Suicide

The evil of suicide is a big deal for young people right now, the second leading cause of death at present for them. It is horrifying to consider and I generally don’t give airtime to evil but this monster hit close to home- our old pastor’s son- and I need to mention it.

The idea of suicide is evil. The thought is evil and at best incredibly selfish. And to get to a place where there is no hope is swallowing about a million lies and false beliefs. Here is why…

Truth: 1. We are all lovingly made by God on purpose.

Truth 2: God made each of us with specific gifts and talents.

Truth 3: Every person God lovingly made is precious and important to the God of the universe and loved.

Truth 4: God cared so much for each and any one of us that He sent us Jesus Christ as a sacrifice for our sins.

Truth 5: God is happy to help anyone with anything any time they humbly ask Him to.

Truth 6: Suicide kills a person God lovingly made and leaves no time to repent and confess and be forgiven. No problem in the world is worth an eternity in hell.

This is the inherent selfishness and evil of suicide. There is good news for those of us alive. We have God to help us with any problem ever. God can help us forgive those who wrong us, even if they don’t ask or don’t care. God cares. God still loves you, the precious child He lovingly made. And God is truth and hope to cut through any lies. The Bible is the best medicine I know. God is the Great Physician. There is always hope. Anything else n is an evil lie. You can choose truth any second of any day and I highly recommend it. You are so very loved.❤

Benefits of Being Married Long Term to an Addict

Many people believe there is only negative in being married to an addict (it does not matter the addiction of choice- they all look the same ugly in a spouse and are all rooted in false beliefs, lies, sin and pride). There are many advantages and blessings. Some are the following:

1. Being humbled every day allows a contrite heart to flourish. It is next to impossible to feel like the center of anyone’s life or attention who already has their addiction as the center. Yes, the downside is that often even God and obedience comes after the addiction, but I am showing the positive and it is true that you cannot help but be humble when married to an addict. This helps a lot when working on contrition with the Lord. And that is a hurdle to faith most people really struggle with.

2. You depend on and trust in God only and that is very healthy spiritually. You cannot depend on the addict often but you realize quickly (because of the contrition mentioned earlier) that you can always depend on and trust in God.

3. You love truth. You realize that the addict, although in denial with lies and false beliefs, is riddled with guilt and fear all the time and lies like they breathe. This is so obvious and lies upon lies gets old. So you love truth. I read my Bible all the time, loving every word, every truth it is. You truly appreciate truth more than most do.

4. You accept and learn to be content in God. You appreciate everything good in life, really appreciate every blessing, every kind word, every word of encouragement, every friend who sticks around, every prayer where you feel God there with you. You appreciate more. You are thankful for a home with air conditioning, transportation, food, all those blessings people take for granted. You are content with unimportance. You are happy with every blessing and know full well that God is enough every day, every time, every moment.

5. You develop a thick chin. You realize that what God says about you is the truth and are thankful for it. You realize the truth is not in the accusations and put downs and anger/rages that always accompany the adddictions because of their nature and guilt and fear. You realize that God lovingly made you and sleep alone for years or not, you are beautiful inside, God lovingly made and gifted you. You are incredibly beautiful because God’s glory shines through you. So beautiful!

6. Forgiveness comes easily. You have to forgive so much and are humbled and contrite that forgiveness comes super easily. You have to forgive to survive. You forgive because you love. And you forgive because God forgave you and you want to be forgiven and have your prayers answered.

7. Greater faith in God. You rely on God for every encouragement, every good thing, every solution to every abuse, every emotional anything, healing when stress is getting to you, every comfort when lonely, everything. This is invaluable in a walk with the Lord and makes us closer. And heaven will be so much more beautiful!

8. You show them God’s true love. When you stay with an addict, you have the chance to show them love. In fact, the act of staying married to the addict is the strongest show of love along with the forgiveness. Love is patient, kind, self-sacrificing, humble, real, truthful, joyful, peaceful, faithful (even if they are not), etc. We are responsible for how we love. And love is purely beautiful.

9. You are in obedience to God. God hates divorce and if it can possibly be avoided, it should be. There are many blessings and rewards for obedience to God.

I hope you understand better the blessings involved in being and staying married long term to an addict. No one is perfect except Jesus. Staying married is your choice I would say largely because of these blessings and love. And God’s love is the greatest force I know.❤

My Life Away from Social Media

People take for granted I am as hooked on Facebook etc as they are. I have been anti-social media sober for 1.5 years now. I do not ever regret it. I have peace and joy in my life and benefit extensively with human interaction with my family. I have time to do everything I need to do. I look people in the eye and have time for a face to face conversation. It is beautiful.

People seem horrified when they learn I am not on anti-social media, wondering how I survive. This makes me smile but I do not judge, I was there at one point. I just know that not one ounce of me misses it or longs for it again. My life personally is richer without it. The biggest bonus is that God has His proper place in my life and my Bible reading is an actual Bible and not FB posts. Lol ❤

True Freedom

I had a profound thought. And I am fully prepared to say that probably I am quite late on this particular thought wave, and maybe you would think me simple for just getting it, but I just fully realized it. It has to do with true freedom. Here it is.

