How to Win Every Fight

I grew up fighting. I fought myself internally because I knew my power from a young age and needed to keep myself controlled. I fought physically because my sister had some anger issues and instability (as an adult diagnosed bipolar) so attacked me regularly and I had to defend myself very often. Also, we grew up my single digit years in a trailer park and there were a mess of people who liked to mess with you and pick fights. For myself, I just defended or avoided but if a bully was picking on someone else, I was instantly in attack mode. And to boot, my daddy was a marine and taught boxing so he taught me how to fight well. And like any boxer, I never have lost a fight. And I am going to share my secret. Prayer and faith. That is it. There were times I did not realize that is what it was and there were times I in my pride took credit for it as if my strength was so great. Ha! What it was is that I live my life in an attitude of prayer and humility. See, I have from birth been gifted by God with the tool of faith. I have unconditional faith in God, unwavering belief that every word He says is absolutely and unquestioning true and I memorized from a young age Philippians 4:13. I took that literally. I still do. And now I realize that God had granted my heart’s prayers to win the fights I saw as justice against bullies because I believed with God, there is winning. And as a bonus gift, God grated me wisdom to know which battles were worth fighting. For instance, my ex’s wife was in the cat when they dropped my son off upon returning him, and she was acting very hostile and picking a fight with me. I was watering the grass and plants at the time. And she wanted to fight me (probably because I had revealed to my ex that she was abusive to my son when he wasn’t there, and she is). And I would have accommodate her had I not been taking care of something far more important in my life, watering the grass. I had no impulse to meet a fight, despite the fact that I exposed the truth and I am never going to lose against a liar because God is on the aide of truth. But I was not drawn by God to the battle field. See, it would have made me look guilty and she was deflecting from her own guilt and trying to draw me in. It is what the liberals are doing to America and our President Trump now. They are not worth the fight or attention either. The thing is, when there is a moral reason for a fight, not a selfish one, but you have a spirit of humble prayer and a heart to stand up for God and what is right, God will accept your faith and fight for you. Let me be clear, this must be in line with God’s will and peace must be pursued first. And how you fight is also important, only stopping the wrong and not angry vengeance or punishment. And there you go: humble prayer and faith and God helps. That is the answer to winning every fight. Willingness to fight for God and His truth and His weaker souls is honored by God. It would be lovely and will be lovely in heaven someday where there is no sin or bullies but until then, we must stand for the right causes for God. Not that He needs us to but that He wants us to be willing to. A contrite heart is always endearing to God and mix faith with that and that is an amazing combination. Because of God and His love for us, it is so. I sure do love Him!! ❤

My Ten Pet Peeves

1. Willful ignorance.
2. Selfishness and narcissism.
3. Mean spiritedness.
4. Rudeness.
5. Dishonesty.
6. Hypocricy.
7. Inhuman behavior to other humans or animals.
8. Denying God His props.
9. Lack of freedom and appreciation for freedom and what it costs/costed.
10. Unforgiveness and ungenerosity.

So there is the list. I wrote the list becausee I met someone recently who actually exhibited all these. And not only have I gone through a roller coaster of emotions to get here but because I want to guard my own heart against these things. I believe maturity is not giving in to the temptation to treat people the way we have been treated. I also believe that when God forgives, He forgives completely and utterly and nothing of what He has forgiven remains in us. The other person may want to hang on to that and not forgive, but that only further injures themselves because who God has freed, they are free completely. So to my recent crazy, I tip my hat to the lesson that God is in charge still here on this third rock from the sun and I am forgiven and resting in His hands to handle the rest of it. He heals. Pet peeves that harrass and anger melt every single time into peace when on my knees. These horrors that can make a grown and mature person cry and resist and what not are absolutely nothing compared to the joy and peace of my God. An enemy cannot fight alone. If you do not fight back, they leave. All bullies are cowards. If they persist because they believe they are right or more right or a different more holy right than you, humbly let God fight for you and we will see who wins against Him. My guess is no one. There you have it. God bless and thank you, God, for your abundant love and peace and power. I am again amazed at Your efficiency and generosity and love and care of me. It is beautiful! Thank you for your peace!

How to Win the Fight Within

I love boxing. I love to watch, love to fight. I fight inside myself too. I seem born to fight. Unsure if from heredity (my Daddy was a boxing instructor in the Marines) or nostalgia (watching matches with him as a kid) or just the overwhelming drive and energy built into me, I really enjoy the fight. I don’t like losing though. Really really don’t like losing. So I have a way to win every fight inside me. This works. To win every fight within your soul, on do two simple things. The first is lay down and give up. The second is to give the fight away to God. He can win against everything. I didn’t say it was exciting. Refusing to fight IS actually an action, though, in this case. We bow out of the fight against the roaring flood of our pride. Our pride says we can beat this. We can win. And I always did before. But. Eventually we will come against a fight we cannot win, too big an opponent. And God will not fight for us if our enormous egos are blocking His way. So when faced with a small battle inside, start practicing your new line of defense: your double play: surrender the fight and give it to God to fight. He can not lose to anyone or anything.

Innocence Lost

Once upon a time, children could run and play, just enjoy the joys of a game of tag or hide and seek, without regard to the world around or adult life. Of course there have always been some children forced to grow up too soon because of bad parents or bad circumstances, but mostly children were innocent. Now, I had to discuss many grown up things with my not quite 10 year old son because of his questions based on talks with the neighbor kids about things little kids ought not to know. No one is talking about this except an occasional parent I come in contact with. Our children are being robbed of their innocence at earlier ages than they can even understand. Satan is preying on our children because his time is short. Please do not be naive to this as I was. Please protect and safeguard your kids to the best of your ability and much more importantly, teach and guide them to know right from wrong and choose the right. We must be proactive, not just ourselves but on behalf of our children. We must fight for their souls. We must allow them as much childhood as possible to develop normally and properly. It is our jobs as parents to do the best we can. We must have those difficult conversations, we must correct and punish bad behavior, we must encourage and promote good behavior. We must read the truth of the Bible to know ourselves which is black and which is white in this increasingly gray society. We must not become lazy or complaisant. There is too much at stake. We must fight. If we don’t fight for our children, who will? When is enough enough? It must be now. We are losing our children.