Leaders Make Horrible Spectators

This is why physicians are horrible patients, why scientists make horrible test subjects, why pastors make horrible parishoners, why coaches make terrible players, etc. Leaders make horrible spectators. It is not on purpose. It is innate. A leader leads. They can’t help but step in and teach or boss or organize or push.

This is why leaders also fall quite often. That same innate quality of leadership cannot help but foster pride. When you come in and hopefully save the day, ego grows. You start thinking how invaluable you are in the situation. You can get a big head. Pride always goes before a fall.

Followers can fall too, but leaders live big and out loud and their fall is big and out loud.

To keep from falling and keep close to God, your source of strength (whether you believe it or not), you have to actively practice humility. Walk humbly, acknowledge God’s strength working in you, read the Bible, pray, admit mistakes, come alongside people and help them. This makes the leader strong and the best possible for years to come.😄❤

Encouragement at the Library

I am sitting here at the library in the kids section as my kids enjoy the books and computers and had set out to read a book, a luxury I hope someday to engage regularly, now being time-confined to thr Bible and a devotion here and there. However, I had to n put my book aside for a moment and let you know that I was just encouraged here at the library.

A man and a little boy passed me by, the daddy probably in mid thirties and the son around 2 1/2. The boy went to sit in a computer chair but the dad wanted to read to the son. Rather than reprimand, the good, wise dad made a game of it and walked around the corner and peeked around and whispered to the boy to find him. The boy got up immediately and went after him. That encouraged me. He kept it a positive experience and then read to him. This encouraged me that a man can be a good dad, be wise, lead his son, etc. I have to say I have seen a fair share of girly men of late, not caring or wanting to lead, feminite, lazy, selfish. I believe society’s evil has a goal along those ends. But when I see a manly man lead his son with wisdom and love, I am encouraged and impressed and have a hope that not everyone is playing along with the evil schemes of the devil and bad people. For men are designed to lead. Sure women can lead also, but the crux of the matter is that men are designed for work and leadership in their homes and with their kids. And when I see it, I am encouraged. Great job, good daddy!

Now back to my book… Unbroken by Lauren Hillenbrand.❤

Leader From Birth

I have always been seen as a leader, a “natural born leader” and just accepted that as fact. Now, some 40 years later and yes I am a little slow because I was a lot stuck in pride and busyness, I am exploring why. My hope is that some of you youngers that may have “natural leadership ability” from God, recognize it and develop it for Him.

That is actually my first point. Good leaders are led by God. The closer I am to God, the more He uses me as a leader in a myriad of circumstances. Leadership in its pure form from God is first of all humble and teachable by God and His Truth, the Bible. You cannot lead people if you do not know where to lead them. The blind cannot lead the searching. Proud leaders are weak and a distortion of their gift. They may accomplish great things through force but it is for themselves and their gain and peace does not live there. God planned leaders to have just as much peace and joy as everyone else so humbleness and closeness to God is essential for that.

Second thing. Leaders can not give way to laziness and delegate only. They must be the first to do the work, know how and why, be able to teach others, get down and dirty with those being led, work hard. This is natural and my energy always rises to the need. The will drives the leader to this. A lazy leader is ineffectual and sets the self up for high turnaround, discouragement and a critical spirit. Bad.

Third thing. Respect. Respect is enormous. Respect for God, for His Truth, for the sanctity of life, for the rules, for the fact that every person has a unique skill set, for the fact that every role is important. Nothing is done without every person’s skill, like our band. The lead singer may believe he/she is the most important person in the band because they are up front, but if the band suddenly stops or just the drummer drops out or the instruments are off key, the lead singer becomes insignificant to the mess. See? Respect and treatment of others according to the Golden Rule is vital. Everyone is vital. And everyone is interesting, they have and unique story. And believing the fantastical one in your head may be much more interesting than theirs but let them tell it anyway. Hear them. Ask questions. But draw a boundary enough to remain leader and not buddy for like a family, many are the friends and siblings but there is only one or two parents. Parents give and receive respect but are not buddies.

Fourthly. Consistency of high moral character is invaluable to retain those led. Invest in them. My dad always said to leave it better than it was when you got there. Do that for people. Be smart enough and wise enough to dig out and encourage strengths and enhance those in people you are leading. Grow them, alienate no one, never criticize, just guide with wisdom, again with never be lazy. If you lack wisdom, ask God who is generous with His. Remain humble and teachable as always. Promote people, pay them their worth, be generous with people when they work hard and earn it. Reward good work and moral integrity. Discourage moral flaws and disengenuity. Encourage your people to encourage each other. Keep them busy to minimize tech and gossip time but not too busy that they never have breaks. Promote a moral family atmosphere of growth and commitment and worth. Names, not numbers. Love people. Always eye contact and strong handshakes. Care.

Lastly. Leadership is lonely. Leaders have many acquaintances but very few true friends. It just is that way. You have to be strong when others are not and when you are not. Few understand the challenges of that or get you. Few care outside of themselves and their little circles. But God does and He will recharge you. Take some time. Exercise for energy, keep close to God for strength and wisdom. This puts you in a position of power for God and your people, humble service to Him, peace and joy and contentment for you. Then you can make the hard decisions and guide and God guides you in and way that benefits everyone. This can only happen close to the Lord, so we have returned to the first thing.

I hope this has blessed you. Feel free to ask questions or give me and topic to write about in the comments. If you are not a leader, maybe you get them a bit more and the responsibilities they hold. If you are a leader, maybe you will be refreshed and inspired to try something new, some new approach and get close to God to recharge your batteries. God bless you!❤

Kids Choir

So, we have been practicing our two Christmas songs for about a month and a half a capella because of not having a piano or keyboard in the room with us. I was going to play keys later. But I made an executive decision tonight. We have practiced all this time without music, just our voices, and the kids are doing great. So we are going to present the song the same way. I want them to be successfull and adding something now will only confuse them and potentially set them up for failure. So there you go. And I tell you all this for two reasons. 1. If something is working, support it by keeping it as is. If it needs changing, change it, but do not add a variable last minute that may throw a wrench in the system. Provide what your people need for their best result. 2. You be the flexible one. The leader must be flexible in order to lead most effectively sometimes. Asking the led to be flexible is silly. You be flexible. Remember, the success of the team/project/choir is the goal, not fulfilling what the little narcissist in you expected or demanded to happen. Lol. I find it easier to ask myself whether my decision is for the good of the goal or the good of my ego and adjust accordingly. This strategy has never failed me when applied. Hope this helps someone. God bless you as you lead! ❤