God provides true freedom and truth. He provided a plan of salvation but always leaves the choice to follow it or not entirely up to us. He freely gives free will to every person He lovingly created. Freedom. To go to heaven or he’ll is entirely up to us. I can choose to have a relationship with the Almighty God through Jesus. I can choose to be with truth and goodness of God and love for all eternity.

In stark contrast, Satan operates by controlling in fear and lies, lies, lies. He promises freedom to sin as much as you want and promises power in return. He actually does not have the authority to provide this so it is one of his many lies. Control is the name of the game. Guilt and shame ilicit fears when doing the sins you want to do. How he works is opposite of God. He is defeated so him providing you anything good is a lie in of itself.

So, I fully realized this today while doing dishes. And I get fully that I prefer love, truth and freedom to control, fear and lies. I choose God. I want peace and love and joy and eternal life with God. People fall for Satan because they want to sin. I would want to sin now and again and do unfortunately sometimes, but you and I are lying if we do not admit there are negative consequences to all sins that hurt us. Jesus saves. Satan condemns. Jesus clarifies. Satan confuses. Jesus helps. Satan destroys. It is a no brainer. God is best!!❤❤❤

Beware of “Acceptable Sins”

I have observed that many Christians have an unspoken category of “acceptable sins”. This basically entails whatever sin they favor in their own life. For some it is gossip. Some, grumbling and complaining (I am working on this one). For some it is gluttony of food, drugs, alcohol, cellphones, tech, work, whatever it is. Some, it is idolatry of a spouse or lover. Some, it is criticism and for some, it is lust. For some, stinginess and for others it is worry. There are a myriad of options. People want their pet sin to be an “acceptable sin”. And this has gone on as long as I have been alive and I am sure before that. This is dangerous, friends, because in God’s eyes, every sin separates us from His Holiness/Perfect Purity. Any sin we commit is a blemish and causes separation from God. Any “little” or “acceptable” one. I am guilty of this and have to keep reminding myself as I am reminding you that we need to stay in a manner of contrition. Our hearts and minds are notoriously dirty and we need to stay humble and teachable in prayer and keep asking the blood of Jesus and power n of His resurrection to cover all our sins and keep us in good standing with God. He longs for and loves us and we have everything we need in Jesus Christ, who died a sinless sacrifice for us for all time as long as we accept His free gift of grace. How beautiful! He dies for every sin, “acceptable” ones or ones steeped in sheer evil. Jesus is strong enough to cover any sin. We just need to keep coming to Him with them and as soon as we are aware (and here is the hardest part for so many), stop sinning. People sin because they want to. We have to want to please God more than to please ourselves. That is the key. God is worthy of our efforts. And there are eternal rewards for staying with Him.❤

Judging Errors

Jesus Christ is qualified to judge for He is perfect and fully God and fully man and died and rose for our redemption. He is qualified to judge us. And someday He will. Until thrn, however, He chooses to lovingly and abundantly supply grace with just a humble prayer. When we judge each other or ourselves, we are in error. God alone can judge and He chooses grace and mercy until judgment day. He in love wants everyone saved. And while that is unlikely because of the pride problem that blinds many. Nonetheless, He made everyone on purpose with love and is being very patient even now so grace and mercy can save as many as will be humble and ask. When we judge others or ourselves, we are saying we are qualified to judge, that we are perfect, that we are God. We are not. The absolute best we can ever do is walk in humble obedience to God and worship Him, then extend that worship into service. That is it, just so simple. Judging is complex and we are not capable of understanding its complexity. The Word of God and the Holy Spirit speak for themselves and declare what is pleasing or displeasing to God. We should just follow that. Find it out and do it. Beyond that, we journey too far. God bless, my friend.😄❤

Griping Spirits

The longer I live and the closer I get to the Lord, the more sins He exposes in me so I can get them cleaned up and right/forgiven/confess/repent before I face Him in eternity. It is very kind of Him to show me the error of my ways. And it is humbling. For that I am thankful and truly feel loved. But I wanted to share in case anyone else needs help seeing it in themselves.

I always thought of myself as funny- don’t judge me lol. I also am thr most positive and optimistic person I know. However, in all my “funny”, I have a strong tendency to sarcasm, which is a disguised spirit of griping. Think about it. I have made almost a science of pointing out what was wrong in a flippant but real way and having fun at their expense. I have been a griper. “Venting” is another area I have been guilty of griping and criticising. And I was convicted how guilty I was. And I read in the Bible that God hates this practice. In fact, He had the ground swallow a good chunk of Israelites who were grumbling in the desert after being rescued from slavery in Egypt. That tells me grumbling is sin and is hated by God. And this makes sense because it is the opposite of thankfulness and praise.

So, I have had a major re-adjustment, yet another come to Jesus moment. And I am now working aggressively on a spirit of appreciation and praise, an obedience God will love in me, an act of worship to the precious God who made and saved me. And I am so very thankful to grow and change and see another fault within me to work on for God’s glory. Praise God!!!❤❤❤