God wants a relationship with me, with you, with every beautiful person He purposefully made. And this beautiful relationship is not between equals, but He sees us as adopted children, and He knows full well that we are limited, weak created beings. He also knows He is none of those things but His love and mercy and grace drive Him to want us to be near Him. And our giving to God involves giving our worship, attention, obedience, respect, praise but also equally our burdens, attacks, griefs, squabbles, etc. He knows we need His help and wants us to come to Him for it. 😄❤
I am reminded that my husband has very good moments, mostly generous ones, and replacing my mom’s computer is one of them. We are delivering it today. Hers was on its last of its prehistoric legs and her printer had jumped ship, anticipating its demise. He may struggle sometimes to treat me without contempt, and yet sometimes he borders on generosity and almost kindness, but today he gets to shine for helping my mom. It means so much to her because she is a writer. She is actually on chapter 8 of a new book as we speak. So, he will be blessing her this morning and we will go watch her be blessed. How beautiful it is to be generous with someone who needs it. It is a really beautiful thing. And what a blessing it is to give instead of getting. It feels so good, even if I am only watching this time!❤
People will always want more. My daughter gave away her precious stuffed dog (the one she sleeps with) to her best friend (who wanted it) last night without my knowledge. Then at bedtime, she cried herself to sleep because she missed her little dog so much. Heart-breaking. But I remember a much more horrible decision I made as a late teenager whose boyfriend pressured me into giving much much more than I should have and ended up dumping me anyway. And no one treasures your God-given treasure like you do. I’m sure this girl thinks it is just another stuffed animal when it was precious to my daughter. There will always be people who want more, want your stuff, see your contentment with it and want your thing believing your contentment will follow. And I realize what God meant when He said (Matthew 7:6) “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.” He means there are things you only provide to people worthy of them, those who don’t want to have it to have it or in search of your peace, but to those who appreciate and not demand, who will be uplifted by it truly, who honor God and will be helped. We both learned valuable lessons. Thought I would share it. ❤
I gave away a piece of my history today. People like to hoard to keep memories. I am the opposite. I like to give to share and make the recipient part of the memory, part of the story. That is love to me. Loving someone enough to make them part of your story. The gift was a keyboard. Nothing fancy but a good one I bought when I was all alone in CA. I went there alone, knowing only my producer there, and the keyboard was a familiar friend (musicians will get that) that I cherished while alone. And now my b husband had bought me three and a piano (again a musician thing) so it was really just for memory sake. And today it becomes part of my friend Tana’s world. I am happy to send my friend on a new journey, knowing it will be loved and played. It is a good step to take, the giving thing. Generosity is what God is all about so I love being generous when I can for Him. Nothing comes with us here or leaves with us later. Things are tools to use. Some are for memories but don’t keep that grip too tight or it might suffocate you. ❤
The hardest thing about teaching your children to give and serve and not take and be waited upon is us parents. The lesson requires a humble spirit and giving and serving on our part as the parents and teachers in order for the kids to learn and act upon the lesson. They will take if we take, they will give if we give, they will serve if we serve. To understand why, they must either experience want or need personally or view it in someone else up close and personal. When they never have to wait for blessing and all their needs are continuously met as soon as they are requested or demanded, the child is spoiled and lifted up and thus can not understand why they should not have everything they want faster. To yield a child who grows up to care more about other people than their own self, they must be broken, have a humble spirit and see through the eyes of God. This must happen or the kid soon to be adult will grow up proud and demanding and pompous. To properly teach this lesson, we must serve the broken, give to the needy, work with those unable to do so, feed mouths needing food, love on the unlovable. Also, kids who do not have to contribute to their family will either fee they do not have to contribute to society or will see themselves as merely decorative. Giving kids chores at home when they are young produces better spouses and members of society when they are older.
Summer is here ( maybe not officially but in spirit), and as such I wear flip flops or go barefoot much of the time. While it keeps my feet considerably cooler, it inevitably produces calluses on my feet. Actually, I work in the yard so much, I end up with them on my hands too, if I’m not careful. So, what does that have to do with the price of eggs? Glad you asked. When we have a lot of experience with our hearts in serving the public or just our family and those we are serving are much more comfortable with being served than serving back, it is a constant push against our hearts. In time, the heart can build up calluses on it as well, calluses of indifference, anger, bitterness, impatience, hatred even, etc. It is very hard to feel anything once the calluses are there. Prevention is all good and well but what if the calluses are there? To understand how to solve the problem, we first need to understand it. Calluses are actually begun as God’s gift to us and our skin for protection. It starts small and if unchecked grows thicker as the body feels the need is there for self protection. Imbalance causes it. Yes, we need to serve the Lord and those needing it with gladness. However, sometimes we need time to relax and revive with prayer and Bible reading and meditation as well as rest. To keep them from building up again once they’re gone, that is what we must remember and make a priority. But to remove the calluses of the heart, we must use the same procedures to remove those of our feet. First, we must get off them. What? That works for the feet but how do you get off the heart? You stop applying so much pressure, must stop doing so much, must cease activities that hurt it. This first step involves the word “no”. How often you have to use that word for a few weeks or months is in direct proportion to how thick the calluses have become. Then, you soak those calluses. How do you soak your heart? Good question. A good soaking involves rest and immersion in the waters of baptism and renewal and revival and Bible reading and prayer and seeking God and finding Him (because He promises that when we seek Him we will find Him every time). Next step is most unpleasant. It is the sloughing off of the callus. If extremely thick, some cutting is also required for the outermost layers. This is cutting out the negative activity or people from your life which your heart feels you need protection from. When you give and someone in your life (who is capable of giving back) only takes, it is okay to stop giving and cut off or slough away that callus builder. We don’t have to keep giving our pearls away to pigs. It’s in the Bible, very true. Praise God for free will! Then, when we’ve gotten back to good health, we need to slather the lotion of worship and praise and spending time alone with God to finish the procedure. And remember the balance mentioned previously to keep the calluses from building up again. God bless you!