People take for granted I am as hooked on Facebook etc as they are. I have been anti-social media sober for 1.5 years now. I do not ever regret it. I have peace and joy in my life and benefit extensively with human interaction with my family. I have time to do everything I need to do. I look people in the eye and have time for a face to face conversation. It is beautiful.
People seem horrified when they learn I am not on anti-social media, wondering how I survive. This makes me smile but I do not judge, I was there at one point. I just know that not one ounce of me misses it or longs for it again. My life personally is richer without it. The biggest bonus is that God has His proper place in my life and my Bible reading is an actual Bible and not FB posts. Lol ❤
If you spend more time on Facebook and other social media and tech and games than you spend on God and loving and/or serving people, Facebook has become your god. And that is serious. I am proof you live happier and better and in obedience free of social media. I was addicted and it had become my idol and now I am free of it. I only blog for ministry and check my email and that is it for tech in my life. I want no more of it. I want God to be God in my life. I do not want Him to return and not be ready or worse, to have an idol of social media in place of Him. God deserves so much better; in fact, He deserves everything.❤
Lol. I am sure Facebook people (of which I am not and have no account) do not intend on being snobs. But they assume everyone is on Facebook and some of us archaic people still prefer real people to their digital masks or counterparts. And these FB peeps club up on there and leave us out. “Well, I posted it” (in the air so it is not my fault you prefer the ground, you old fashioned freak) is their defense. We went to a 4-H meeting today and no one was there. “We posted the cancellation”. Oh, that’s OK then. No worries about my rearranging my old fashioned schedule for you FB addicts. So there is my official stance on the digital choice (which records and tracks and shares and maps you) versus real interactions with people who can still use full words in complete sentences and make eye contact. It’s like the whole world is playing Pokémon Go rather than living life, like an alternate reality they prefer to live in (now I sound like the snob lol) and whoever doesn’t climb on thr fantasy train distraction is an old fashioned oaf that doesn’t fit in so must be a weirdo. Lol Maybe a bit harsh and probably no one knows that is what they are doing, they slid into it so sweetly, bit by golly, we old timers are people too. And if your club cancels a meeting, please inform the rest of us who are not citizens of fruity FB land but real life people on the ground picking up the slack for y’all cell phone faces. Lol❤
I am not on facebook. I was and wasted a heck of a lot of time on it pretending to be social but only writing, never saying or hearing an audible word from people, never making eye contact with them, never touching their skin. I still miss the thought of being “in touch” with them but once getting off of it realized it was just the thought I had to begin with. Knowing the events of a person’s life is in no shape the full picture of that person. Seeing pictures tells only part of the story. And I had shared my number before getting off of it and not one person from it except my best friend, one good friend and family has called since I’ve been off. No calls even when I was on, truth be told. It is this false notion of connectedness in an addictive need to know formula. And that is dangerous. One has a sense of urgent dependency to be on tech to feel connected but it is a false sense of connection. My husband got back on just to wish his daughter a happy birthday, as apparently she cannot communicate any other way. Now that he told her, he is getting off again. So, I was looking up a few friends from my past and they only jumped up in searches on facebook, maybe on Instagram too and nothing about real life. And it brought them right up so good people or bad people would know where they were, what they were doing, see their pictures, etc. That is pretty scary to me, maybe I am cautious. But being off facebook, evidently I am weird again and out of the loop and old fashioned and definitely out of people’s thoughts and minds and realm of communication. So, I draw closer still to God who loves me and my little family and take comfort that God is always with me, even on lonely night after lonely night and days of family and band family that are still around and maybe a friend now and then. And I am content, don’t get me wrong, but I miss days of calling someone up on a phone that doesn’t play a role in cancer and just talk or meet in person. Ooo, ah. What would it be like if neighbors still visited each other. What would happen if people actually still had and practiced real social skills? Who knew technology would kill real committed human connections. Amazing. So glad I have God or I would be extremely lonely in this world. I am so blessed. ❤
Now that I have been off of Facebook for a while, I can look objectively at it. With Twitter, I am on a few minutes each day for encouragement (I only follow a few positive and Christian people) and that is it. Something about Facebook particularly drew me in. It is a disease. It is a faux way to feel connected to people without being connected at all. Very few people who were on there all the time still text me or keep in touch. It is weird. It is like their noses are in it all the time, every experience is documented like a glorification journal all about you, and everyone knows what everyone is doing or had for supper but does not know their spiritual or soul song. It is like a “safe” way to communicate and only present to the world what you want them to see or know but not be known. It is addictive and generally about yourself, like you are what matters most. So I am glad I am off of it. It wasted a lot of my time and was a huge distraction and for me personally an addiction. No thank you. It does not fit into my family or new simplifying take on life or my relationship with God. Let me just use that time to read the Bible and pray and actually be connected with people I love. Just my thoughts.
Everyone I know lives on Facebook. I used to too. They use it for news, gossip, self edification, bask in their own goodness with it, I did it too. I quit my addiction cold turkey because some idiot female was trying to talk bad about me to my husband who decided life had enough drama and bye bye Facebook for a long time. And also, the timing fit because I was mourning the loss of loved ones and do sad better alone. So, in line with the decision, I deactivated my account. Later, it magically resurfaced. Interesting. So I deleted it completely. Low and behold, it takes an entire month to be deleted permanently and during that month the account is active! If I log in to deactivate during the long wait for someone to push a button to delete me, I reactivate it first and have to wait another month. It is really easy to pick up an idol to bow down to, one that tracks you and reads your stuff, but very hard to rid yourself of it. Rant over. The point is, I had a problem, an addiction to something and realize it now and will not go down that road again. I am quite guarded now who I let into my world. I am quite selective who is in our band family and who enters our home, who I tell anything to. It has to be that way. Few people really care anymore and that is a shame, especially when so many claim to love my God. People are wrapped up in talking to themselves and a machine that they do not know how to talk in person without being bored or in a hurry to get away and text so some else about it. Seems like a strange turn of events. I am wanting more than ever to go back in time and live without any tech at all. While yurt living with a raw vegan smoothie is not in my immediate future, I am wanting to run away from society to a small neck of the country and worship God with my family in nature. And that is where my heart is. Of course, we have some things to do here for a while. But someday, if I have my way, you will look and we will be a speck on the horizon headed for space and beautiful farmland to grow some food and breathe air. Maybe just a dream, maybe very real. God only knows. 🙂
Today I deleted my facebook account. I missed it, missed knowing what was going on in people’s lives and being connected with them, seeing their pictures. I realized how much I relied on that to feel connected to people instead of just being with people or talking to them. I miss those far away, especially those I love that love me, but those close to me had greater meaning and prominence. I was more present during band practice today. I focused more on my kids and made more meaningful moments with them. I was more present. And I see where I had a dependency on that which is far away rather than focusing on the task at hand. I tend to want to connect socially with those far away rather than work on present tasks with those in my path now. My journey has shifted. I am always learning. I will always love those near and far who are in my circle of friends and family, all fellow journeyers, always. I am loyal and cut like that, but I must focus on teaching my children and preparing them for life and teaching them to serve here. So each day will have challenges and distractions, but with God’s help, I will focus more and more on the moment and task at hand and less and less on those things. And Lord willing, we will learn and grow every day and grow in wisdom and knowledge and understanding to serve God and those He made better.