A Study in Grief

I have been working with and dealing with the subject of grief. Yes, heavy subject, but my experience has taught me that running from something does not make it go away. It will follow you until you face it. So, toward that goal, I study it. I hope to get through it quicker. Lofty, yes. Optimistic, yes. I think we should always think this way. lol I understand this is a logical study and assessment. Emotionally, things feel heavy, different, horrible, changing, roller coaster like, etc. So, while going through it, focus is difficult, but focus is actually they key. What you focus on while you are grieving dictates the duration and depth of pain involved. If you focus on what you are missing, what you will not have, what you lost, what you have to enduring during the change and transition, it is more pain, harder, longer, uglier. And while that is a part of the process and we have to have moments of this as part of the healing and restoring of our broken hearts, we absolutely cannot continue to focus on these things. The focus that gets you through the fastest and decreases the heaviness is appreciation. Appreciation and thankfulness is the key. What God had blessed you with through this person, situation, whatever, and allowed you to have while they were in the picture. And focusing on thankfulness to God for allowing you to experience the good things, the blessings, which are always from Him. And later allows you to grow from it, yada yada. But this moment, while things are raw, while things are fresh and very very real, if you can focus on appreciation, and pray and tell God everything, you will start to gain an inkling of refreshment and comfort and every day will have easier moments in them. Just my thoughts…

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