Here is my short list of things to say every day at least once.
1. I love you.
2. Please and thank you.
3. Thank you, God.
4. What a beautiful day God has made!
5. I praise You, God, for Your glory.
6. Lord, I need help today.
7. I was just thinking about you.
8. Yes, Ma’am/Sir or yes, please and No, Ma’am or No,please.
9. You are most welcome.
10. Thank you, God, for all the blessing You have given me today.❤
Now, I believe friends should talk to each other. I mean true friends. God puts people together for such purposes… to share and help and encourage each other and worship God together. Now, how can that happen if communication is down or one sided? Truly, it cannot.
I was very surprised to learn some disturbing stuff a friend is going through. It seemed all was well. I am not sure if it was their being good at hiding or my complete inattention to details which would have signaled me (I seem doomed to some level of blindness) and my optimistic nature, but I am certain both of us were at fault and I am sorry for my part.
My first reaction was “Why on earth didn’t you tell me so I could have been praying for you?” Secondly, I could have helped or encouraged or something. Thirdly, didn’t you trust me? Now, that last one I readily admit is selfish. But I want you to see how we extroverts think. And I get that introverts hate being helped so loudly. I get that. I understand… most of my few friends are introverts. My mom is an introvert. I get it.
But the praying thing is spot on. If you are going through something, feel free to say, “Now don’t make a big, loud deal out of this, but I need to talk and I need prayers only.” And that is totally doable. That is conditional, sharing your feelings communication right there. See what beautiful things can happen when we are true friends and share the load and pray together. Amazing things!❤
There is an art to communication. I find it is easier for me to be silent and listen when one much wiser is speaking. When those without such wisdom speak, silence is difficult for me. I long to learn, want to be wiser, ask God for such things. And when He speaks to my mind or heart, I listen and learn. But God is not a one-sided relationship. He does not want us entirely silent. He wants us to praise and worship and serve and sing and speak. His Words. He longs for relationship with us. Yes, we are to listen. But then respond. And how you respond is where the proof or absence of wisdom will be. Strive for wisdom. ❤
There must be an enormous generosity in place within two conversationalists in order for hearing and understanding to occur. Both have to be humble enough to receive information and process it in the context it was meant. If one or both are too full of self/pride, either the hearing will be faulty or the understanding/wisdom within the context will be flawed. This flawed understanding happens in sublings, friends, marriages, nations, leaders, business, and it is never a good thing. This is one of many reasons God emphasizes the maintenance of humility as a characteristic we strive to live. God knows the importance of humbleness in communication and understanding, and really, what good comes from misunderstandings? So God knows what He is doing and please attempt to remain humble for His sake and that of all those around you. Everyone wins.❤
You know, as long as you you aren’t in the habit of over-using words, words have amazing power. Our thoughts and ideas matter and what we say and how we say it, especially when being shared with someone else wanting to converse, hold such enormous power. A conversation can change perspectives, soften hearts, harden them or share ideas meaningfully. It all depends how it is used. A good conversation is time well spent and never underestimate its potential. That is why prayer is so powerful, why relationships can be better, why perspectives can change. These conversations are vital and necessary to growth. Always make room and time for a good conversation. Always beneficial. ❤
We had to let our lead singer go in our band for a myriad of reasons which everyone left agreed upon. And he did not accept our decision that was best for him/his deteriorating health as well as the band, so he decided to be divisive by calling other band members and causing problems and whining like a child. So, here we have a problem, a potentially big one. But his tactics were ineffectual. Why? How do you nip problems in the bud? Here is the easiest way… good communication. We talk. My husband says “Adults talk”. Children whine, adults talk. That is it. We talked. I talked and explained for the decision we had wrestled over for a freakishly long time and our line of reasoning beforehand. Then the band was prepared for his childish antics and knew we were on the right page. Some people’s pride will not release them of wanting to do what they feel good doing even if their health is compromised and a good friend steps in to intervene and save them from their self. And my conscience is clear and everyone is good and excited about our new members and energy and new songs again and we are moving forward together, more united for it and clear of conscience knowing we did the right thing for him and us. Good communication accomplishes that. And of course before any communication occurs, we pray first and God provides the right words at the right time for the right reasons. So really it is two fold… good communication with God and with everyone else. And then the details, good or bad, will work themselves out. ❤