Now, I believe friends should talk to each other. I mean true friends. God puts people together for such purposes… to share and help and encourage each other and worship God together. Now, how can that happen if communication is down or one sided? Truly, it cannot.
I was very surprised to learn some disturbing stuff a friend is going through. It seemed all was well. I am not sure if it was their being good at hiding or my complete inattention to details which would have signaled me (I seem doomed to some level of blindness) and my optimistic nature, but I am certain both of us were at fault and I am sorry for my part.
My first reaction was “Why on earth didn’t you tell me so I could have been praying for you?” Secondly, I could have helped or encouraged or something. Thirdly, didn’t you trust me? Now, that last one I readily admit is selfish. But I want you to see how we extroverts think. And I get that introverts hate being helped so loudly. I get that. I understand… most of my few friends are introverts. My mom is an introvert. I get it.
But the praying thing is spot on. If you are going through something, feel free to say, “Now don’t make a big, loud deal out of this, but I need to talk and I need prayers only.” And that is totally doable. That is conditional, sharing your feelings communication right there. See what beautiful things can happen when we are true friends and share the load and pray together. Amazing things!❤