Every journey is ultimately made alone, internal decisions determine our present and eternity. That is only enhanced when we choose to have a precious relationship with God our Heavenly Father. Also, we can choose to befriend whoever we will. Otherwise, we are alone and can make choices we think are best. If these friends love God too, the friendship is blessed and beautiful. And if the friends do not love God, they will be a source of discouragement for you and energy must be put into showing them how precious life is with God. Our choices matter and who we choose to spend time with and put energy into matters very much.😄❤
I am stepping out soon to go with some lady friends to the Fancy Flea, a flea market annual event in Plant City. This is stepping put of my comfort zone by socializing with women (I get along better with guys in general), leaving the kids at home (I always have them) and shopping (which I hate- no, detest). Why? Because I was asked by a friend and am seeing the need to be more sacrificial in my friendships. I have used the mostly valid excuse that my husband wants or needs me home, I have to take care of the kids, have to walk the dog, have a hundred things to do to maintain the house and garden, need to stay home and teach, run the kids all over, etc. I have done little to nothing with my friends. I want to have them to dinner, go places, have tea parties, but my husband hates company and I have made allowances for that since day 1. I guess my inner hostess is pushing up through all this submission, perhaps my pride has not all been conquered or perhaps the length of the unfairness has erupted my anger, I am not certain, or perhaps my desire to go home being ignored and cast aside for so long is infuriating my inner rebel.
All these culminate to allow me to go shopping with friends soon without children. We will see what happens but it is my first outing with girlfriends in years. And maybe I don’t need to go and shouldn’t, but maybe this small rebellion will keep me from going nuts with homesickness. I miss my family desperately. And when I have felt like this in my life, I make a way to visit. My hands feel tied and I am, inside myself, starting to wriggle. So I will be praying over this. I really don’t want my inner desires to ever take over my commitment to God and faithfulness to humbleness. I do want God to be first always and His will for me to be bigger than any will of my own. And that is what I need to focus on.
Sorry for rambling and this stream of consciousness, but I figured out my desire to go shopping (which I detest) with the girls and why I am conflicted about it. It is way deeper than I imagined. And thinking it through has helped me see why I may not go but why I may instead get out in nature alone and pray for greater endurance and humbleness. I don’t spend a dime (that I am short on adter 3 birthdays this month) doing this and will be better for it. I will get precious time alone in nature with God.
I have changed my plans for the best. Praise God!😄❤
God must have thought I needed more friends than the handful I have, so He gave me more of them recently. Still a handful but two hands now instead of one. So He graced me with people I can invite to things and have over and be social again. For years my husband was too disagreeable and hostile to them and now he has changed to be nice in every way. I know the Lord made ygis n difference because everything good is from Him. So I am thankful! And I am grateful that I haven’t lost all my desire to host people over the 10 years I was not allowed. God is so very good!! Humbly pray and ask Him for anything you need and to help and He will in the right timing. God is so good!!😄❤
I have a few close friendships (I consider them adopted family/family in Christ) that have stood the test of time. The longest and closest of these is my best friend Shawn. We have been best friends since 2’s and 3’s class (ages) in Sunday school. Very few friendships go back so far and maintain through the years so well. It is a gift from God really, she is so precious. I have a couple other friendships like this, one with April goes back 13 years or better. And one friendship with Dan went back 16 years or more. This recent one it had been over 2 years since we spoke and I needed a singer for NYE this year and thought of him and he is happy to sing with us and we reconnected. And he hadjust mentioned me the day before. So cool.
These friendships are with Christian siblings and they are precious to me. We can count on each other no matter what or how long it has been. We are dedicated to each other, treasure each other, know each other and unconditionally love each other. It is amazing to have that kind of friendship for life or for long term and even cooler because they will be in heaven with me later too, as we help each other stay in thr Lord.
And if you have a friendship or two like that, treasure and appreciate it and really thank the Lord for it. It is a gift from Him. And if you do not, pray and ask Him for someone and at the right time, He will provide one. He loves to bless us. 😄❤
Our house is always open to friends. And we had a wonderful surprise today of friends over. They stayed 3 delightful hours and it was wonderful. I love having friends over and it was a treat. And it is super cool to share beliefs and tech-limiting ideologies with them so we have free time to share ideas and experiences. Real people are ALWAYS better than tech or entertainment of any kind. Hear me people, God made us real people who love real people. Put the tech down. Step away from the tech and visit a real person. It will make their day like our friends made ours!😄❤