Happiness depends upon others. Happiness is overrated. What gets me going and strengthens my step is joy. Joy is my strength whereas I have not been happy for some time. Sure, I have moments of happiness but these moments are fleeting in that I keep running into people. Lol. With so much evil in the world, can anyone stay happy? I think not. Moments of happy are about all you get. But joy is a characteristic and action of God that He provides all who humbly ask and call on Jesus for salvation. It is a gift. It is underlying contentment and peace and security set in faithful and consistent bliss no matter what is going on around us. No matter your environment, joy remains.
I have seen another really foolish phenomenon… people looking to another human being to make them “happy”. Ha! A human! If you have God’s joy gift, you know full well you are secure in God who is perfect and loves you securely, faithfully and unconditionally. That is what every person is wanting. A human (spoiler alert) is not perfect, is not faithful and loves pretty much themselves and you if you fit into their ideas of a good mate. So, obviously this is a lesson in futility and downright foolish really.
In steep opposition of this idiocity, we have a truly reliable source of joy in God. We have it. God gives it to us. And what a gift! And full of God, we need no one to make us “happy”, some theoretical concept that is as elusive as a mythological nymph. However, God will send you a partner to help in His work if your heart desires and He sees it is best for you. But He knows more than you so you must trust Him. In thr meanwhile, enjoy the extraordinary superpower of joy from God in His presence. You’ll find everything is easier and much more enjoyable.😄❤
Happiness has always been a problem to me. Peace and joy are deep constructs of my soul because of being saved by Jesus Christ’s grace in sacrifice form. Happiness seems shallower, dependent on external forces, other people’s expression of will. Am I to be happy when faced with angry outbursts, divisive evildoers, assaults and threats to our country from a madman dictator possessed by a demon (principality to be specific) in North Korea, bullies, weather dangers, politicians not working with our good President, abortions, people ignoring God and doing their own thing despite possible ramifications, addictions all around, porn every-freaking-where, so many outrages? Should anyone in their right mind be happy about these things? I would be foolish to be happy with that. However, I have peace and joy in spite of these things because that is much much deeper and not contingent upon external circumstances. It is deeply internal, a gift from God. That is the key. Without God, and if everything else in life is perfect miraculously, I guess happiness is the best you can hope for. With God, even if God is all you have in the universe, you still have peace and joy and love and the beautiful fruits of the Spirit. Happiness is an extra. Contentment is a higher goal but still is not as deep as peace and joy. It is simply being ok with what you have and not wanting more. But if what you have is removed, so is contentment unless you take it to its deeper root of peace from God. So take here it is. God is where to go for the deep goal of peace and nd joy. Then contentment is bo us and happiness is shallow icing on the cake, take it or leave it and still good.❤
So maybe it is weird for a classical pianist in an oldies rock and roll band and who is a worship leader at church to completely dig reggae music. Something about that laid back island groove takes me immediately to the beach, to simple relaxation, so crazy easy to play and redundant ridiculous that soothes me entirely. Maybe what I play is so complex I value the simplicity and laid back groove. That is my confession. And here is a confession ahead of time… I am going to introduce a reggae praise song to my kids next Sunday. Tee hee! ❤
Happiness is a feeling based on a decision. Joy is much deeper. Joy is a character trait, a result of the Holy Spirit living inside. It is proof that you are God’s, part of His internal spiritual gift to you and is not conditional upon a decision (excepting that initial decision of salvation). Happiness is a decision and is generally tied to feelings and emotions which are readily tied to circumstances. You can temporarily force happiness in bad circumstances by strong will and decisions, but can never sustain such will when tired or hurt or damaged for very long or consistently. Joy, however, is forever. Joy is internal, unshakable, incombustable. Joy cannot be moved. However the enemy tries to dumb it down or distract you from its amazing power. The joy of the Lord Jesus Christ is our strength inside us available any minute or second of the day. The joy of the Lord is my strength. Happiness is external, joy is internal. Our goal should never be so shallow and fleeting as to be happy. Happy is so easy to manipulate. Joy is deeper, stronger, internal, POWERFUL. You can not increase its presence or power in your life, you can only recognize it more as you declutter your spirit and soul of distractions and wordy pullings. Joy is our treasure, so closely bonded to peace that the two must exist together. These attributes of God live in us who are saved! We own these valuable resources! We do not have to ask for them. We have to obey and uncover them with faith and release of this world. This world is not our home, we are just passing through. Heaven is our home. And while on earth, we have valuable joy and peace and the other fruits of the Spirit tied together with love and hope and faith. Wow!! What incredible power we possess over the schemes of the enemy. How beautiful is the blessed God who is the originatornof these gifts and pours them out to us generously and lovingly. Is am so thankful that He saw fit to save such a little girl as I am. Accepted by God, it does not matter who else rejects me. I am a beloved child of the Most High God!!! So are you!!! ❤❤❤
Many are the folks who are not happy. I am (with the exception of many months surrounding a very heavy loss of my daddy) a very happy person. It is one of the gifts God gave me knowing what my life would be life and understanding the necessity of it well. Thank you, God. I can laugh at and out anything. I don’t even need a reason! My vivid imagination (another related) gift can put a mustache on any obnoxious female or a bonnet on any punk male and I can amuse myself all day long. Get me in nature and that is all I need in the world. But it has always amazed me how miserable people choose to be and how many miserable people looking to be happy are drawn to me. I guess they want some of my happy. (It is all from God, by the way, that is the secret so ask Him and draw close to Him and you can have it too.) And now that my happy is coming back, I see the same thing. So it gives me an opportunity to tell them I have peace and joy (which looks like happy from the outside most of the time) from God. This is a good thing most of the time. Sometimes, it is misunderstood as interest in a person when I am just looking past them at something funny. I don’t pay heed to people’s flirtation because I am married so all that is done, but sometimes I have to clarify. But no one who knows me denies my ability to make things right and keep moving forward. And it is good to have and work on a happiness lifestyle because for every misinterpretation is an opportunity to witness about God’s fantastic peace and joy He provides us for the humble asking and drawing near Him. God is amazing and gives generously, especially when we ask for noble and good things. Better to be misunderstood by being out there and noticable for your happiness than miserable in misery surrounded by more miserable people you look just like. Smile, I say! Laugh. Lighten up. Show God’s peace and joy! Be the light!
