Aware of the fact that my kids are very busy children and very active thinkers, I have been amiss in their upbringing as of late. The 9 year old male and the 4 year old female are quite different in some ways because of having different fathers and different life experiences (my son having survived a divorce) yet quite a bit alike both because of their common Mom and birthdays 2 weeks apart. Until today, wondering why the preschooler was acting out so much lately, I realized that I was giving more recognition and support to their similarities and not much to their differences. I will be working on that. In addition, I forgot my trick until today. The trick is to ignore the bad behavior (unless it is direct disobedience or a safety hazard) as much as possible and go over the top with praise and hugs and kisses when behavior is good. This reinforces what you want to happen and gives the kid attention when doing well and every preschooler wants/craves/needs attention. So, I have my work cut out for me and now all I need is more energy for all this extra work. 🙂 I guess we are all a work in progress.