2 Chronicles 7:14. “if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land.”
Matthew 5:27. ‘”You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.”‘
Christians know that porn is wrong. It robs the spouse of the sanctity of the marriage, honor, love, reapect, fulfillment with the spouse, feelings of inadequacy leap in as does doubt, distrust, shame, lies. It is no good in a marriage, had no place there or outside a marriage either. It is sin. Just because it is a sin you want to do does not mean it is boot sin. It is just sin you want to do. It robs your spouse. It dishonor them. It does. You can think it doesn’t all day but it does. It leaves you selfishly getting what you want and your spouse lonely and sad and without security in the marriage. No one speaks of it because so common as a secret sin. There is no secret sin, though. God sees. He is in the room with you. He detests it, I assure you. No judgment, just truth of it. Some battles are worth fighting and your marriage is sacred ground which should be protected, where everyone feels safe and loved and honored.
My son is at his dad’s for the weekend and my husband is busy with an amp and monitor repair, so I have the golden, rare opportunity to take my daughter on a date. So we are going to the children’s museum and then to a late lunch. I have been keeping score for my son’s baseball team’s games, so she has been away from me a bit and we need time together. Kids need time feeling like they are the sole captors of your attention and love. It is vital to their core memory group to help anchor them when they are on their own and life gets really rough. So off we go and all the best to you on your special day. And if it isn’t, you’re not looking hard enough. 😉 Love you!
Clarity is a gift recently given to me and I want to expound on that. Some things matter.Who God is and what He made matter: nature, people, God’s Word, heaven, etc. Everything else does not matter: what people wear,what they look like, skin color, hair length, arguments, fights, whining, complaining, troublemaking, accusations, breakups, etc. These things that don’t matter in the scheme of eternity (which we can enter at any time) are distractions. These things that don’t matter are tools of opponents of goodness and God. Very dangerous to spend too much focus and energy on these unimportant things. It takes energy away from the important things. We need to focus on the good, important things. That is where we need to use our gifts and energy and focus.
Along life’s journey, as we walk on, some things matter but most things don’t. The things that matter really, really matter and everything else is pretty much distractions or opposition to our making those things matter. Life is pretty simple. The entire spectrum of our emotions are exeedingly complex and I wrestle with controlling those, especially now with grief fresh and hormones trying to eat me alive sometimes. In a related story, things like puberty and perimenopause complicate these emotions immensely. But I digress. The few things that matter are God the Creator first and foremost, the fruits of the Spirit (God’s love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control), ourselves, family (blood and adopted), nature, and other people in our close proximity. That is the order and the content. That is it. The stuff of our lives, the places we live, furniture, tv, cars, money, whatever else are only important as it helps with those important things. The rest of it is nonsense, people’s drama- their own and what they inflict onto others- is unnecessary and even dangerous to the important things. In fact, we need to protect our important things from these distractions and/or attacks. They need to be avoided because they fight for rights to your thoughts and heart and only take, never give. I am seeing these things more clearly. Since my Daddy died, it feels like I received a portion of his focus he was so good at and I never was. I seem to have been given a gift from him by God to help me cope and journey forward. And this strong bent toward that which is important is drumming in my heart. I am asking the question, “Before I pick this up and walk on, is it one of my important things? Who is it benefitting if I pick it up?” Introspection. If it is not important, leave it there and walk on. If it does not benefit those important people, leave it there and walk on. That is my plight, my very new talent and ability. Thank you for passing this gift down to me, God. I am thankful for it. It keeps crazy away and feels so good to be focused with a clear heart. So take care what you pick up as you walk on. Maybe we can help each other out.