Advice for Marriage

1. No one is perfect. Forgive. You need forgiveness too. Forgive how you want to be forgiven, not what they deserve.

2. Build your relationship with God and depend on God. The spouse is not God and will let you down, can’t help it. God never will let you down.

3. A spouse can only be who they are. Don’t expect more or less and you have friends and God for what they cannot provide (I mean compliments or conversations or what not). If he/she always criticizes, find a friend for compliments or better yet learn more about what God says about you in the Bible and be satisfied with that.

4. Marriage commitment is binding. No divorce, you gotta make it work. Keep your problems between you and God, work it out, stay humble. And refer back to number 1. Repeat.❤

Don’ts of the Wise

Don’t change your shell to please another.

Don’t take another’s opinion as your own without research.

Don’t buy what anyone’s selling unless you need it and can afford it.

Don’t believe what you are told without proof.

Don’t worry about things that have no eternal value.

Don’t rush when you can breathe fresh air in nature.

Don’t worry.

Don’t fight unless you have to. If you have to, don’t lose the fight.

Don’t forget to spend time with those you love.

Don’t be so glued to your agenda that you miss an eternal opportunity.

Don’t fear, have faith in God.

Don’t put your trust into any person but only in God.

Don’t look back and long for what God has wisely removed from your life.

Don’t neglect prayer time and Bible reading.

Don’t forget to smile!❤

“Wait & See” is Valid

My Grandma Batterson was a quiet and thoughtful woman, very clean, classy and practical. I would have some perceived emergency and tell her and she would much too calmly tell me to “wait and see”. Frustrating at the roller coaster moment, I see her beautiful wisdom now. Because, you see, most of the time the matter would resolve itself and alway with prayer it would be resolved at least on my end. Sometimes we have to do something, our moral obligation, the right thing, do something. But that is our requirement. When you get busy serving elsewhere or doing chores or work or even take a nice walk or bubble bath and pray, all will be well. And those very few instances we screw up and God forgives us but the person doesn’t because of their own sin of unforgiveness, we are not responsible for that anymore and still have peace and joy. So there is an art to 1. humble prayer, 2. Do your moral part and 3. Get busy doing something else. And my wise Grandma’s advice can then help you too. And on her heavenly behalf, you’re welcome. 😄❤

Word to the Wise

When maturity and God’s wisdom bites and prohibits reactions you would regret, it produces a better option. Rather than lashing out in self-serving indignation, I caught myself praying an immediate humble prayer of forgiveness for the attacker and a change of perspective and softening of heart. I left it as that and went to serving my kids a meal and washing the dishes. That brief prayer and humbling of spirit was honored by God who did indeed soften the heart and change the perspective of the attacker and myself. So, I have learned this wisdom in practice and am recommending it to everyone within the sound of my voice. Heed it and win. ❤

Sad Christmas Advice

Last year, I had recently lost the best man in the world, the only one who has ever loved me without conditions and my greatest supportive force of my life, my daddy. And two other important, loved people to me also died then. I was sad, I did not even want to celebrate. I did not know how to. It was a monumental loss I had never experienced. So last Christmas was going through the motions, trying to be happy for the kids and my husband, doing my best so they were not traumatized as I was. 

So here is my thought. You are never alone, as you feel. You are never unloved, as you feel. God is our Heavenly Father and loves us so much. So the advice is to remember that, get out and do something (socialize or exercise or serve somewhere), even if you don’t feel like it. Just do it. Read your Bible. Spend time with God. Do something. You will not feel like it. But from experience, time and God heal faster when we do something. The bed is a consuming blackness and brooding makes it worse. So chin up, my love. God will bless your efforts and love you stronger in time. It ends so much quicker when you do something. You can. ❤