Normally very happy because it is my choice to be so, it is strange to most that I too have sad days once in a while. I do nonetheless, and I want to explore and share it because you might need to pour out or understand some sad days too and you are not alone in that. Everyone, even perpetually happy people have moments of sadness or days or weeks or months even. For me, if I feel it for a day and have a good eye downpour, it passes by the next morning but that is just my experience. Most of the time my sad days center around my daddy, whose dementia is worsening by the day and I am watching slowly drift off to oblivion. That is my sad spot. We have good days and bad days but even his bad days he is not himself any longer, not fully. There is a point he has crossed where he will never be fully himself ever again. His body, always strong and will even stronger keep on even in their weekened state, but his mind is losing the battle. And missing him is not mourning him because some form still remains and I remember. So the pain is acute and long term. I miss my dad but still have him to visit and care for. And today that hit me hard because his mind wandered many paths during my visit, during our attempt at conversation. The second part of my sadness was my son having a cold but going to his dad’s house for the weekend where I can not take care of him and nurse him back to health, and when I asked how he was I received no response. That frustrates and saddens me because I care about the health of my boy. So these two factors and one other I cannot discuss had led me to the point yesterday where my eyes received a good cleaning and my mind dwelt on the sadness far too long. Sometimes you have to feel it. You have to just be sad. In fact, during said times, I try to be as sad as possible, making it far sadder with my imagination, picturing everyone I meet with hidden sadness and tears about to emerge. Then I can cry harder, more painfully, more heartfealt. What purpose does this serve? It cleans my eyes, for one. Secondly, it gets it over faster so I can move on to the rainbow after the flood. Thirdly, if I do this hard enough, I become ridiculous to myself and will turn it over into laughter. Maybe that is a little crazy, but a little crazy never hurt anyone and by the way do not judge me. lol. If I can convert the energy of the tears into a greater more positive energy of laughter, it helps everything and lifts my spirits, cheering me up afterwards. It is not that I negate or dishonor the sadness but that I pay it homage and respect it but then draw the line at it ruling my life. The sadness must never be the goal, must never rule the show. It is a means to an end, which is to remember that God gives joy and peace and comforts us when we mourn. That is the end of the story, you see, my friend. It is a happy ending. It is an ending worth pushing through to get to.
What has worked for me to make my marriage successful and happy is the following list. You may have your own, but this is mine, and I assure you it has been hard earned but tremendously enjoyed once fiduredout and implemented. Here is the list:
1. Choose to become in the closest relationship possible with God. Read the Bible, pray, listen to and watch good teachers, make close friendships with Godly women you respect etc. This is the most important thing ever and works for success in life even if unmarried.
2. Choose to allow your spouse to be imperfect. If they are in sin, point out the sin by explaining its effects on you and the relationship and then let it go. This is enormous. Realize you are not perfect either and so choose to be imperfect together. Work on yourself but realize you are the only one you can ever change.
3. Pray for you and your spouse and your marriage. God can change hearts where we can not but only if the other person allows Him to. You can not push a rope so put the rope down. Pray and then let it go.
4. Forgive every time even if unasked. You are forgiven by God as you humbly ask Him to forgive you every time. You forgive because as we forgive is how we will be forgiven and we want to be forgiven. It is a gift that gives back. Just do it.
5. Remember that you love, honor and cherish your spouse. God gave this person to you. Treasure that. Times will be hard but there are soft times too. Value those moments and really appreciate the curious wonder that is your spouse. Appreciate their Creator through them. Choose to love.
6. Repeat one through five.
You are welcome. It works. Praise God it works!