The Truth About Cats & Choices

While different cats have different personalities, having had many cats throughout the years and being thus somewhat of an expert, they all behave in some very similar and rather predictable ways. All of them sleep a lot. This is important because when awake they are very much energetic and busy. All of them eat a lot when they are awake or do their best to. All of them in time get used to you and socialize with you, by cuddling or tolerating your existence or being in the same room with you or playing with you. All of them talk when they have something to say, some have more than others. All of them, if you stop feeding them and they can get away, they will leave and find food. After eating if they like you otherwise will return. If you mistreat them, they will escape if they can. What does all this have ro do with the price of eggs? We all, every human being on the planet, needs certain things. We all have different personalities (some people several) but we all need certain things to live and survive and thrive and all of us are somewhat predictable to an extent with what we need. When we don’t get it, if we can, we eventually get away and find what we need. This sounds selfish to some and base/rudimentary/feral, but there it is. People run away from people/situations all the time to get what they really need. We all have those needs. But the thing that separates us from animals is that we are complex in our brain development in that spiritual matters/God are important aspects of our lives and we live by a set of moral laws and higher thinking with a complex language. We are not just feeling, emotional beings, we also have a spirit and soul that yearns to please and worship our Creator. When we don’t please and worship God and instead fill up on substitutes (like addictions, other people, our own abilities or looks, some hobby that takes over all our energy,  whatever), we keep chasing that satisfaction that will never come unless we do what we are designed to do. And listen, nothing in our past or present is big or ugly enough to keep us from changing our focus to please (by obeying and praying) and worship God. Then bam! New life, no need to run away anymore. There is peace and joy in every aspect of your life when you please God and worship Him as you were designed to do. And not doing so deprives us of our God given destiny for peace and joy. That choice is ours alone. 

Grief and Cloudy Thinking

Sometime, a lot lately, I get it wrong. I was focused on my sadness at circumstances ces beyond anyone’s control and fixated on that. And here, under the weight of it all, I focused on me and my emotional of the moment. Who!e emotions are valid, they are not an excuse to not see my friend in need and be there. Sadness in myself is not an excuse for me to be inhumane. I am still responsible for my love. So, I am truly sorry, friend, I focused too much on myself at the moment and neglected you. And I also negated seeing my Father God in the emotions too. He is there, always and forever and comforts us when we ask Him and never leaves us alone. We need other arms but He provides that too. He provides everything in His timing for His glory and our best. That is truth. That is all.

How to Quit

You decide concretely and purposely to stop doing something for a reason greater than your own temporary desires and wants. Then pray. It is just that simple. The ego and the enemy make it difficult and seem complicated, and of course you have to have derived some temporary pleasure out of the sinful behavior or you wouldn’t still be doing it. You have to want to please and obey God more than yourself. That is it. God always makes it simple. The hardest thing is taming the ego. You can do it. God can help.

Ephesians 4:1-6

Therefore I urge you who have been chosen by God to live up to the life to which God called you.  Always be humble, gentle, and patient, accepting each other in love.  You are joined together with peace through the Spirit, so make every effort to continue together in this way.  There is one body and one Spirit, and God called you to have one hope.  There is one Lord, one faith, and one baptism.  There is one God and Father of everything. He rules everything and is everywhere and is in everything. – Ephesians 4:1b-6

Some People’s Children

Aware of the fact that my kids are very busy children and very active thinkers, I have been amiss in their upbringing as of late. The 9 year old male and the 4 year old female are quite different in some ways because of having different fathers and different life experiences (my son having survived a divorce) yet quite a bit alike both because of their common Mom and birthdays 2 weeks apart. Until today, wondering why the preschooler was acting out so much lately, I realized that I was giving more recognition and support to their similarities and not much to their differences. I will be working on that. In addition, I forgot my trick until today. The trick is to ignore the bad behavior (unless it is direct disobedience or a safety hazard) as much as possible and go over the top with praise and hugs and kisses when behavior is good. This reinforces what you want to happen and gives the kid attention when doing well and every preschooler wants/craves/needs attention. So, I have my work cut out for me and now all I need is more energy for all this extra work. 🙂 I guess we are all a work in progress.