Much of my life I have grappled with the “fear of the Lord”. God is love. Why fear Him? And then it hit me. God is Love, yes, but He is also Holy. Holy is perfect, blameless, without error or flaw, all to the greatest magnification you can imagine then add some. God cannot sin or be around sin or He would destroy it with the force of His presence. However, He is also Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Gentleness, Faithfulness, Self-Control. So He keeps Himself from destroying us and provided Jesus Christ, His Son, to bridge the gap between a holy God and unholy us. We actually become blameless like Jesus when we accept Him as our Savior. The fear is of what the most powerful God is capable of and the love and appreciation comes from the gift He has given for us to have an adopted relationship with Him. Yes, there is a healthy fear of the Lord. Absolutely. Rightly so. This is the beginning of wisdom. It is necessary to properly understand gratefulness and worship. It is powerful enough to maintain focus on eternity with God and minimize distractions and temptations. ❤
To live life unafraid only happens with love from God and faith and trust in Him. Fear is a strong liar that can only be defeated by powerful, truthful love. And God is love. He actually is our only source of love (and goodness) in this universe. Therefore, God’s love defeats fear and our faith and trust in God unleash the power of God/love into our life to do the work. “Perfect love casts out all fear” is another way to say “Faith and trust in God casts out all fear”. And that makes me smile.❤
So, there once was this guy. He grew up smack dab in the middle of a family of five and was a very sensitive soul. However he soon found out the world was not a sensitive place. Born and raised in the Bronx, he quickly grew an outer hard shell to protect his sensitive insides. Protection and safety was the name of the game. All about himself, he was.
He loved and left many, had three children along the way and is on his third wife. He is afraid to be alone, afraid to be vulnerable, afraid to be hurt, afraid to be bored, afraid to be rejected, afraid to not have what he needs in a woman or in life, and all the while fights to be a man, though he was largely left alone as a boy. His favorite wife (the second and most beautiful person he actually loved) tired of his fears and games and other women.
One day, he met a woman unlike any other he had ever met before, different than any other woman ever. She became his soul mate. Theirs was the deepest love you could imagine, at least on her side and maybe on his for a time too once he realized he had nothing to fear in her. Seemed a perfect match And both were very happy together.
But life was complicated and he ran to a worthless woman who offered him a house to co-own, becoming his wife number 3. The girl who loved him so much just couldn’t compete with his fears. Instead of embracing her strong love, he threw her away as if she were the garbage and the fears were the truth. She could not compete with irrational fear and lies bought and paid for. No one could except the horrible number 3 who gave him a house. Turns out that is what he wanted more than anything, more than happiness, more than peace, more than passionate love. Four walls and a roof. With someone so afraid, how can love compete with false beliefs of fear?
What this poor guy has yet to learn is that love is the only solid truth security and love is the only thing that can drive out fear. Fear is a liar and sucks your joy. When we realize love is a million times stronger than fear, our maturity then can pull joy and peace in and secure the heart in that love. Love is not a place but a Person and God is love.❤❤❤
Love is not a mamby pamby wallflower sort of thing. It is the most powerful force in the universe. How do I know? God is love. Tired of people believing that loving someone allows others the freedom to do whatever they want to people and get away with it. That is not love. Love is standing for truth while exhibiting the fits of the Spirit. How do I k n ow? God is truth and Jesus did not tuck things under the rug, he said what needed saying. He was the bravest man ever to have existed and He was God. There was no wallflower in Him. Humble does not ever mean ashamed, it is a choice to allow God to flow through you, it is a brave purpose of placing your will under God’s, giving Him primary rule over it. This is fierce and brave. There is no fear for love casts it out. We need to do what is right.❤
My daughter lately is scared of the dark. And no amount of turning lights off and on again and explanations changes her mind. What she needs and wants is me there with her.
We have darkness encroaching. If you have any spiritual sensitivity at all, you feel this increase of darkness. We are making great strides with prayer and worship but the darkness is still there to contend with. And faith is what allows us to know it is ok even in the dark and just knowing God is there eases our anxt. So that is the key, friends. Have faith that God is there as always, just one word or thought away. We never have to fear the dark.❤
My daughter still struggles with the dark. Despite lessons on security, despite reassurance. She struggles with fear of the dark. And I think how silly that is until I realize how real it is for many/most adults too.
I cannot tell you how many of my patients (mostly geriatric) are scared of the unknown, being in the dark. They get a cancer diagnosis and fear rushes in like a cheetah on the hunt. And adults I know are worried (a sweeter way to say afraid) of losing or changing a job or having to move to a new place where they are largely in the dark. People are afraid of not knowing.
I have good news. No need to struggle with fear of the dark or the unknown. You can let go of that fear. How? You simply stop clutching it so tightly and let go of it. Lift it up, visualize yourself lifting it to God. Tell Him you know He is in control, ask for help, and let it go. Things in life are as easy or difficult as you chose for them to be. Life is a series of choices and this is just one of the many. Give up and stop focusing on what you are afraid of. Quit giving it power. Face it with God and His Truth that you have the Holy Spirit, stronger than any force on earth living right inside your heart when you got saved. You have nothing to fear, just a conversation with God to have. No worries. No fears. Reject them both. Know Whose you are. Child of the One True God, all powerful and all loving.❤
When my teenage son gets a little, ahem, tense, with his crazy hormones, I start singing Don’t Worry, Be Happy. Then I address him and we sort it out, but I start with the song. A great song with an inherently Christian principle, do not worry. Jesus commanded it and it is many many times in the Bible. Worry stems from fear and “do not fear” in some form is in thr Bible 365 times at least, so at least one verse per day. That is how important it is. So, when tense or anxious, sing this little song he wrote, maybe even sing it note for note, “Don’t worry. Be happy.” Start there and move forward, hopefully with a humble prayer alongside. And things will go better for you.❤