine or anyone else’s part has ever changed that. My thoughts are generally about the Lord somehow- His creation, His designs, His methodology for these, His scope of practice, etc. Sometimes I ponder other things in life but my big picture mind runs happiest in the deep and no conversation or thought process is deeper than God. And there are a myriad of things to ponder, no end of subject matter (pun intended), and He is my favorite thought. Lately, I have also wondered and questioned my parenting. I have not been the best parent consistently (I am on a hood run now but was daily and sometimes twice or three times daily caretaking my dad for two years and was in a depression for one more year after he passed), but my kids are goodish as a whole anyway. This got me thinking.

People want to be perfect. I am far from that. I want to be covered by Jesus’ perfection and grace. But sometimes it is the faults or tendencies of performance (not talking morality or character) that God can use to create such rewarding and infinite and more specific beauty from. No one interesting comes from a boring life.

So I no longer pray to be a perfect parent. I humble myself daily and do my very best and pray that Jesus covers us all with grace, wisdom and understanding and that my kids would grow up to be adults who humble themselves, do their best and pray for Jesus’ grace. And God is very generous with us all and answers prayers.❤