We have a system, my mom and I, where she teaches piano lessons (something she has done for 40 years or more) and I clean her house in exchange. This gives me an excuse to clean for her (for she cannot do it herself anymore) while maintaining her strong independence and dignity. I could teach the kids myself but this works and gives the kids more time with their Grandma. Sometimes we have to be more creative with our helping but it is worth a little extra effort and creativity to allow her to feel useful and important and independent. This is so important when taking care of another human being, especially a parent you wish to show respect and honor to. ❤
When you are taking care of someone you love or otherwise, please remember that the person is ill. That seems simple enough but mentally if you have a weakness in there, you will tend to take things personally. An ill person is usually plagued by some level of pride which makes them angry and frustrated that they need help. Also, they may have some mental issues which make lashing out verbally common at times. Truth is, they don’t realize they are doing it. Sometimes they are really echos of harshness they encountered or experienced previously, many moons ago. Be respectful. If nothing else, smile and wave. The second thing to always keep in mind is that it is usually a thankless job. You are working for the Lord and not for man. It is the Lord you serve. Your reward comes later. Now is the work. I always bear this in mind. I work for God not man. It is easier to work for God, He give you renewed strength. You can easily burn out if you do not understand this truth. God provides strength, no one else. No one else is bigger than the strain, larger than the problem, peaceful beyond measure. God is it. Renew from Him. So review: 1. Remember the person is I’ll and do not take things personally and 2. You are working for God and not man and your reward comes later, work now. God is the source n of strength. Now smile, child of God, and take a hot Epsom salt bubble bath and listen to some Bible verses for a boost. You are invaluable! ❤
So, my mom fell this morning in the bathtub and broke her hip. That leaves me as primary caregiver of two households. So, I am going to keep this blog brief so as to go look after Dad. Troubles come. They come and they come and they come. And yet, I may be crazy busy and overwhelmed for this moment, but God has given me peace. Why? Because I am His precious little girl and He gave me a gift. Trouble is definite but peace is optional. You have to pick up the gift. Trouble brings humble and humble brings God’s blessings.