My son is about to turn 14. He still amazes me at the strangest times. We were walking to Circle K for a polar pop, as usual, and we were just chatting about shallow things, like his inline skates (which he is very into right now) and birthday plans and so on. Out of nowhere, I am compelled to tell him how proud I am of who he is now. He tells me “Sorry it took me a while to get motivated. You always tried to motivate me but it had to be my choice.” Amazing insight!
So, he elaborated without one word from me and said that we had been through a lot, and he hated it at the time and was angry but now he is so thankful because he understands so much about life and saw how God was always taking care of him. And he says he is way better off than any other guys his age because he gets how addictions and being selfish and all those things affect a family and not to do them on purpose. He continued that we can either be bitter or use that information to live smarter and better. He sees how much better of a person he is when he reads his Bible and prays and wants to keep doing that all his life.
I was amazed and teared up. God is good, friend. Keep showing them and loving them and let God bring them home. Praise God!😄❤
1. In my experience, it is far easier to discipline my children after I first discipline myself. This only means that example is the best teacher. Yes, often more than just a good example is required, but my son has told me that it was easier for him to tell the truth because I always told the truth and so on. So it makes our job and theirs easier when we use the self-control God instilled in us.
2. Love and respect for God needs to be the motivation for discipline. We have rules in our house and the main rule is that rules are set by God in the Bible and that our first priority is to honor and respect God. Direct disobedience is always punished as a natural consequence to disobeying God. God is what matters most.
3. Punishment should be equal to the crime. But once in a great while, I grant a pardon to show that sometimes God grants mercy when we screw up and grace to try again the right way. Love is always the motivation.
4. Pick your battles. Often kids get hangry. Feed them first and then deal with the issue that came up when hangry. Anger is acceptable, lashing out disrespectful is not, for example.
5. Be willing to laugh. Sometimes kids are just yanking your chain and if it is not serious, laugh it off once in a while. Keep joy in the home. It will keep everyone from getting discouraged or unduly stressed.
6. Promote supporting each other. Family is special and beautiful and really emphasize that. Help each other. Do things for each other.
7. Study the Bible and pray together. This gets everyone on the same page with what is most important. This is vital.❤
Our church is too tiny to have a VBS program. So we were very blessed to receive an invitation rom friends to go to theirs. So happy about that! My kids went and loved it very much. I highly recommend having your kids and/or grandkids go to VBS (Vacation Bible School) this summer. It is great for our kids to get together with other kids and learn more about the Bible together and have fun and fellowship. Matters so much. We are not made in a vacuum but are built to socialize and fellowship together. 😄❤
They may say they want to sleep in. They may say that they don’t want to go. But I can testify that children of all ages still love Sunday School. People are not getting up and going and taking their children quite often. Most of the time they skip it, not finding it worth their time and energy. Christians thinking this way are more wordly than Godly. That is not judgmental but truthful. Kids and adults all need as much truth pumped into us as possible. We need fellowship. We need to meet together. We need to wake up and put God first. We need Jesus more now than ever. He is coming back soon and will remove His true church to keep them from having to go through immense, unleashed evil in this world during the tribulation. We need to be ready. We need to be awake and prepared. Sunday School is part of that. Being together with our church should be a priority. And as parents, we have a responsibility to our kids to take them. They are worth it and God is worth it. Stop the worldly bent. Think Godly. And n if that is hard at first, practice and pray and read your Bible as much as possible. Get passionate about Jesus who was and is so passionate about you. Don’t turn your back on His love, embrace it. Kids love it.❤
So, today was family chores day. I mowed, Zach vacuumed, Kathleen dusted and cleaned the glass and we all cleaned our rooms. We do chores so my kids do not grow up to be entitled spoiled brats. In fact, they do not get any privileges until they do their chores. Not one. No allowance, no tv, no video games. I do feed them but if they neglect their chores after breakfast, they have to wait for lunch until they are finished. This strategy works for us and my kids help me as soon as I ask them to. I believe it is our duty to lead our kids to be responsible adults and good stewards of what God gave us. Now for showers… lol. ❤